Originally posted by: misst
Delena90, I have gone through a lot of posts of yours and you always made sense, this post also makes a lot of sense but I have a slight difference of opinion. I totally get what you mean and you are right there, unfortunately in the real world in a country like India a woman need to think twice before she takes any step in her life, so your concern about sending out the message is right.
My difference of opinion is that, asking a woman to be careful and to avoid going out alone is as good as saying a woman not to wear 'provocative' dresses inorder to not get sexually harassed. Do you agree with the point that a woman should be careful in what she wears? if yes then I am okay with whatever you wrote in this post.
I felt that the writers wanted to send a message that a woman need to have all the freedom equally as men have, her freedom and desires shouldn't be suppressed just because one thing ie, she is a woman.
If a man wanted to go out in the mid night on on strike day in a forested road, he would go without any fear, then why not a woman? isn't that gender discrimination? for me it is. Unfortunately the writers failed to convey it in a better way, it would be better if she had gone out to watch cricket rather than Mr.Dhoni, it would be better if she or Dilshad had spoken patiently with Asad rather than making it a stupid ego clash(which once again was not conveyed properly), it would be better if she had spoken the words similar to those which she is going to speak while slapping that creep, while explaining Asad.
I find fault in only 2 things, 1) the reason to go out is a celebrity which is a bad passion.
2) the bad very bad screenplay and dialogues.
I am totally fine with the idea of Zoya going out alone on the strike day, because there is a need of a atmosphere where a woman need not worry to go out in any time of the day, any corner of the world. These small small advises that woman need to be smart and careful not to be alone are actually restrictions which we fail to understand, these unnoticed restrictions grow and slowly become a pile of restrictions which we willingly accept because we convince ourselves that being a woman it is my responsibility.
Just imagine if Zoya wasn't as rich as she is now, didn't have a fiance like Asad who owns a car, and her mother was seriously ill and had to take medication, but there is a strike, no trace of humans on the road and it's midnight, a stranger offers her lift, what would you suggest her to do? Sit at home as it is not advisable for a woman to go out in such situation??
There are all chances of her getting raped there, because the rapist doesn't know whether her mother is sick so she is out or she has come to meet a celebrity so she is out, all he knows is if a woman is walking alone in the midnight she is not careful enough and I have all the rights to rape her as she herself is inviting it on her!
That's why I am against the idea of such 'advises' to women not to do this and do that, because men take advantage of that, we women ourselves make them believe that you can do anything if I am not following such and such code of conduct. Men need to be thought that woman should be respected without any restrictions and conditions.
Hope you get my point. Nothing to offend you, this is just what I feel and believe.
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