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I can empathise with your perspective about the husband slap.
however, she insulted him in public, he slapped her in public. fine. he was reacting. it was not something he planned from the minute she came in the room.
later he apologized in public. that impacted his ego and public image (which believe me is very necessary for him becasue without esucation the image of force and strength is necessary for his livelihood). he needed to because he had slapped her. fine he did it. then what.
lets' place ourselves in this situation. we are educated. we are worldly. we are married. if my husband slapped me. i would got upset. mad in fact. he came and apologized. what would be the next step? either working on a reconciliation or applying for divorce.
depending on your tolerance level you would pick either one. why did she not? seperation does not work and definitely not when lines of communication are closed forever. because then you have an impasse. and my friend, an impasse in marriage is more frustrating for men than women because Men do not typically possess the necessary mental fortitude to deal with dramatics and histerics. men react with visible forms of rebellion, i.e anger, passion, aggression. women are different types of creatures. when we are hurt we withdraw internally and react with strategy and other forms of subtle rebellion i.e. cold shoulder treatment,e tc. both reacted predicatably.
my question is this:
when he had to apologize
the ball was in his court.he apologized. then what,
the ball went in her court. what happens when u hold the ball for so long. timeout. game restarts. different set of rules because obviously you did not understand or appreciate the last ones. this is life. this is the worldly version of fair play. we see this logic applied in our lives, our sports, our politics, etc. lets be realistic here.
the girl has a gigantic chip on her shoulder, her so called self respect is not a matter of principles but a matter of defiance. her sense of logic and self preservation has deserted her in the last few days, in my opinion.
the way I see it. she has gone parasailing (marriage) in extremely stormy waters (singh household) with no parachute (strategy or plan) just a hope (her idealistic mission) and a prayer and the mental and emotional support of her family from ashore. Would you or I or any sensible person do that? when you get whipped int he face by the raging winds, you wait for the storm to pass and then get down to earth. our girl is still parasailing and she still does not have a parachute just a hope and a prayer. 😃😃😃
would you or I do that?
Well - I guess I will agree to disagree 😊 !! As a parent and as a wife, I would not be able to justify Krishna's behavior. Now, because I am watching the serial from an outsider's POV, I can understand that Krishna does not know how to express his love and can understand his frustration!!!! But being a woman, I can completely understand Pratigya's POV too!!! I enjoyed the discussion that I had with you, but I think I am in a different age bracket than you and that seems to be why I am seeing things from a different perspective!!! Looking forward to more discussions such as this one!!!
Cricket
