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@One-Of-A-Kind

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Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: mozhliasya

i agree

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@mizzundaztud

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#22

I think 22-28 is the perfect age for a girl to get married, by this time the girl is mature enough to understand and accept the drastic change that happens post marriage... i suggest u meet the guy, interact with him, understand him, then give a go ahead... i m sure ur parents wont take a wrong decision for u... baaki u have the ability to create snd make the most in an arranged marriage by ur behaviour... so dont panic and trust ur parents

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sivpriya

@sps1234

Voyager

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Posted: 12 years ago

#23

i think b4 u decide nything u shud meet the guy!!!and den do all the heavy thinking cz if u like him it will b easier dnt u think..acc 2 me 24 is an okay age 2 get married..

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NightStarr

@NightStarr

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Posted: 12 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: ashikakapoor
i'm 24 n suddenly out of no where mom came n told me that one guy has accepted you and his family also likes you n he is from london n a doctor,
the worst part is my parents liked his family n dey r takin me to london to meet the guy n his family
vn i said i'm nt ready my mom talked to me as if i'm 42 n v'll never get marry if i don't marry now
and damn sure that mera shaadi hoga n my mom already called my close n extended family and told them abt the guy n dey r callin me to wish me
i need ur advice
1)i'm just 24 is it right or too late or early to get married now?
2)i'm not ready fr huge responsibility n my parents r nt ready to listen to me,wt shld i do?
3) if marriage is fixed how to prepare myself fr this?
4)my cousin n siblings r hapi wishin me n vry bad at advice so thought that i shld ask my frens n unknown
pls help me rite now i'm 🤢 my mind is nt workin thinkin that i ve to go n stay in someone's home n i'll ve huge responsibility n all that,,,,

Wow it has been ages since I have posted as I have been a silent reader for a long time now due to real life and all the shebang that comes with it but I couldn't help not saying anything.

A few posts above someone really put my thoughts into great words.

The one thing I would say that while it is true that no parent would ever want anything but the best for their child- it is not wise to blindly go along with everything that they say because at the end of the day its your life and marriage is a huge step. Not to mention if you were to marry and be unhappy with the guy in return your parent would be unhappy as well so I would say really take your time and think this through before making a decision to marry him or not to. Most suggest meeting the guy and I would definitely second that as there is a lot you can tell over a phone call or long distance communication. I do think though that the age of 24 and up is pretty good ages to start looking around for that special someone (if you haven't met him already) just so you have time to get to know him and plan your life with him but then again there are really no age to decisions like this- it has to feel right in order to do it.

When thinking about fears- you would need to set down with yourself and really find out what the root of the fear is? Is it just a fear or responsibility which I am sure most people would have when taking a big step such as marriage in their life but there is a healthy dosage of fear and unhealthy.

Another thing I would suggest seeing as you are going to meet him- use this time before you meet him in London by speaking to him on the phone or Skype and get to know him so its not as awkward and uncomfortable once you do it there.

I am actually going through the phase of having proposals as I am 25...and while someone who seemed like a nice guy and came from a good family would be great to be with him... I just couldn't picture myself with him so declined it. Remember don't let yourself get pressured to say yes and settle under the fear that another proposal won't come because trust it will :)

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Tamara27

@Tamara27

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: ashikakapoor
i'm 24 n suddenly out of no where mom came n told me that one guy has accepted you and his family also likes you n he is from london n a doctor,
the worst part is my parents liked his family n dey r takin me to london to meet the guy n his family
vn i said i'm nt ready my mom talked to me as if i'm 42 n v'll never get marry if i don't marry now
and damn sure that mera shaadi hoga n my mom already called my close n extended family and told them abt the guy n dey r callin me to wish me
i need ur advice
1)i'm just 24 is it right or too late or early to get married now?
2)i'm not ready fr huge responsibility n my parents r nt ready to listen to me,wt shld i do?
3) if marriage is fixed how to prepare myself fr this?
4)my cousin n siblings r hapi wishin me n vry bad at advice so thought that i shld ask my frens n unknown
pls help me rite now i'm 🤢 my mind is nt workin thinkin that i ve to go n stay in someone's home n i'll ve huge responsibility n all that,,,,

Give the guy a chance. Who knows... you might like him? Age isn't important: what is important is that you are mature enough for marriage. If you're unhappy with the guy, i am sure your parents will understand. They want your happiness after all. Let us know how the meeting goes, and good luck. Dont be afraid - be your lovely self, and everything will be okay. Much love

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ARMaanEet

@ARMaanEet

Inactive

Posted: 12 years ago

#26

You'll only know after you've met the guy! :)

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