Mittals r orthodox & backward ??? - Page 3

When my grand parents were alive my mom used to put the ghunghat and also in front of those who are elder to my father...So basically its just in front of elders...Even Aarti does that in front of her in laws...not a big deal...According to me that cannot be termed as orthodox...It was the comment which Gayatri passed when Aarti wore heels...tum yash se ooncha dikhna chahti ho...that dialogue pissed me off big time😡

Originally posted by: aditibd

i know this tradition is alive in many states. i am not saying that they r showing unrealistic things. and this is not abt metro cities & small towns. this is abt women or i can say human rights. my question is do u like to take pallu on head in future also??? & u also find this custom is right and nothing is wrong abt it???? if that so then u r gr8888 hat's off to u... 👏

Originally posted by: bbbccc

Like I said I go for less than two weeks in two years, why I should create havoc in my life for my otherwise peaceful life.

I mean others are doing and have been doing without complain, what will I try to prove by fighting here. This is what we call adjustment in marriages.

I fight where it affects me or my family's life to greater extent and not on every trivial issues..😃

Originally posted by: adigaag

When my grand parents were alive my mom used to put the ghunghat and also in front of those who are elder to my father...So basically its just in front of elders...Even Aarti does that in front of her in laws...not a big deal...According to me that cannot be termed as orthodox...It was the comment which Gayatri passed when Aarti wore heels...tum yash se ooncha dikhna chahti ho...that dialogue pissed me off big time😡

Originally posted by: aditibd

ARE BUT THIS IS BCS U DON'T HAVE OPTION BT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THIS CUSTOM IS RIGHT NA???? WHAT U THINK???? R U DOING THIS HAPPILY OR 4 D SAKE OF ELDERS DEMAND????

Originally posted by: Charishma

Its a simple issue really: Why kick up a storm about something that you really couldn't care less about?? Its not about satisfying someone's 'demand'. Its about satisfying the wishes of someone older (and dear) to you. When my mom asks me to go with her to a pooja, I say yes (often after cringing, because I often find these functions to be more of a gossip session and fashion show, than anything really important 😆). But why do I say yes? To make her happy (and get her off my back⭐️).
Everyone has an option. But that doesn't mean you choose to deny everything that everyone ever requests of you, simply because you do not like it. That's a little selfish, don't you think? If you're slightest action, or a couple hours of your time, makes someone satisfied, why not?

Originally posted by: Charishma

Okay, I defer on the argument that covering your head is regressive and disrespectful. Fact, is there are plenty of customs (both religious and cultural), that lead an individual to covering their head, whether they are a man or a woman. But I do agree that when it comes to women, it seems a little, forced at times.
But, PV is a different situation😊. Its cultural here. It's something that the elders enforce, and everyone follows, simply because it makes the elders happy.
Its a simple issue really: Why kick up a storm about something that you really couldn't care less about?? Its not about satisfying someone's 'demand'. Its about satisfying the wishes of someone older (and dear) to you. When my mom asks me to go with her to a pooja, I say yes (often after cringing, because I often find these functions to be more of a gossip session and fashion show, than anything really important 😆). But why do I say yes? To make her happy (and get her off my back⭐️).
Everyone has an option. But that doesn't mean you choose to deny everything that everyone ever requests of you, simply because you do not like it. That's a little selfish, don't you think? If you're slightest action, or a couple hours of your time, makes someone satisfied, why not?

Even on this show, Aarti often gives in to Ansh's demands. A lot of people criticize her for being too indulgent, and say, 'who's the parent here?". But, at the end of the day, Aarti assesses the situation, and makes a judgement call: Listening to her son will not make him a bad human being. Giving weight and importance to a growing person's thoughts and feelings is important. As long as she doesn't see anything harmful stemming from his request, she says yes.

Sorry, i don't mean to offend. But I didn't like your comment about ghunghat's being 'wrong'. They might not be progressive, and it (the covering of a woman's head) can be used as a tool to oppress women. But sometimes its better to look at each individual circumstance first, before painting all scenarios with the same brush. I don't think is precisely 'wrong' here. It seems more trivial than anything else. And I think that's how Pari and Aarti view it too.

Originally posted by: adigaag

that was brilliantly written...I don't see why make a mountain out of a mole hill when it just means respecting elders and its not a difficult task as well...I'm not married but I wouldn't mind doing that...

@bold I so agree with you on that

Originally posted by: besame

I agree with your point...however, I don't think there is anything wrong with traditional pallus and stuff. Modernization doesn't mean that we disregard traditions and dress modern etc. Modernization is about the way you think and what you consider right or wrong. I personally didn't find anything wrong with them changing Aarti's name to Arpita, a lot of families do it...however, it was wrong since Yash had sentiments attached to that and they should have taken his and Aarti's feelings into consideration as well. But there is nothing wrong with following some traditions at all. I don't think wearing mini-skirts or short dresses is considered modern at all. Modernization is shown in a way Aarti speaks her mind and how her views are not typical. If she has her pallu on her head but her thinking is that of an independent woman who can speak her mind, then that is modern. Also punar vivah in itself is a modern concept...a lot of families wont even think about getting a widow/divorced woman remarried and also a lot wont accept such woman as a daughter in law either.