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Mariya Khan

@ShaitaanKiKhala

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Posted: 11 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Nandiniraizaada
I don't think Rashid yes doing right. How does taking Dil to SM rectify things?
He is doing to Shireen what she did to Dil. Two wrongs do not make a right
And at the same time he is not at all bother about the feelings of his son.
Rashid IMO is a selfish charecter who is only bothered about himself and his perspective.

Forgiveness is a good thing, but did Rashid apologise? Is he trying to make it up for his son?
I don't think taking Dil to SM is making it up either, she won't be happy there. Soon Razia will make her aweful and that's not making it up at all

I agree Asad needs to forgive but forgive and move on not get entangled in it

agree with u nandini😃

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sheilasandhu

@sheilasandhu

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Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: Nandiniraizaada
I don't think Rashid yes doing right. How does taking Dil to SM rectify things?
He is doing to Shireen what she did to Dil. Two wrongs do not make a right
And at the same time he is not at all bother about the feelings of his son.
Rashid IMO is a selfish charecter who is only bothered about himself and his perspective.

Forgiveness is a good thing, but did Rashid apologise? Is he trying to make it up for his son?
I don't think taking Dil to SM is making it up either, she won't be happy there. Soon Razia will make her aweful and that's not making it up at all

I agree Asad needs to forgive but forgive and move on not get entangled in it

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gossipgirlxoxo

@gossipgirlxoxo

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Posted: 11 years ago

#23

I am keeping my promise :)

This is exactly my POV. A very well written piece indeed.

Rashid thinks that he is trying to make amends for the lost 17 years.

He is not choosing an easy path. He is trying to bring his whole family under one roof.

Legally and Islamically both are his wives. There are many families in Bhopal where both the wives and the siblings live together. If not like this , how will he start his redemption ? He has wronged Dilshad, Najma and Nuzhat no doubt . Their life was turned upside down because of him. Everybody should be given a chance to redeem themselves.

"It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom.

It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err."

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sheilasandhu

@sheilasandhu

Dazzler

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Posted: 11 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: gossipgirlxoxo
I am keeping my promise :)

This is exactly my POV. A very well written piece indeed.

Rashid thinks that he is trying to make amends for the lost 17 years.

He is not choosing an easy path. He is trying to bring his whole family under one roof.

Legally and Islamically both are his wives. There are many families in Bhopal where both the wives and the siblings live together. If not like this , how will he start his redemption ? He has wronged Dilshad, Najma and Nuzhat no doubt . Their life was turned upside down because of him. Everybody should be given a chance to redeem themselves.

"It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom.

It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err."

Legally and islamically Dilshad is not his wife. He did not provide for her in all ways within the legal islamic law and hence is automatically considered divorced. If i am not mistaken it is a 6 month grace period if the husband does not provide for the wife but it may differ in other countries. Definitely 17 years is not in the equation.

So he is wrong in both those aspects and if he really wanted to redeem himself he should have done what his son did. Take his love back after admitting he was wrong in front of the SM family and KV family maybe even call in the Quereshies so that no one can lift a finger and blame Dilshad in anyway including KALA jadoo.

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Nandini

@NandiniRaizadaa

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Posted: 11 years ago

#25

I understand what you are saying Amber but its too late to make amends sometimes

And is it not important to make amends to Asad too?

About living with two wife's I would rather refrain from commenting on that

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sheilasandhu

@sheilasandhu

Dazzler

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Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Just one example of why the marriage is null and void...

The Prohibition of the Oath of Desertion

One of the aspects of Islam's concern for the rights of women is that it prohibits a man to be so angry with his wife as to discontinue sexual relations with her for a period which she cannot bear. If this abandonment of sexual relations is accompanied by an oath on his part, he is given a limit of four months in which to calm down and revert to her. If he comes to his senses and resumes sexual relations before the expiration of the four months, it is possible that Allah may forgive him for his excess and open the door of repentance to him; however, he must still do the penance prescribed for a broken oath. If, on the other hand, this period expires and he has not returned to her, his wife is divorced from him as a just punishment for his neglect of her rights.

Some jurists hold that the divorce is automatic at the expiration of four months and that no judgement from a court is needed. Others, however, require that at the end of the period the matter should be referred to the judicial authority, who will then give them the option of reconciliation or divorce.

Such an oath of abstention from the wife is technically known in the Shari'ah as eela. Concerning it Allah Ta'ala says:

For those who take an oath of abstention from their wives, a waiting period of four months (is ordained); if they return, indeed, Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. But if their intention is firm for divorce, then, indeed, Allah is Hearing, Knowing. (2:226-227)

This period of four months has been specified to give the husband ample time to calm himself and to restore the relationship of his own volition. Moreover, four months is normally regarded as the maximum period a woman can endure separation from her husband. Commentators on the Qur'an narrate the following incident in support of this opinion: One night during his caliphate, while 'Umar was making a round of Madinah, he heard a woman singing, The night is long, the darkness all around me; I am sleepless, for I have no friend to play with. I swear by Allah that had there been no fear of Him, This cot would be shaking from side to side.

Upon investigation, 'Umar found that the woman's husband had been gone on a military expedition for a long time. He then asked his daughter Hafsah, the widow of the Prophet (peace be on him), "How long can a woman endure separation from her husband?" She replied, "Four months." Subsequently, the caliph of the Believers decided that he would not send a married man away from his wife for a period exceeding four months.

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gossipgirlxoxo

@gossipgirlxoxo

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Posted: 11 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: Nandiniraizaada
I understand what you are saying Amber but its too late to make amends sometimes

And is it not important to make amends to Asad too?

About living with two wife's I would rather refrain from commenting on that

Nandu , that is what Suman has brilliantly said that it should never be too late to make amends .

Asad is dragging his father , holding his collar .. which I guess sells big time on small screen , sadly people enjoy it a lot. Yes He needs to set it right for Asad also, which he did try in the past and will try again. It's Asad's call to forgive him or not . Asad has also done mistakes in the past for which he was forgiven.

1. He slapped Zoya without knowing the truth.

2. Blindly trusted Tanveer.

3. Loaned Zoya to SM. And If Zoya can forgive him for that , then ...

Asad was forgiven every time,

Rashid stood up for him, Let him take Zoya from SM .

So yes everybody should be given a chance at redemption.

Also we don't know Rashid's back story :)

Edited by gossipgirlxoxo - 11 years ago

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Nandini

@NandiniRaizadaa

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Posted: 11 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: gossipgirlxoxo
Nandu , that is what Suman has brilliantly said that it should never be too late to make amends .
Asad is dragging his father , holding his collar .. which I guess sells big time on small screen , sadly people enjoy it a lot. Yes He needs to set it right for Asad also, which he did try in the past and will try again. It's Asad's call to forgive him or not . Asad has also done mistakes in the past for which he was forgiven.

1. He slapped Zoya without knowing the truth.

2. Blindly trusted Tanveer.

3. Loaned Zoya to SM. And If Zoya can forgive him for that , then ...

Asad was forgiven every time,

Rashid stood up for him, Let him take Zoya from SM .

So yes everybody should be given a chance at redemption.