Today's episode reminds me of the way earthquakes just break the ground into a deep cavern ... and people are left standing on both sides of the divide, unable to cross over to the other side ...
The question is: How deep and long is the divide in this family ... and who is left standing on which side?
The elders have all taken sides ... we have Gayatri and the Casanova, smarting under their "beizzati" and taking the side of breaking the marriage of Aarti and Yash. We have Shobha and Dubey stuck on the other side of this divide, not by any fault of theirs but as a result of the ruthless positions taken by Gayatri and the Casanova.
Aarti has taken the decision herself that there is no more way to save this marraige, and she is so noble that all she wants is three things: she wants her Ansh back, she wants to pay back the 10 crores to Yash and stand on no obligation, and she wants to give Yash back to his parents! She has chosen her side of the divide. She is in fact standing on the same side as Gayatri and the Casanova.
I am so glad that at last the brothers of Ansh and their wives thave taken a position opposite to that of Aarti. They have decided to tell Yash what the parents have done and to stop the punar vivah from breaking. They are standing with Shobha and Dubey on the far side of the divide.
Now it remains to be see what Yash does ... where is he left standing? Which side of the divide will he decide to stand on, once he knows what all has been happening behind his back? And what can he do to pull Aarti to his side, and save the marriage?
In my analysis today I want to focus on the horrible things in-laws do that is so detrimental to their own sons As parents they bring up their sons with love and understanding. But the minute the son gets another woman in his life and his priorities change, how ill-intentioned the parents can get to their own son, that they break his life and trash the lives of their grandchildren - all to save their own "beizzati".
I am stunned by how loving parents can in one crazy minute turn into the arch enemies of their own sons by throwing at them the ultimatums that lead their lives into the doldrums. How can parents do this to their own sons, let alone their daughters-in-law?
Here today is my analysis of the four huge mistakes that Gayatri and the Casanova are making to the life of their son Yash. They are literally murdering aspects of Yash's life, just because they do not like the daughter-in-law having a value in his life:
1. Gayatri and the Casanova are today killing Yash's hopes
After the death of Arpita, it took such a long time for Yash to even dream of saying Yes to another marriage. Finally he has put himself through the rigmarole of the marriage for what? It is for the sake of having hope again in life. Hopes that his kids will get a mother. Hopes that he and his daughters will get back some normality to their lives. By breaking the marriage the Scindias will not affect Aarti ... she will go away with Ansh and be no better than she was before this Punar Vivah. Aarti, in fact, will probably learn to treat this whole remarriage as a bad dream and get on with bringing up Ansh with the support of the Dubeys. But what does this marriage break up do to Yash and his daughters? Yash has already almost died inside his heart when Arpita died. He is just learning to come alive again, but his parents may snuff out the very tiny flicker of life that still is in his heart if they kill his hopes of ever living a normal life again. How can the Scindias be so merciless to their own son?
2. Gayatri and the Casanova are today killing Yash's rights
Just because a grown son is living under the same roof out of respect for his parents, he cannot be treated as a person without any basic rights? Are the Scindias even aware that Yash is a grown man with his own rights to live the life of his choice as he thinks fit? Does he have no rights to make decisions unless those decisions are approved by his parents? Does he give up his rights just because the family is a joint family? And most of all, does he not have the exclusive right to decide what's best for his own little family? In a way, today, by directly accosting the Dubeys and Aarti and laying their conditions before them, the Scindias have treated their own son like his own mind and his rights don't count. They have issued ultimatums in which the son is not even included as a living being. They have given Aarti this dictat without even so much as consulting Yash. They have shown the "outsiders" (Aarti and the Dubeys) that they treat their own son as worthless in a discussion. What is left for Yash but disgrace in front of his wife and in-laws that he is not even in the frame as his parents make their choices for him?
3. Gayatri and the Casanova are today killing Yash's initiative
Yash wants to do what is right for Ansh and Aarti by taking the initiative to find the money himself and to try and save Ansh. It is OK if the Scindias do't want to cough up the money themselves, but in another family where parents also value their sons, they would have felt proud that their son is so noble and taking the initiative. Here in this family, taking the initiative is being scorned. When Yash sells the farmhouse for whatever he can get, the parents are not even cribbing the low price he got, they are seeing the sale of the farmhouse as the sale of their prestige! If every time Yash takes any initiative to do anything for his little family is treated as an insult to his parents' prestige, what can Yash ever do for his family at any time? All this seems to stem from the idea the Scindias have that everyone in their home is their "possession". They decide who does what, who gives what to whom, and who gets how much. They "own" everybody. The three sons are to behave like imbeciles with no responsibility, roles or initiative. And if the sons are to be so lowly placed, then the daughters-in-law are nothing but dirt. Will Yash be able to look his children in the face if his own father never lets him be a father to his own kids?
4. Gayatri and the Casanova are today killing Yash's spirit
Yash is a young man of 30 years, full of the spirit and zeal to make something of his life. Even if Arpita's death made him lose his heart, he has not lost his spirit. He is spirited enough to run his business, to make his monetary decisions, to try and achieve something substantial in life and to feel the positivity of success in his life. There's a lot more he can achieve externally if his home life is stable, secure, happy and unhassled. By breaking his family life, his parents are breaking his very spirit to achieve. They are making a shambles of his personal life that can completely dampen the enthusiasm he has even for his professional life. Do the Scindias realise how deep will be the wound they inflict on their own son that makes him feel life as worthless in any sphere of activity he engages in? Will he have the heart to work, to earn, to support his kids if his home life stands broken for the second time? Will he be able to trust that life will bless him and his family, or will his parents rob him of all trust that life is good? After Arpita's death, Yash lis only now re-learning that life is worth living if not for yourself, then at least for other people who enter your life. What are his parents doing, stripping him of his faith and trust in a life of happiness?
You know, in a way, what Yash decides to do for Aarti and Ansh is what he will actually do for himself. If he saves Ansh, he will save himself, his own heart. If he stops the marriage from breaking, he will save himself from breaking. If he takes Aarti's side, he will take his own side. If he protects Aarti and Ansh's place in his family, he will fortify his own position in his family. If he goes against his parents intentions, he will go against whatever is preventing him from having a full life.
I want Yash not just to save Aarti and Ansh from the wretched behaviour of his family, I want Yash to do all this for himself. He is a fabulous man, with all the potential to be a great father, a great husband, a rock to his family and a man full of life, enjoying and achieiving everything he wishes for, and fulfilling every dream he has ever had inside him. His parents should not be allowed to snuff out his life.
Save yourself, Yash, from the narrow box that your parents want to lock you inside. If you save yourself, you will automatically save at least four other lives ... Aarti, Ansh, Payal and Palak.
Yash Scindia, you deserve a life!
Edited by skanda12 - 13 years ago