A Different Perspective? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Abie10

That was my main issue,why dint she think of her upbringing first? Gayu have always supported yash knowing that he will always take the right decision. Where was all the trust then? From a viewers POV wont I see her in a different view that her blood is overshadowing her 30yrs upbringing.

Edit: I think this the first time u replied to my post even when It's not DC thanks it means alot..

Gayatri never faults her own upbringing! That is part of her character and always has been. Remember how proud she was when Yash defended Palak and Payal's parvarish against Aarti's questioning? Where was her trust? She got emotional seeing Akash bleeding and that was her first thought... to protect him. I don't think her blood is overshadowing her love for Yash, it is the fact that Akash has been deprived of the upbringing that Yash had. So the question to me is more about upbringing than blood.

Really? The first time? 😛 That was totally unintentional. I think we must be online at different times.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@bold: But that is just it, what choice did she have? Akash was not going to stay unless all his demands were met. He was not in a rational mood to negotiate because for him it's all or nothing and he made that very clear to her. She made a decision on the spur of the moment, based on what she knew, because someone had to take decisive action. She knew she couldn't let Akash leave or it would do irrevocable damage to the sensitive thread that connected them now. With Yash, she knows their relationship can withstand such a sacrifice, like you said.

Gayatri could hv handled the decision in a more matured way like mayb asking SP to accept AKash as a son and give him the legitimate rights and his share in business ... but Yash is the one who got Akash home today and so in return Yash has his rights in this house too ... mayb equally distribute the rights 🤔

Great post samana ! No matter what it is still hard for me to accept G3's actions :| Humiliate one son just to fulfill another son's demands is just unforgivable for me ... =|

Originally posted by: jyoti06

Gayatri could hv handled the decision in a more matured way like mayb asking SP to accept AKash as a son and give him the legitimate rights and his share in business ... but Yash is the one who got Akash home today and so in return Yash has his rights in this house too ... mayb equally distribute the rights 🤔

*Sigh* I don't think anyone knows better than Gayatri what she can and cannot do with regards to SP. If she had tried to broach the subject with him at all he would have come out and said I don't care, let him leave! Because that is what SP wants and it was probably all it would take to send Akash packing anyway. So Gayatri would have achieved nothing by appealing to SP. And if she had favoured Yash even a little, it would have left Akash room to question her about favouritism.

I dunno, I agree she didn't handle the situation brilliantly, but I can't seem to think of a better way of doing it either given that she had no idea that Akash and Ishita were faking.

Originally posted by: -MaanKiThush-

Great post samana ! No matter what it is still hard for me to accept G3's actions :| Humiliate one son just to fulfill another son's demands is just unforgivable for me ... =|

The way I see it, it's not "just to fulfill his demands." Fulfilling his demands itself is a means to a greater end, that is, integrating him into the family. I would say that she is hoping that when Akash realises that he is getting his fair share, he might feel inspired to give in return. She realises that it is not for her to decide what is fair for Akash, because whatever she thinks, he is only going to respond when he thinks it's fair.

Samana, great post. I like your comparison of Aarti and Palak, Ansh situation with Gayatri & Yash and Akash.

I do understand about the dilemma Gayatri is under, but in her hurry to make up for 30 years to Akash, she is damaging her attachment, respect, and love of 30 years for Yash in a rush with her anger, shouting, and name calling. No matter how much faith Yash has in her , does she really think that Yash will be able to recover from all the humiliation and pain she is causing him right now. Doesn't she know that Yash also just found out about his illegitimacy and is also very vulnerable??

This is where I have a problem with Gayatri.

Samana- as much as I agree with ur thoughts about gayatri, some of her words have been plain hurtful and unnecessary! For instance, she needn't have pointed out To yash that she had brought him up with love, and here he was, spilling the blood of "her" family! I can empathize with gayatri on the other points may be, but not this one! Yes, it was said in the heat of the moment, but ppl tend to speak what is in their heart in anger...If Gayatri genuinely wasn't preferring her own blood over Yash, she wouldn't have said that, no matter how angry she was. I am not saying, she is doing it deliberately to hurt Yash...she wouldn't think of that! In fact, she feels guilty the moment she says it, but she says it all the same.and that is my point!

I feel bad for Yash but yes even more than that I truely do feel terrible for G3 , it has to be killing her to actually take sides between Yash and Aakash .

@padamvar and Ria: Thanks for your replies.

I guess the point I am trying to make here is not so much that Gayatri is faultless but that she is doing the best she can with what she knows. There are certain weaknesses in her character to be sure, the most prominent being that she speaks before she thinks and she speaks venomously enough to burn bridges without really considering the implications of her words on the present situation. Her mind is operating on two levels here, one is stuck in the past, thirty years ago where she has been transported by the revelation of this truth. She just found out what SP and Radha did so on one level, when she talks about her blood and her baby, she is picturing two actual babies, rather than a grown Yash and Akash. On the other hand, she is in the present and is aware of what has happened in the last thirty years, the most important thing being her relationship with Yash. In a way, it is as though Akash is that baby but Yash is the thirty year old man in all this confusion which is where most of the injustice of her acts come from. She simply doesn't know yet how to accept Akash-the-adult as a son.

The blood thing is something we are going to have to agree to disagree on because for me, that only goes so far as to explain why she is trying so hard with Akash... he was deprived of what he should have had. I don't think she resents Yash getting it in his place. When she stressed to Yash that she had lovingly brought him up, she was telling him to be a bigger man than Akash, who, in her eyes, has an excuse to behave the way he does having been deprived of her upbringing.

So if I say I can't fault Gayatri, it's not because I don't see all the things she is doing wrong, but because I can see how hard she is trying even though she is nowhere at fault as opposed to SP and Radha who come off looking almost innocent simply because they are choosing to keep quiet and do nothing about the situation they created. It would be a jarring character inconsistency if Gayatri was suddenly very fair and calm in this situation, when she has always been an emotional, bitter-tongued woman, who nonetheless loves from her heart. So is she doing the perfect job? Of course not! But is she doing the best she can when nobody else is willing to step up? Yes, and that is why I am with her on this.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@padamvar and Ria: Thanks for your replies.

I guess the point I am trying to make here is not so much that Gayatri is faultless but that she is doing the best she can with what she knows. There are certain weaknesses in her character to be sure, the most prominent being that she speaks before she thinks and she speaks venomously enough to burn bridges without really considering the implications of her words on the present situation. Her mind is operating on two levels here, one is stuck in the past, thirty years ago where she has been transported by the revelation of this truth. She just found out what SP and Radha did so on one level, when she talks about her blood and her baby, she is picturing two actual babies, rather than a grown Yash and Akash. On the other hand, she is in the present and is aware of what has happened in the last thirty years, the most important thing being her relationship with Yash. In a way, it is as though Akash is that baby but Yash is the thirty year old man in all this confusion which is where most of the injustice of her acts come from. She simply doesn't know yet how to accept Akash-the-adult as a son.

The blood thing is something we are going to have to agree to disagree on because for me, that only goes so far as to explain why she is trying so hard with Akash... he was deprived of what he should have had. I don't think she resents Yash getting it in his place. When she stressed to Yash that she had lovingly brought him up, she was telling him to be a bigger man than Akash, who, in her eyes, has an excuse to behave the way he does having been deprived of her upbringing.

So if I say I can't fault Gayatri, it's not because I don't see all the things she is doing wrong, but because I can see how hard she is trying even though she is nowhere at fault as opposed to SP and Radha who come off looking almost innocent simply because they are choosing to keep quiet and do nothing about the situation they created. It would be a jarring character inconsistency if Gayatri was suddenly very fair and calm in this situation, when she has always been an emotional, bitter-tongued woman, who nonetheless loves from her heart. So is she doing the perfect job? Of course not! But is she doing the best she can when nobody else is willing to step up? Yes, and that is why I am with her on this.