LOVE is a hard word to say - Page 3

Originally posted by: shesherkobita

exactly... there is a culture of gifts that wasn't so prominent before... atleast you got dresses...my husband simply gave up cos he doesn't understand my choices (which are very tacky & inexpensive)... I don't know the Hi-fi society at all... I am very middle-class and this one-up & showing off ...seems to be more common in all tiers of life...

Originally posted by: slmu

Your daughter is sure learning the right stuff AK.. how old is she??

Originally posted by: SAYAN18

She is doing her graduation in English literature. This is third year.

Since childhood, she is more attached to me than to her mother.

Children has the special gift to ask about any thing - why ?

once answered, again why ? why ? Why ? why ? etc.

After 4-5 why, she used to get a slap at her cheeks from her mother.

But I never did that because , once upon a time, I was a child also.

After 4-5 why, I used to surrender telling - " My knowledge is limited to this, now u think what the answer should be."

Originally posted by: shesherkobita

Shanthi..Anu..AK...so glad you are taking part in this cathartic discussion... Have you guys read Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri or seen the movie? I highly recommend it...

I get confused easily since I live so far away from my original home... In the last few years all the weddings (subcontinental) I have attended have been between girls from our countries with Americans (NOT South East Asian guys from the subcontinent) ... there is a trend to snub Desi guys completely... Now I am not part of a huge desi community here...and I don't see anything wrong in the intercultural interracial inter-religious marriages... I am just curious why that shift is taking place...

Wonder if it's hard for the Desi guys to keep up with the new materialistic "one-up" trend OR is it the "get married to the whole family" in Indian culture they do not like OR just plain the stereotype of the Asian dominating male they want to avoid ... I don't know...maybe it's just LOVE ...who knows... but it's an interesting trend to watch🤓

i don't know how I came to this from the PKDH Lau discussion... oh..bcos I watch Indian serial kind of to keep in touch with my roots and I am quite confused by what I see... okay I'll end my rambling here...

Originally posted by: slmu

I have read "Namesake".. it was wonderful.. such a wonderful write up of the confusion..

Don't know about girls growing up overseas.. but my relatives in India say girls have become demanding.. they specify how much salary the groom has to earn and that is only one of them.. they apparently reject guys for absolutely no reason.

Originally posted by: shesherkobita

So very interesting... here we are watching all these Serial bahu's trying to appease their Mother in Law... Pankhu turned into an event manager from an Architect😲 and there is a quiet revolution going on... whether it's good or bad dont know...😆... only time will tell...

So glad you read Namesake...now you know why I LAU you🤣 please do pm me when you write a new POST 🤗

Originally posted by: slmu

interesting.. so the younger generation spends a lot on gifts??? I've never had a spontaneous gift in my life.. its always been choose something.. should I be jealous of the younger generation or glad that I don't end up with stuff I don't want??

Originally posted by: slmu

@bold...dats true...Indian girls are now more practical...Majority wont fall 4 a person who doesnt hav a gud job or from a low financial background...