Leaves,
They have shown changes in two characters - Dadisa and Anandi. One can say that they have changed their characterizations. But to me it seems as if the changes in both are gradual and can be considered logical.
Dadisa
Dadisa is a principled person and always had a lot of strength and guts. She ruled the family with her iron fist. She was a person who believed in old traditions and protected them with ferocity. Basant was her obedient son and Bhairav (the one who takes after her) the rebellious one. Sumitra of course is one of wishy washy personality and hence looked up to Dadisa while Gehna rebelled. Because of circumstances and events, eventually Dadisa realized her mistakes and evolved with time more than any other members of her family (except Bhairav who was always very open minded).
But the old age and return of Jagya and his redemption has mellowed her. Once Jagya started living up to her ideals and made up for his mistakes with Anandi happily married, she is free of all guilts and is happy to have this family. So she has actually retired and given the control to Sumitra (unworthy one as she doesn't have Dadisa's strengths or values).
Then Ganga comes in whom Dadisa sees signs of old Anandi and who too became Dadisa's favorite. But when it came to conflict between her and Sumitra, she chose Sumitra over her. Can we really blame her for that? She chose to preserve her family rather than fighting over her ideals because probably she is now too old and too mellowed.
She has doubts about Sanchi and she has expressed them to Anandi/Sumitra from time to time. She is choosing to believe in Sanchi because it is convenient for her. It preserves her family and her illusions that Jagya would be eventually happy.
Will she stand up for Ganga? I really believe that she would when it comes to crunch time. I feel that it would be Dadisa and Bhairav eventually who will stand up for Jagya because he is important to them. Will she stand up for Ganga now? No...not at the cost of upsetting the peace.
Does that make her bad? No, it makes her very human. Also she has not seen Sanchi's face the way Anandi has seen her from close up. So it is reasonable for her to assume that Sanchi has matured.
But...
Anandi
Anandi is a different matter. Why she should be expected to maintain standards? Because she was shown to stand up for right even if it cost her. Also she is a social worker who constantly talks about the rights of women. She is also a victim of a marriage that was imposed on her. She and Jagya too suffered because of that marriage. She is also shown as the one who considers Jagya's family her own and talks about the importance of their happiness.
Anandi in some sense has become selfish. Even though she knows that Shiv married her because he was in love with her, she in some sense has bought Ira's theory that he did a favor to her by marrying her and Shiv's family did a favor by accepting her as their DIL. So these obligations and preservation of marriage has silenced her.
Jagya was right that she could have easily told Sumitra/Dadisa in private about Sanchi's suitability. But she kept quiet about her doubts and about what she knew about Sanchi. She knows very well how Jagya's family suffered because of unsuitable marriages. That now Jagya and his family were looking for peace. Yet she kept quiet. She could have told both families that she would keep quiet because she doesn't want to get in middle of this. Then Jagya would have made an independent decision rather than also including her as a part of decision making.
Now when she found about the bribe to the priest, she blasted the priest so much and yet let Sanchi off the hook. Everyone's beliefs are their own and Sanchi's views about muhurat are not wrong. But...it was not beliefs that caused Sanchi to bribe the guy and Anandi knows about it. She went on with vengeance against the priest (lecturing him and what not) despite him confessing that he did it for his family. Yet totally let Sanchi off the hook and was defending Sanchi to Jagya. On top of that, she never shared this bribe stuff with Shiv - a most understanding person. Of course, he would be angry after he knows that she hid everything from him.
Even when she knows that Ganga/Jagya loves each other and has found Sanchi's true colors, she is still defending her. That is unexcusable. It is ok to wait to tell Shiv the truth before the family, but it was not ok to emotionally manipulate Jagya into marrying Sanchi because she was obsessed over her. Then why was Gauri not ok for the family? At least she was a dedicated doctor. Even if Sanchi was a great girl, it was better to stop the wedding because it would still make three people unhappy - two in loveless marriage and one pining for the lost love. On top of that, she was making excuses for her silence and putting everything on Jagya.
So it is Anandi whose conduct is questionable as she lectures those whom she can, but backs down in front of the "influential" ones because that may impact her image in the house.
It is ok to show her like this. But it would be good if they show her repentence and an apology to both Shiv and Jagya. Also they need to show her disclosing the truth about Sanchi rather than letting take Jagya/Ganga all the blame. She was always good, but right now she has become corrupt because her personal interests are conflicting with her sense of right/wrong.
Udne Ki Aasha
Kumkum Bhagya
