Superb Questions by Krishna - Page 5

Originally posted by: lighthousepier

Great post Kool!!

I completely agree. Marriage is a commitment and a promise. It is not a game or a teaching opportunity or an audition - it is a decision to form a partnership and build a life together - its almost irrelevant what circumstances (arranged, love) led to the decision being made. How can you trust a woman who basically lied when she made her wedding vows?

If you need more information before committing yourself (which includes commiting your body) - wait until you have the information/frienship you desire before agreeing to get married.

If this was real life (and such a saintly, patient man existed) - this is how it would end up when they finally consumated their marriage - their relationship would be in shambles because of the insanity and frustration of sleeping side by side (yes - increased resentment and lack of trust - not improved relationship) and he would be disappointed because it wasn't really worth the wait and trouble

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

But they r not so bad Niki . They have a capacity to love deeply and commit to u more than the parents u left behind even . Their psyche is such .......what will u do ? Were our grandmothers stupid that they constantly advised us to give it some time ? Today we call them old fashioned , actually they were experienced . Look , a lion will always be a lion , he cannot be expected to be like a deer or a rabbit . They are physically , pscychogically diffrent creatures than US . Why hold it so much against them that they have physical needs perhaps stronger than women ? Thats the way they r . Frankly Niki I feel women like Pratigya and Varsha want everything on their terms and conditions ALL the time . They set out , not to REFORM a man but to EMASCULATE him and do not adjust on ANY level themselves .............and Im NOT talking of adjusttment with sasural people here , Im talking of adjustment in the inter personal relationship . For instance < I see Pratigya as having a horror for the ACT itself , its not just Krishna , as Hope rightly said .

Originally posted by: stillhopeful

honey they are neither. your hopes of such consideration are normal because you are thinking of it from the girls' point of view. Maybe. Now even I'm getting confused.😕 Okay, maybe it is normal to expect, but if it doesn't happen that way in life, one shouldn't crib or cry or DEMAND the space, knowing that this will only ruin the relationship. One should go with the flow, and hopefully the emotional commitment will follow. (I hope I've balanced it somehow.)

this is why women like men who have sisters as opposed to men who have only brothers. boys with sisters are more considerate of feminine concerns and emotions because they have had to be all the years they are growing up. boys who have only brothers and no sisters cannot be expected to demonstrate the same consideration as the experience is alien to them Agree with you on this one. You can actually expect them to be more considerate.

In krishna's case he has komal but she has not been brought up as a girl rather she has had to live as a tom boy to survive in a very male and chauvinistic household so she exerts no feminine influence on Krishna's thinking so keeping that perspective in mind we have to treat him as a boy who has never had any sisters and so Pratigya's and Arushi's behaviour and perspectives are alien and irrational TO HIM. I think that even then he has been very considerate. Very sweet of him. And his question was so innocent it touched my heart. (BTW, he has a friend whose name is 'TUNNA'????"😆

Originally posted by: unknown18

Kool, to b honest, I got scared by reading one post nd then felt better after reading the next one nd this cycle continued😆 (U know I m a bit scared of marriage😳 There r so many other things that I worry abt that physical relationship, which is also very important, is not my priority in the list of worries😆) Obviously there r many ppl here who hav so much experience than the young ones like I nd Niki (dont know others here😳) I dont hav any experience in this so I cannot contribute much. So I m reading nd trying to understand the issue nd also myself😆😳 Obviously I think abt this nd think I will do this or that or how the guy will behave.

This is what I posted in PR thread.

I m not getting married right now so I dont hav to think abt this right now. I wud want a longer engagement period so that I can get to know the guy better nd start to fall in love. We do hav long engagements in our family. Lets see what I will get. Differs in every case.