A Learning Experience - Page 2

Originally posted by: Roohasamia

Calling husband by name is a matter of religion only but many people have made it a matter of personnel choice.
Its not allowed in our religion islam..there are many reference to this.
Hudband's level is very very high in islam..so who have such a high status we dont call them by name.

Its a matter of respect which husband and wife holds for each other.
If you call your husband/wife by names that does not mean disrespect for him/her.
Different madhav of islam has different opinion about it.
I won't mind if my future wife call me by name.
If i will be able to call her by name why not she.
Its your personal choice how you want to see this matter.

Originally posted by: laizu

ShahJalal and ShahParan are also two famous Dargahs of Bangladesh. I know this as I am also from Bangladesh.

One of my bangladeshi friend told me about this two dargah.
I wish to visit them in future.
Furfura sharif is the most famous dargah for bengali muslim of west bengal.

Originally posted by: mijanur

Its a matter of respect which husband and wife holds for each other.
If you call your husband/wife by names that does not mean disrespect for him/her.
Different madhav of islam has different opinion about it.
I won't mind if my future wife call me by name.
If i will be able to call her by name why not she.
Its your personal choice how you want to see this matter.

Yes thats right even i agree at that point but however all these are not our personnel choice we are bound to our religion.if my husband is displeased me of taking his name i am not allowed then according to islam even if i want to call him by name and i knw my intension is not to disrespect him

Originally posted by: mijanur

Calling your husband/wife by name or not has nothing to do with religion.
Its a matter of personal choice.

Secondly it is dargah not durga.
Durga is a hindu godess.
And dargah are usally build on tomb of muslim sufi saint.
So pleas don't mix up two things.
It can lead confusion.
There has many school of thought of islam.
They have differ on many things.
Personally i think you can visit dargah to show your respect to sufi saint and can pray for their soule to allah.
But you should never pray for yourself in dargah.
You should ask anything from allah directly.
Going dargah/mazar/darbar is a cultural thing for muslims of indian sub continent.
Asha kari tumi qh bhalo kore enjoy korbe and onek kichu samparke janbe.

Thanks alot people do not understand sufis
This is what I wrote on another post

With all due respect
As a Sufi I do not think ur understanding the Babas ( we do not call them saints) Sufism is more about the love of God That you can achieve with humanity and praying to God.Learn how to give up things we want
Learn not judge and just find a way to God
Babas help us gain the knowledge to understand how to find God
We respect there teaching as Sufis and honor them
Alot of the 500 year Sufis are like lawyers to God.
Because they received what we call enlightenment.
That's why we're encouraged to pray, fast and not Fear but love God
This is how punjabi Sufis view God. People worry so much about going to heaven but forget true knowledge that Allah has.

We also are strongly encouraged study other religions and understand how we view God from our views .
The problem is in sum parts of India and Pakistan people take the Babas as Gods Thats a big No , also the magic part is NO


Lastly 1. It's between u and God 2.God is forgiving 3.There is no right path to God. 4.Love God's people 5. Learn to have some patience
This is what Sufism has taught me and I'm still learning
Sorry this was bugging me had to say

Originally posted by: Roohasamia

Yes thats right even i agree at that point but however all these are not our personnel choice we are bound to our religion.if my husband is displeased me of taking his name i am not allowed then according to islam even if i want to call him by name and i knw my intension is not to disrespect him

See it is matter of how you want to see.
Some husband may feel displeased.
But in this era majority of husband are cool with it.

Originally posted by: cocojatti92

Thanks alot people do not understand sufis
This is what I wrote on another post

With all due respect
As a Sufi I do not think ur understanding the Babas ( we do not call them saints) Sufism is more about the love of God That you can achieve with humanity and praying to God.Learn how to give up things we want
Learn not judge and just find a way to God
Babas help us gain the knowledge to understand how to find God
We respect there teaching as Sufis and honor them
Alot of the 500 year Sufis are like lawyers to God.
Because they received what we call enlightenment.
That's why we're encouraged to pray, fast and not Fear but love God
This is how punjabi Sufis view God. People worry so much about going to heaven but forget true knowledge that Allah has.

We also are strongly encouraged study other religions and understand how we view God from our views .
The problem is in sum parts of India and Pakistan people take the Babas as Gods Thats a big No , also the magic part is NO


Lastly 1. It's between u and God 2.God is forgiving 3.There is no right path to God. 4.Love God's people 5. Learn to have some patience
This is what Sufism has taught me and I'm still learning
Sorry this was bugging me had to say

I also call them baba in my native bengali language.
But call them saint in english.
I have high respect for sufis.
They were very pious person.
I am belong to barelvi sect of sunni islam.
Barelvies has high respect for sufies.
We are havily influenced by sufism.
You right for some people mistake many people misunderstand sufism.
I also went to mazar/dargah few times as i have high respect for sufi.
I prayed for their soul to allah.
So pleas don't misunderstand me.
I have high respect for sufi.
I also admire sufism.

Originally posted by: mijanur

I also call them baba in my native bengali language.
But call them saint in english.
I have high respect for sufis.
They were very pious person.
I am belong to barelvi sect of sunni islam.
Barelvies has high respect for sufies.
We are havily influenced by sufism.
You right for some people mistake many people misunderstand sufism.
I also went to mazar/dargah few times as i have high respect for sufi.
I prayed for their soul to allah.
So pleas don't misunderstand me.
I have high respect for sufi.
I also admire sufism.

Ooo ur misunderstand I wrote this in another post
So I just copy and paste :/
I'm Sunni but punjabis came into Islam because of Sufism
I because a full Sufi because of there ideas
We r a mix of Sunni and Sufi :)

Originally posted by: cocojatti92

Ooo ur not misunderstand I wrote this in another post
So I just copy and paste :/
I'm Sunni but punjabis came into Islam because of Sufism
I because a full Sufi because of there ideas
We r a mix of Sunni and Sufi :)

thanks.
Barelvies are also mix of sunni and sufi.
So we both have similiratiy in our idology.
Not only pakistani punjab.
Sufism is the biggest reason why islam is spread in india,pakistan,bangladesh,indoneshia.

Originally posted by: mijanur

thanks.
Barelvies are also mix of sunni and sufi.
So we both have similiratiy in our idology.
Not only pakistani punjab.
Sufism is the biggest reason why islam is spread in india,pakistan,bangladesh,indoneshia.

Yup yup
Lets not forget Turkey and China :)
I Honestly hate when people say that we were weak Thats why we converted and because fear of death .
Not true at all
Sufism is amazing it teaches us to be humanist.