A Small Correlation

When I saw the Asad-Zoya slap scene today...I was reminded of something that happened to me fairly recently, I would just like to draw a parallel.

A few months ago, I was involved in a full out brawl at a bar while watching a game, and our team was losing. Now considering this you should understand that adrenaline levels were high, and violence is bound to occur...similarly when asad slapped zoya, it was clear that he was already upset NOT particularly at her, he had just finished consoling a delirious Najma, and he was about to lose the woman who went through hell to bring him up...he is MAD. I am not condoning violence let me be clear but this is human nature and we can't change the world all at once.

Going back to my story...our team was losing and we were all upset...it was break time and I was just talking to my friends, when a guy decided out of the blue to comment on my friend who was obviously gay...now I KNOW that this friend of mine is insecure, he has been through a lot because of his sexuality and has been constantly bullied, the guy did not. Once again Zoya and the audience KNOWS Zoya is not wrong, Asad does not.

This guy decides to walk up to us, because he felt my friend was checking him out, and made several discriminatory comments, he made fun of him, bullied him and my friend was obviously upset. He is a good friend of mine, and knowing what he has been through, I could not stand the guy making fun, so I stood up, and demanded that the guy shut up and apologize. He didn't instead he asked me to move aside, as he doesn't want to 'punch' out a 'girl'. This made me even more upset, and I egged him on, I told him that if he had the balls he WOULD punch me as opposed to make weak threats and resort to name calling. In this situation I was angry, very angry, because he had made fun of my friend who meant a lot to me. Now consider Asad who was about to lose his MOTHER I can understand how he was feeling. The only reason I did not slap the guy was I was conscious enough to know that I didn't want to be arrested I would rather be in a position of defense. Asad did not have that much sense given the amount of shock he was in. If I was in that much shock I would have knocked the guy out too.

The guy eventually got pumped up enough, and hit me. And I did not back off, and let me tell you this guy was 6 something and built, I am a tiny 5 something girl...it hurt. I got MAD and punched him back, we went at it and fought pretty well. Eventually he stopped. He made a very racist comment, called me Paki, made sexually averse comments, and called me a terrorist. I listened and eventually it went to such a high, that I threw the hardest punch I could...he doubled over and lost a few teeth. Eventually the cops came and took him in. I broke my knuckles and all, but I knew I was justified at that time.

As for the guy, when he was released he found me and apologized to me for everything he had done and said...he said he will never think of a woman as weak again, you know what I know he won't, every time he goes to judge a woman he will think of his lost teeth.

As viewers, we can sit and judge as much as we want, the fact is that real life is a LOT different, human nature is violent at its basis. Sometimes, when evoked enough, we do come out with unnecessary roughness, and its okay. I relate back to my brawl, and remember how angry I was, and that was just a friend and he just made fun of my race and religion, I cannot imagine what I would do to someone who hurts my family. For those saying its domestic violence and it is not right for a woman to be hit, need to reconsider...if you want to be considered an equal then COMMAND respect like I did the guy's. He respects that I stood up and fought rather than sit like a damsel in distress like he would THINK we would. For those blaming Asad for using violence in general...impulse in human nature is a dangerous thing my friend...one cannot imagine the things you are capable of when someone hurts someone you love. Trust me, for all of you peace condoning people out there, I put you in a situation where someone threatens your race/religion or your loved ones, I will bet my life that ALL of you will retaliate. So stop judging and just watch the show!