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@Indu: Exactly. I feel like she is going to win them simply because she is not trying and knows that she will be out of there soon. So she will do her best to smooth the feathers she ruffled before she left, a conscious effort she was not making before this. It is no doubt an unfortunate set of circumstances if she has to separate herself from Ansh to care for Yash, but one that I think will ultimately have positive results. Sometimes things don't go exactly the way we want, but in the end it turns out we didn't know what was best after all and life had other plans.

Originally posted by: MishtyShona

Swati crying coz her name is not there in the list...
*Jyo Mumaaa*

Swatiii ..oyeee u were not active na thats why 🤗...u start getting active and I will add u 😳

Today's thread, people:

www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=2984137#57380607

PS: I added Ms. Crybaby to the list. 😆

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@Indu: Exactly. I feel like she is going to win them simply because she is not trying and knows that she will be out of there soon. So she will do her best to smooth the feathers she ruffled before she left, a conscious effort she was not making before this. It is no doubt an unfortunate set of circumstances if she has to separate herself from Ansh to care for Yash, but one that I think will ultimately have positive results. Sometimes things don't go exactly the way we want, but in the end it turns out we didn't know what was best after all and life had other plans.

@Indu: I love that! She is not going to fight them at their own level, because she is above that. She will fight them with love..😳

And on that corny note, I am going to get some chocolate to bolster me for the episode! 😕😆

@Samana: Pragmatism has its points.You're of the mind that the patriarchal system needs to be altered from within. I agree. But there comes a time, when you ask: Why treat the people who are enforcing these rules on you, in such a kind and patient manner, when your wants/needs earn nothing but an exaggerated look of impatience? I think that's what Yash is realizing.

SP is more of a dictator. Its not just patriarchy here. There's only one way to deal with self-important dictators who rule with an iron fist, with no regard to, or care for, emotion. This house needs a coup. Full on military uprising 😆. I'm thinking this is all part of that. Yash is going to blow SP's top off. And although he'll be doing this in Ansh's name, a part of him is doing this for himself. He's showing a strange kind of independence. I have a feeling its new for him. And although he seems frazzled, I think he'll feel more on top of the world than ever. He's over 30, but this is the first time he's probably made a decision all on his own, with no blessings. It shouldn't have taken this long for him to learn that his father isn't an unmovable god. He's just a human who doesn't like to here no.

*Personal Experience Alert*
Its like with my grandfather recently: a cousin of mine wanted to marry this boy. My grandfather stomped his figurative cane, and gave his decision: Because the boy was from a different religion (one that my grandfather didn't want any of the girls in his family marrying into), the answer was no. So then what happened? For the following two years my cousin made no mention of marriage, but she loved that boy, so they stayed together. Recently, my mother asked my cousin if she'd still like to get married to that boy. She said yes. My mother arranged a dinner at our house and invited him, and told my grandparents that the boy would be coming. My grandfather was openly challenged on one of his decisions. Probably for the first time ever on something this huge. What did he do? After thinking for some time, once the boy had already arrived (about an hour later), my grandfather quietly came and sat down in his chair. The big single chair that garners attention in the room.
Sometimes you fight within the system for so long, simply because you love the symbolic head of the family, and you don't want to hurt them. But when they start hurting others, and for no other reason than "because they said so", it a little much. SP needs to learn that its not about being right or wrong. Its about being respectful of other people, no matter their "station", in comparison with him.

The problem with fighting within the system is that the people making the rules begin to believe their own hubris, which is not good for keeping the ego in check. They start making unwarranted and thoughtless decisions. You forget what made you admire this man, and then you start resenting him. SP is in sore need for an ego-check, which is what Yash is doing.

@Charishma: That is just it though, Yash is part of the system and he is fighting from within! Aarti, not so much!

@Samana: He fought within the system when he asked for permission. Then the system left him out to dry. He's doing what needs to be done, with no regard for SP. Its a circumstance that SP himself forced on him. But right now, he is toppling SP's dictatorship, whether they realize it or not.

And as for Aarti, despite her relief at being allowed to go home, I do think she tried her best within Scindhia house rules. She will leave a good impression, when she joins Ansh. But that Aarti was one that was there all along, had they cared enough to look.She has made numerous attempts with PayPal. She took care of Yash when he was sick. All of which has been perceived as her "duty" and nothing more. Aarti does everything required of her in that house, except cow down. And following this, she won't either. She'll be grateful to Yash, and respectful to G3 and SP, as always.

I don't think she'll suddenly turn into their dream bahu, just b/c her son is gone. If they see her in a different way, then that's a twisted shortcoming on their part. If taking Ansh out of the equation, however temporarily, actually fixes things with G3 (SP and whoever else), then I could see why Aarti would feel disillusioned, and not interested in staying. Why would she want to stay in a house that sees her 5 year old son as a threat? Its crazy. And I see why its not something she wants to indulge. Her son is priority, and its not something she should feel the need to apologize for. Her priority could shift (to include PayPal) once she is given an honest opportunity. Like the one Yash was given with Ansh.


Ps: another essay. sorry lol. And I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I'm not at all sure how Aarti will react to being temporary separated from Ansh. Or how Ansh himself will be.