yesterday's desponess-so not shiv

after watching yesterdays episode i could not relate to shiv's character that i have seen till now... i know some of u might be angry with me but this is what i feel.. i agree with u that shiv was doing nothing wrong as he is now anandi's husband and he has every right to be romantic with her, but whatever character of shiv has portray till now indicate that shiv is anandi's mind reader, uske bina kuch kahe hi samajh jata hai uske mann ki baat and understands when she is comfortable or not.. har step pe shiv ne anandi ka comfortable level check kiya hai but this time when he was going to take such a big step he should have atleast asked anandi if she was comfortable...infact har serial mein even stupid se stupid hero bhi never initiates without the confession of girl lekin i felt ki why shiv couldnt wait till anandi confesses...use pata hai that anandi is coming with a baggage with her and its not a normal marriage but still he is acting way too casually and forward... mujhe lagta hai ki use anandi ki all time shyness and blushing se wrong signal mil gaya hai that anandi is completely into him which i consider somewhat anandi's mistake too kyunki she shouldnt give these kind of expressions if she is not completely into shiv...but honestly i had never thought ki mera bhondu shiv itna desperate ho rahe hoga suhaag rat ke liye.🤣. mujhe to lag raha tha ki wo is baare mein soch bhi nahi raha hoga and just wanted to be near anandi and have cute talks with her.but ye collector sahab to bahut forward nikale🤣

I am quite frankly am sick of anandi's nautanki and her nakhras.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Problem is not with shiv, it is with anandi.

He is not despo, she is a psycho nakhrebaaz

I am quite frankly am sick of anandi's nautanki and her nakhras.

When entering into a marriage, it is understood that being physically intimate is a part of it, and a natural expectation a man will have.

What did anandi think? That marriage just meant a wedding ceremony to satisfy her mother's soul and after that she and shiv will live like brother and sister or as roommates sharing rent in one home???

I would have been quite okay with her behaviour if this was truly an arranged marriage in every sense of the term ... where she never met the man... and the first time she could talk to him/see his face was on the suhaagraat itself. Then yes, it might take time to get intimate and then her behaviour would be fully justified.

But... here she and shiv have known each other for quite some time, he has professed to being in love with her, she is comfortable with him ... so I dont see anything wrong in shiv's behaviour ... and I think anandi should have been prepared for it.

To look so scared and big eyed is ridiculous, particularly for a 25 year old woman ... who has married a 32 year old man.

And it is obvious that shiv is not initiating it to obtain cheap satisfaction of his physical needs. He sees physical intimacy as an expression of his love for her, he wants to be close to her.

And here is this stupid anandi who "requires more time" what nonsense! 🤢

well we have to see the scene in its fullness to get the entire context.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

well we have to see the scene in its fullness to get the entire context.

There is a difference between wanting physical intimacy in the form of contact and cuddling and warmth... and intimacy in the form of sex.

It could be that he is comfortable with the former and just wants to break the ice.

I doubt he will be an animal like basant who engaged in marital rape with gehna.

🤣 🤣 🤣 yesterday's attitude of Shiv proved that he does not have any 'Kami' it's very normal for him to get lil close afterall this is his first marriage 😳

shiv is not som sant mahatma he is normal human with normal desires...so his trying to get intimate behaviour was not wrong...anandi is also correct she needs time thts also perfectly fine...they both need to communicate and sort out the things.

Originally posted by: tistaa

🤣 🤣 🤣 yesterday's attitude of Shiv proved that he does not have any 'Kami' it's very normal for him to get lil close afterall this is his first marriage 😳

But I also dont found any wrong in Anandi's behaviour...every girl want to be loved by her husband so when any one is feeling uncomfortable then we should see the reason from depth and from her POV. Anandi has a very dark past so the problem is arising from her past trauma not for her Nautanki bcoz she is scared and she is not atall dramabaaz. It's a very normal attitude from a woman who has suffered a lot

Originally posted by: nniks

shiv is not som sant mahatma he is normal human with normal desires...so his trying to get intimate behaviour was not wrong...anandi is also correct she needs time thts also perfectly fine...they both need to communicate and sort out the things.

Hum dono ekdom ek jaise sochte hai 😆

@sectoreight: I found yesterday's episode a bit weird but absolutely do not believe that Shiv was behaving desperately - agree with you there. If anything, he's mistaken about Anandi's state of mind. And yes, it will help if Anandi learns to be more expressive as time goes on.

I'm also not crazy about the blow-hot blow-cold aspect of the AnSh romance.

But... to say that Anandi is wrong to require more time or that she is a nakhrebaaz is something I cannot understand. Someone had commented on a website about romance novel cliches that sex is not something a man does to a woman but something two people do together so both need to be in the same place mentally. From being comfortable with someone as a friend to getting physical is a huge jump.

If Anandi is shown to be not in a place where she wants to be physically intimate, it's her prerogative. Every human being has a right over their own body and a sense of duty should not force them to act in a way that feels distressful, no matter how long they've known someone.