Originally posted by: AshRun
Reserved lol I will be right back to reply properly. Great and much needed post!!
Ok so being an NRI, I feel really irritated and offended when he generalizes and says that ALL girls who were born and raised in the west have no regard for cultural traditions.I was born and raised in America, but I went to school in India for 4 years, and you might think I am bragging, but honestly, I am a LOT more cultured than some of my classmates were in India.I respect and follow the cultural and religious customs that they used to ridicule themselves and not follow.
Showing Asad to be religious and conservative is different thing, but he doesn't have the right to make assumptions about people especially since the Khans have not been shown to have any relatives from America. It's one thing if he has had interactions with like 100 NRI girls who betrayed him and gave him that impression, but just speaking whatever the hell he speaks like is dumb. You're right, in real life girls don't get saved like that.They are scarred for life, I can say that because I've been abused,not raped but I know the feeling of being taken for granted by idiotic men. As for Gul, history is repeating itself!! It's okay for her to show the girl getting abused and then loved by the same man in all 3 of her shows.So I guess that's her style of presenting love stories. My idea of a love story is completely different, but I do enjoy her stories in the beginning. However, she over does it during the phase when the guy and girl don't get along. The girl quietly endures evrything while the guy insults her either for being poor (yes, believe it or not) or for being uncultured and mannerless in this case.
In my eyes the highlighted red part is the issue with Asad. Its the mentality that girls who wear jeans or short clothes, who are modern, are not cultural, or are not religious are character less. That is the issue with Asad. Just because someone ridiculed and did not follow their religion does not mean they are bad people. Hinduism fascinates me but only as mythology, I cannot in my right mind truly believe it as a fact. And I have sometimes ridiculed some of things about Christianity, roman mythology and even hindiusm, but that doesnt mean anything. Being religious and cultural does not somehow automatically give someone a higher ground than someone who isnt.
Anyways, I grew up in Mumbai...lived there for 12 years. I liked playing holi and diwali and I sometimes went to poojas but that was the extent of my culture/ religion. So when I moved to America the fact that there was so much less indian culture around me just influenced me to become less and less cultural/religious. And now I find that I am not very traditional and certainly not religious (that isnt all my fault though..my parents never made me participate in anything religious or cultural if I didnt want to). I also wear shorts/tank tops etc etc, but all that doesnt make me "loose" or character less. I still have my principles, my own morals. Thats what disgusting men like Asad never understand... that women who are not religious can have even more dignity, morals, and self-respect than the so called adharsh girl who is cultural and religious, who never speaks in front of elders or raises her voice. Btw, I know many girls here who claim to be religious (deeply) and cultural yet they go out and drink and hook up with men and do drugs as well. And I dont judge them for their lifestyles...they can live their life exactly the way they see fit. The only thing that I dont like is the hypocrisy. Be what you are (if you arent religious then why pretend?) And anyways if culture and religion mean such things to these girls, then who is Asad to say that a noncultural woman like me is without tehzeeb, while these girls do have tehzeeb? Who on earth made him the judge???
And I agree Zoya is a bit crazy. I would never behave the way she has that too in someone else's house, but Asad still had no right to set up a meeting. Firstly, he pried into his guests personal life and also he pried into his employee's life. An employer's job is not to regulate his employee's personal life...its to monitor his employee's work.
Bringing up Zoya's parents...that was awful. I was truly disgusted at that moment because I thought well what about your parents...how did your mother raise you Asad. Did she raise you to speak to women like that, to judge women like that, to call women degrading names??
The problem with Asad is that he has no tehzeeb which he keeps spouting to Zoya all the time like a broken record. If I was a guest in a man like Asad's house then I would leave that instant and never return. My pride would never allow me to remain in such a man's house who has insulted me so deeply. I would rather live in a third class hotel. Heck, I have broken friendships for less. So Asad's behavior is absolutely unforgivable in my eyes.
What baffles me is that Asad has such an elegant, well rounded, understanding, kind mother. How could he end up the way he did? Regressive, backward, control freak??
And yes he is regressive. I tried giving the character Asad a lot of time because I have been feeling like this since the beginning, but IF members said give him time. And now its been what 1 or 2 months and my opinion has just worsened.
Edited by ---Nisha--- - 12 years ago
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