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Hi guys. I am posting here for the first time because I am just fed up with all the negativity going on around here. The last time I actively took part in forum discussion was in DMG forum, during the SR/AR fighting. I was an ardent SR fan and actively defended it from all the bashings from AR fans. But after few days, when I realized that its simply a waste of time and energy, I gave up and have stayed away from ever commenting in any posts.
I have been following this forum for a long time now, and read all the posts here, but never comment. Just to stay away from all kinds of arguments since I am peace loving. But today I am finally sharing a few thoughts. I dont care if people bash me for it, coz I dont think I will comment back much.
1. The very reason we live is to look for some happiness. Now happiness is very subjective and depends on ur own definition of happiness. But one thing is certain. If we try to look at the POSITIVE side of everything, it can make us happy. But its not possible to bring out the positives from all situations. In a case when its impossible for someone to look for something positive in a particular situation, then he/she should try to avoid that as much as possible. Because the more u hate something or someone, it will create more negativity in u, and if u discuss about it with others, then it will spread that negativity to them also.
Any kind of hateful or negative thinking is bad for the mental health of that person and also the people around them. If we hate something we should not only try to stay away from it, but also try to talk and think as less about it as possible. Because discussing about something we hate, with other fellow minded people may make us feel good for the short time, but in the long run, it only adds to the negativity inside u people, and when u r doing it in the presence of people who love that thing, then it also adversely affects them. This only starts a useless bickering war, and adversely affects the mental peace of all those people.
2. My complain here is NOT against those who do not like the new actor or the new Anandi. Its NOT against those who dont like her acting and criticize her. Its perfectly normal to not like the acting of a particular actor and express ur feelings. That is not negativity. Thats a healthy discussion.
My complain is against THOSE, who are constantly bashing the channel, and above all the SHOW BV. They are WISHING for the TRPs of the show to come down, and for the show to shut down. They are doing it inspite of knowing the fact that there are still a huge number of people who love this show and always want it to continue.
If u hate the change u have the perfect liberty to stop watching it and move on. U have the right to go to posts specifically made for u and show ur discontent. But to wish for the show to go down the drain in the very forum of the show, because u personally do not like a change, and knowing the fact that a large number of people will be extremely hurt and sad if the show closes down; that is NOT ACCEPTABLE in any manner.
3. Let me give an example. I watch a lot of english tv series, and 'The Big Bang Theory' is my most favorite. It is a sitcom about a group of nerds and their day to day lives. It has a huge fan following all over the world, and its current season has the highest ratings and viewers among all US shows. Now there is another show called 'Community' which is also about nerds but not so popular. Now according to the Community fans, Community is "supposedly" a much better show than TBBT(the big bang theory), and deserves a much larger audience. Theres no problem with that.
But what they do is, they come to the reviews of BBT episodes in IGN, and bash BBT as much as possible saying that its a crappy show and should be closed down. Now initially I was interested in Community and wanted to check it out. But after seeing so much negativity from the fans, who need to constantly bash another show just to prove that their show is better, I decided to stay away from Community forever.
They dont understand that while bashing BBT they are hurting the feelings of all the fans of BBT who love the show and want a healthy discussion about the show in the comment section of the episode review. But that becomes impossible due to the constant bashing from Community fans, and the BBT fans have to spend their time defending their show.
4. Its the same thing here. There are a lot of people who LOVE this show because of its plot and storyline. HECK. The show was IMMENSELY successful for a LONG TIME BEFORE this particular actor even joined the show. So why should we want the show to stop and shut down, because of one actor change, when there are a LARGE cast of immensely talented actors in the show (Surekha Sikri, Anup Soni) who have AS MUCH HAND in making this show so popular as ANYBODY else.
5. BV was always about the story and social message and never about a particular couple or love track. No matter how awesome, the love track between 2 people is always secondary in this show, and the overall plot and social situation is always primary. As long as the plot is good, the show will go on.
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I dont care if people bash me or call it moral policing. I have not even taken the names of the actors in my post except in an example. I have no right to tell someone to like or dislike something or to post or not post something. But I have every right to retaliate against those who are trying to demean my favorite show and wishing for it to end publicly in its very forum, and spreading negativity and harming the healthy discussion of the show in this forum for those who love the show for what it is and not for any one particular actor.
I have been following this forum for a long time now, and read all the posts here, but never comment. Just to stay away from all kinds of arguments since I am peace loving. But today I am finally sharing a few thoughts. I dont care if people bash me for it, coz I dont think I will comment back much.
1. The very reason we live is to look for some happiness. Now happiness is very subjective and depends on ur own definition of happiness. But one thing is certain. If we try to look at the POSITIVE side of everything, it can make us happy. But its not possible to bring out the positives from all situations. In a case when its impossible for someone to look for something positive in a particular situation, then he/she should try to avoid that as much as possible. Because the more u hate something or someone, it will create more negativity in u, and if u discuss about it with others, then it will spread that negativity to them also.
Any kind of hateful or negative thinking is bad for the mental health of that person and also the people around them. If we hate something we should not only try to stay away from it, but also try to talk and think as less about it as possible. Because discussing about something we hate, with other fellow minded people may make us feel good for the short time, but in the long run, it only adds to the negativity inside u people, and when u r doing it in the presence of people who love that thing, then it also adversely affects them. This only starts a useless bickering war, and adversely affects the mental peace of all those people.
2. My complain here is NOT against those who do not like the new actor or the new Anandi. Its NOT against those who dont like her acting and criticize her. Its perfectly normal to not like the acting of a particular actor and express ur feelings. That is not negativity. Thats a healthy discussion.
My complain is against THOSE, who are constantly bashing the channel, and above all the SHOW BV. They are WISHING for the TRPs of the show to come down, and for the show to shut down. They are doing it inspite of knowing the fact that there are still a huge number of people who love this show and always want it to continue.
If u hate the change u have the perfect liberty to stop watching it and move on. U have the right to go to posts specifically made for u and show ur discontent. But to wish for the show to go down the drain in the very forum of the show, because u personally do not like a change, and knowing the fact that a large number of people will be extremely hurt and sad if the show closes down; that is NOT ACCEPTABLE in any manner.
3. Let me give an example. I watch a lot of english tv series, and 'The Big Bang Theory' is my most favorite. It is a sitcom about a group of nerds and their day to day lives. It has a huge fan following all over the world, and its current season has the highest ratings and viewers among all US shows. Now there is another show called 'Community' which is also about nerds but not so popular. Now according to the Community fans, Community is "supposedly" a much better show than TBBT(the big bang theory), and deserves a much larger audience. Theres no problem with that.
But what they do is, they come to the reviews of BBT episodes in IGN, and bash BBT as much as possible saying that its a crappy show and should be closed down. Now initially I was interested in Community and wanted to check it out. But after seeing so much negativity from the fans, who need to constantly bash another show just to prove that their show is better, I decided to stay away from Community forever.
They dont understand that while bashing BBT they are hurting the feelings of all the fans of BBT who love the show and want a healthy discussion about the show in the comment section of the episode review. But that becomes impossible due to the constant bashing from Community fans, and the BBT fans have to spend their time defending their show.
4. Its the same thing here. There are a lot of people who LOVE this show because of its plot and storyline. HECK. The show was IMMENSELY successful for a LONG TIME BEFORE this particular actor even joined the show. So why should we want the show to stop and shut down, because of one actor change, when there are a LARGE cast of immensely talented actors in the show (Surekha Sikri, Anup Soni) who have AS MUCH HAND in making this show so popular as ANYBODY else.
5. BV was always about the story and social message and never about a particular couple or love track. No matter how awesome, the love track between 2 people is always secondary in this show, and the overall plot and social situation is always primary. As long as the plot is good, the show will go on.
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I dont care if people bash me or call it moral policing. I have not even taken the names of the actors in my post except in an example. I have no right to tell someone to like or dislike something or to post or not post something. But I have every right to retaliate against those who are trying to demean my favorite show and wishing for it to end publicly in its very forum, and spreading negativity and harming the healthy discussion of the show in this forum for those who love the show for what it is and not for any one particular actor.
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