My view - people should not rush her to accept shiv over night, let the realization be gradual. A marriage survives on a lot of things not only physical relationship. With j, the attraction was there but not the understanding, and bondage. And once she understand that, there will be no looking back.
But BV sometimes, show stupid actions, may be that is the way a serial run. But i saw one on star plus - maryada - where they show woman can be strong if need be, I thought BV is like that but no it was my mistake.