girls need advice - Page 2

Originally posted by: ashikakapoor

i knw just because of my dad i gve them chance,hope everything goes fine
just that thought of responsibility is actually scarin me
thanks fr advice😊

Originally posted by: sumaiya14

KAbhi-fan:-Thanks dear for your advice... 😳

Originally posted by: sumaiya14

I'm 21...My nikkah also fixed. . . 😭

Originally posted by: ashikakapoor

i'm 24 n suddenly out of no where mom came n told me that one guy has accepted you and his family also likes you n he is from london n a doctor,
the worst part is my parents liked his family n dey r takin me to london to meet the guy n his family
vn i said i'm nt ready my mom talked to me as if i'm 42 n v'll never get marry if i don't marry now
and damn sure that mera shaadi hoga n my mom already called my close n extended family and told them abt the guy n dey r callin me to wish me
i need ur advice
1)i'm just 24 is it right or too late or early to get married now?
2)i'm not ready fr huge responsibility n my parents r nt ready to listen to me,wt shld i do?
3) if marriage is fixed how to prepare myself fr this?
4)my cousin n siblings r hapi wishin me n vry bad at advice so thought that i shld ask my frens n unknown
pls help me rite now i'm 🤢 my mind is nt workin thinkin that i ve to go n stay in someone's home n i'll ve huge responsibility n all that,,,,

Originally posted by: ArushiSagar

First of all, I have to say that you are really smart to be asking this question. I don't think we should accept everything that our parents say blindly. Our parents want the best for us and they have the benefit of years of experience, but you have to live with this guy in the end. You are right to question your parents.

I don't have any definite answers for you, but I do have some advice that I hope will help you with your decision.

First, there is no "right" age for marriage. You are not so young that it would be a bad idea. In my view, if YOU are comfortable with it, getting married in your mid to late twenties is ideal as it allows you and your spouse to grow together... That being said, it is not the end of the world if you don't get married now. Contrary to what your parents are saying, you will not end up an old spinster. Believe it or not, I have seen women get married for the first time at all ages.

Second, you need to know why you are not ready. Is it because you have set goals that you want to achieve before you get married? Is it because you are not in the right frame of mind mentally? Or is it just fear of the unknown? If it is the first two - those are good reasons to not get married. If it is fear, you need to explore where that comes from and see if you can address it with the help of your parents or friends.

Finally, I will repeat the advice given to you by other posters and advise you tomeet the guy. Ask him questions. See if you like him. Someone suggested speaking to him on the phone before you go to London. That is a great idea.

Hope that helps! All the best! Keep us posted...

Originally posted by: KaBhi-FAN

well i'll try to ans ur questions!!
. according to my knowledge, 22-25 is the best age for girls to get married

. this age has its own colours, so its better to listen ur parents, cuz they have their life experience!! n no parents will try to destroy their child's happiness or life!!

. u should give yourself n this marraige a chance!! im sure all will go smooth n fine!! just b honest to ur partener n expect the same from him.. n also luk in ur parent's eyes, u'll be happy cuz of their happy faces!!

. its gud u r asking for advice, may be ths can help u!! 😊