Originally posted by: Shinya
Bhach, very well said.
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." -- Leo Tolstoy
This applies to both, Anandi and saanchi. It looks like both the ladies are not prepared to change themselves. But that does not matter as long as shiv is prepared to change himself for the sake of anandi. If he does not, then she will be in trouble again.
It's true that self-examination is important, and yes, there is always a need to be reasonable and to make small compromises in any kind of relationship (friendship, parent-child, romantic, co-habiting, whatever) between two people (from both sides - it takes two to tango, after all) for the sake of keeping everyone happy and maintaining harmony. But one can never please everyone, and sometimes two personalities just don't mesh well. And there's a limit to when (and to what extent) one should be accommodating. Why should Anandi try and change her very nature in order to satisfy a spoiled brat? Plus Shiv likes her exactly as she is, and they are both reasonable people in general, so I'm sure they will be able to work out a solution in case of any conflicts once they are married without either of them having to actively change for the sake of the other. I personally feel that there's no point in marrying someone if you have to change for them and can't be yourself...
Also, in the current situation, Anandi is being extremely patient and gentle with Saanchi and not at all unreasonable. She has not put any expectations on Saanchi - she has just expressed the hope that some day Saanchi will like her and accept her as her bhabhi and saheli. Saanchi, by contrast, has consistently been behaving disrespectfully and out-of-line over her brother's choice to marry Anandi, and this has upset her brother, hone waali bhabhi and entire family. So she is definitely the one who needs to mature and start being more reasonable/open to change.
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