Kaumudhi or Mukut's Fault?! - Page 2

Originally posted by: SS88

Sonya- Very good point - I think the match of Kaumudi and Mukut is wrong. Maybe these things were done in Uma's time, but Mummyji, ab zamaana badal gaya hai yaar. She's uneducated, and he's the business man of the year. Obviously, he could have helped her and encouraged her to educate herself and experience new things. But then that would be possible only if the poor thing could actually step out of the kitchen. Chhanchhan actually put it really well- she was so busy being the ideal bahu she forgot to be a wife.

Originally posted by: golpokobita

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Well we agree what CC said.. But there remains a point missing, had Mukut been a husband to Kaumadi?? or just a son to the BS family?? has he ever tried to know what kaumadi likes or dislikes?? May be she likes serving the family the way she is doing..

And if mukut could find out what Kaumdai likes and communicate to her what he likes, they could have found out a middle ground! And that should be the nature of relationship between a husband and a wife.

Originally posted by: coolbakes

i feel mukut is just suddenly carried away!! peer pressure may be!! coz had he hated her he would have found a mayuri long back!! its only in this past 1 year that he is dating her! he was fine till before!!

and as you say if he wants to change he could have sat and made her understand!! even she can point out his mistakes in a minute!! come on yar there cant be a bigger mistake than an extra marital affair!! nothing can justify that!!!

what did this poor girl who keeps toiling for him and his family do around the clock!! whats the point of doing the duties of the bahu when the husband fails to call her his patni!! bahu comes after patni!! she can also lash out at his and his family for making her struggle round the clock with chores!! thats the reason why she has not spent time with him!!! its not like she went on a tour to her mom's place!! she has sacrificed way more than him!!!

i am sure once the blindfold is removed he will like kamudi as she is now!!

Originally posted by: golpokobita

I agree with you! Mukut is just suddenly carried away as he met Mayuri and suddenly started feeling what is missing in kaumadi..

And there lies the problem. There is no limit for perfection. Tomorrow he might meet someone and realize that she is way better than Mayuri.. then???

So the issue is, he has to understand the existing people in his life. Kaumadi is part of his life. He has to understand her and open himself up to her.. so that they know each other well and live with their strengths and limitations..

And that is why, I completely agree that once the blindfold is removed, he would understand and love kaumadi the way she is. And exactly that what I want.

I would be very disappointed if the CVs show a completely changed Kaumadi who transformed herself upside down to get her husband's love.

first you should marry the guy of your choice but when you dont get that chance and have arranged marriage, i think than both wife and husband need to make changes to adjust with one another

Sonya- sorry, I know I'm very late. Coming to Mukut.No, he's not justified.Not in his cheating , not in the way he berates her . Yes it's a mismatch. But that's not Kaumudi's fault- she didn't know he wasn't interested in getting married to her. and he's never taken her out, or showed her the world. In fact he kept her at home where she cant see anything different but still expects her to know about the world and its ways. So he can't blame her.
Golpokobita- Kaumudi needs to change her views about herself first. It doesn't matter if CC dresses her up in Manish Malhotra and somehow gives her finishing school manners. If she goes around thinking she's lacking something, nothing will change. So she doesn't just need a physical makeover , she needs a self-esteem makeover. Yes, Mukut did suddenly find Mayuri. But that resentment must'v been festering for him to take such a step. And I want Kaumudi to become more confident and assertive for herself, not to win him over. If I was in her position, I'd have left him. Esp after he goes around insulting her infront of her family. More importantly, because she has daughters, she needs to show them that it's not done to take shit from a husband who doesn't value you and your dignity.

I think that Mugut's bad behavior is being used here to show that outwardly appearances don't make a person. It's the genteelness that is important.

communication is the key in any relationship. that seems to be lacking in this relation

all we hear is excuses from husband how uneducated his wife is and does not any interest or knowledge in any other categories other than cooking / kitchen and taking care of the family members and how unhappy he is with his marriage life. but do we ever hear expressing what he is expecting of his wife. all he did was walked out of any given situation and expected his uneducated wife to understand his feelings and needs.

as far as wife goes, nothing was shown regarding her upbringing. if i have to guess , she probably grew up with traditional values like there is no I / me/ myself or my needs. family comes first and never talk back or express your feelings / opinion even when husband insults you in front of family and kids rather take those insults for granted.

as far as ASR goes i think he was man of his words. example Mrs India contest. Khushi was the only one in indian cloths during workouts and he canceled swim suit competition because she refused to wear swim suit

also, when Khushi took ASR on a date, she wore indian, he did not say anything

just my 2 cents

I agree with you dear. Nobody should change their-self for someone else. 😊

Originally posted by: SS88

Sonya- sorry, I know I'm very late. Coming to Mukut.No, he's not justified.Not in his cheating , not in the way he berates her . Yes it's a mismatch. But that's not Kaumudi's fault- she didn't know he wasn't interested in getting married to her. and he's never taken her out, or showed her the world. In fact he kept her at home where she cant see anything different but still expects her to know about the world and its ways. So he can't blame her.
Golpokobita- Kaumudi needs to change her views about herself first. It doesn't matter if CC dresses her up in Manish Malhotra and somehow gives her finishing school manners. If she goes around thinking she's lacking something, nothing will change. So she doesn't just need a physical makeover , she needs a self-esteem makeover. Yes, Mukut did suddenly find Mayuri. But that resentment must'v been festering for him to take such a step. And I want Kaumudi to become more confident and assertive for herself, not to win him over. If I was in her position, I'd have left him. Esp after he goes around insulting her infront of her family. More importantly, because she has daughters, she needs to show them that it's not done to take shit from a husband who doesn't value you and your dignity.