I don't think shiv is at fault here. Anandi has told him many times that she has left her past behind however she told Sumatra that she is not going to love again and she never told shiv that. On wedding night I have never heard of girl making the first move, it is always te guy. Poor shiv is doing that. Anandi has full right to not have physical relationship if she doesnot want it but she is giving mixed signals to shiv and that is wrong. When shiv was saying that he will not lie and had dreamed about his first night and that the second night will be... Anandi should have brought the topic of wanting to wait. She just avoided the issue and let him dream on.
After the precap shiv will get the message and will back off. I do feel that anandi may be a good DIL material but she is not a good wife material. She did not even care that shiv slept on couch. On top of telling him to reduce the volume of alarm like a diva. We know shiv loves her but I don't think anandi cares emotionally about shiv. Yes, she respects him but that's it., he is a means to please her family. I hope they don't show shiv turning negative because of this one sided love.