LOVE AND PAIN

Morning all,

I am new to this site and have made a few friends. I just wanted to talk about Love and the pain of heartbreak just to guage peoples reactions. I have major pain 3 times in my life the loss of my grandfather in 1997 the death of my best friend in 2003 and the split from my girlfriend in 2006.

I had been dating my girlfriend for 15 years we got secretly engaged when we were 16 and then i spoke to my grandfather to se if we could get married whe we were 21 at the time he said it was a good idea well actually he said acha bachoo shaadi abhi karne hai. to wind me up. Anyway he passed away in in 1997 when we turned 17 so there went out biggest support. I went to may parents when i turned 23 and they werent to happy had picked my own bride but went along with it they went to her parents who said no coz they had chosen her husband for her already and were not gonna change there minds.😭😭😭

We carried on seeing one another spoke to here parents who then told her it was either me or them if she chose me then for them she would be like a person who never existed.She would be dead to them. So like any child she had to choose her parents and we walked away she was forced into her marriage last week i turned up and rang her to think about it again but she thanked me for all the good times and the love i had given her and we would be together in another lifetime and she then left for her new life of slavery and a loveless marriage. Here i am plodding on through life one day at a time my heart in several pieces.

Something else happened when i was driving back from her wedding i was in tears and came up to a sharp bend and dont remember wether i tried to brake or did i speed up but i woke up sometime later and the car was upside down in a field and i had cuts and bruises. I dont get it no matter how hard i try i cant remeber wether i did it on purpose or delibratly.sometimes i feel dead on the inside when i think about her and the times we shared.🤢

Anyway i was wondering if anybody else was in love on here or had anybody else been hurt like me and how did you cope with it.

Lastly i do still believe in love i feel good when i see love on tv especially the dramas on star for e.g Kt and Lakshya from KSBKBT, Sharman from kumkum or Maithili and Pranay from KGGK there loves are innocent and dramatised in a lovey dovey way but the reality is a lot more painful anf hurtful.

Anyway take care and happy posting.

KAL

hey, kal don't be depressed yaar...
life is still ahead and as time will move i m sure that u will find another partner .....whom u will love very very much
and another thing don't get into depression.....becoz then u will never come out of it and one more thing.....pain is not what u wrote..........pain is that which u felt while writing........
And u would have noticed that if some part of ur body is paining and u just concentrate on that part u will feel that pain is actually increasing but if u don't pay any attention then u will see that pain is gone...sooooo my dear frnd don't think about pain and don't feel depressed

think positve and enjoy life......
because lifeisnowhere
life is no where or life is now here
it depends on what u take it and make it
keep smiling and a suggestion, change ur user name from kal(it will b reminding u of ur previous day) to happy 😃
can pm me anytime

thanks, i dont understand why a parent would force there child into doing something they didnt wanna do when she could have had a better life with someone who would have loved more than life itself. 😭

be positive there will be something definately gd in this don t worry u just leave it to god may he has other plans for u 😃
dont worry be happy and
always have a big smile on ur face 😃

thanks wadhwaniki,

i worry mor for her being stuck with someone you dont no or dont love hope she is alrite and happy whereever she is. 😭

hey come on buddy !!!!! life is supposed to be full of surprises good and bad ....... and don worry ...... u will surely get a person whom u would love and who loves u too .....
and memories are an integral part of life .... no one can deny tat .... all u can do is remember the good part and make them ur strength .....
its good of ur concern for her .... but i don understand how can parents be so rude as to force their child to marry someone whom she doesnt want to ......

u noe kal savie is our pschycologist u can pm her n can discuss ur problems. well i will also say the same that think positive 😛

hey mehakkkkkkkk i m studying psychology i m not a psychologist ok........
and happy (as i suggested u) i m very very happy that the girl choosed her parents because u know they gave us birth and they did sooo many things for us and she married other man bcoz of her parents i.e to keep them happy and u can be happy seeing that she is happy with her husband

Originally posted by: nishi

hey come on buddy !!!!! life is supposed to be full of surprises good and bad ....... and don worry ...... u will surely get a person whom u would love and who loves u too .....
and memories are an integral part of life .... no one can deny tat .... all u can do is remember the good part and make them ur strength .....
its good of ur concern for her .... but i don understand how can parents be so rude as to force their child to marry someone whom she doesnt want to ......

i totally agree wid ,

wht ever god does ,it is always for our best 😃

thanks guys but like i said in time my heart will heal hopefully she is always happy and makes the best of the situation.