Ladies, How do you define your identity?

Is it through your husband's identity? Or is through your job? Or is through your values? ... or what?

Shouldn't your identity be you as an individual - your qualities and achievements

How about if you have no achievements? None whatsoever?

Every person's identity defination changes with time and circumstances...when we are child we are idnetified with the identity our parents has given us...we are this and this couple's child

I guess its a mix of personality and values, achievements can be big or small, I doubt that nobody has zero achievements it just depends what you think of as an achievement as to someone else who thinks its nothing.

I believe it is values. They eventually become ones identity.

LOL..why r u asking this?...in general as a human being only 😛...

I would like to be defined by my qualities both good and bad as well as achievements and failures.
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Something I heard my father say long time back when he came to visit me in my college. Since nobody knew who he was he was simply referred to as so and so's father and it made him very happy and proud to be simply known as my father.
When I heard that it made me happy that I managed to make my father proud to be referred as just my father.

When there is love in that relationship and pride in your loved one I don't think it would matter if you are just referred to as somebody's wife.

First your identity comes thru your parents nd over the years you will try to improvise yourself,learn from your mistakes and become a better person .

I think that our identity changes with time and place - like in childhood we are known as so and so's daughter, then as a student of so and so school- [a part of any sports team - a good singer/dancer/debater etc. if we are good in these activities], in workplace by the job profile/post and at least for some time after marriage - as wife of so and so (even well qualified working ladies are known as Mrs. so and so in their new home). If a lady is not working, still she may have her own identity in the form of some special qualities and values etc. but generally people define your identity with either your job or your parentage/husband.