Essence of Marriage-Consummation : GoHem, RaJi - Page 3

Originally posted by: shruts18

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Great great post Munni, I am real glad that you made it.

I had read maybe 2-3 weeks back, this same line on the top of your post and felt OMG!😆

I guess only consummation makes marriage for most people but for me marriage makes consummation in all sense but one! It is consummation of all sorts ...of trust, faith, devotion, sacrifice, will power, strength, gratitude, forgiveness, friendship, responsibility, ownership, letting go of ego and what not. And that one thing is indifference, which I see in Raji...

I believe that if literal consummation makes marriage, then there would be no marriages at all. For marriage is marring of age, means forgetting one's experiences and expertise and ready to take up and learn new ones.

Ahem and Gopi have shown to us that there is lot more to a marriage and how hate can convert to love. This can happen only when two people get married and the institution of marriage is the best and makes us learn many things in life, patience and sacrifice being the foremost ones. They didn't have consummation but according to me they consummated in each and every thing which consummated couples would dare not even think of!

To act like a consummated person and to feel like one is very different.😎Gohem believe and feel like one, Raji just act like one🤣

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Amazing post👏 A very thoughtful one and throws light on why Gopi and Aham's relationship is so precious for a lot of us.. 😛

There is nothing I can add that can make more sense.. Your every word and quote hit the mark..⭐️⭐️

A real relation is one that acts on more than just attraction. The main reason I write this is because that is how it works in Indian culture. There are more arranged marriages than love marriages.. The basis of this marriage is friendship. A friendship not just in name but in total sense..

I made the last statement because, we all know Rashi and Jigar started their marriage on friendship. They decided and even now have decided to start as friends and work their way to the next level.. The problem is that this has just remained in words. They agreed to be friends in name and Jigar wants to move to the next level too soon. Again the reason I say this is not based on the time they have been in their marriage. It is more to do with what they did to become real friends in this time. There is no proper conversation, no sharing of ideas, sorrows, fears, expectations and disappointments..

Aham and Gopi however did not have even friendship in the beginning. But then slowly their relationship changed to start as a mutual agreement and then moved to a good friendship. Theirs is really a true friendship. There is trust, understanding, compromise, silence and concerns/happiness shared in their friendship. Aham goes to Gopi's level to make her understand something... Gopi makes it a point to explain to Aham, why she did what she did.. This makes their friendship special.

What makes them a couple is the attraction and the friendship combined. They are attracted to each other but that is not all. Their attraction with their friendship is the sweetest thing. They are a couple who understand the responsibilities and beauty of their relationship and take it slowly.

Physical intimacy is important. But that is not all.. Marriage provides you a companion who will be there with you when no one else is around to support you. A husband and wife are not just lovers.. Their relationship goes over and beyond that of lovers. They are friends, companions, confident, sometime teachers, sometime negotiators and lovers all in one.. A true meaning of marriage comes when the relation comes out shining through the good and bad times.. That is why a marriage can make or break a person😃

Originally posted by: dipsy80

wonderful post!⭐️...

what i love most about Gopi is her capacity to keep giving without expecting anything in return...just a smile from Ahem makes her day!

and what i love most about Ahem is that though he now realizes that he loves her and he is very attracted to her he does not take her for granted (not considering the bhang induced SD...dont know what the CVs achieved with that..still no signs of him remembering...probably just a gimmick to get more TRPs)...he knows she will not refuse him anything but he respects her so much now that he is going out of his way to make her comfortable around him...he is constantly observing her and trying his best to put her at ease...

I could go on n on but i am going to stop my rant here...not that good with words like you guys!

Originally posted by: 5cents

Munni, a very well written...thought provoking post👏

You have eloquently put your thoughts and ideas with the help of wonderful quotes👍🏼.

Marriage or relationship requires three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment. Different loving relationships have different combinations of these elements. Complete love requires all three elements. Most important to a healthy, happy relationship is that both partners should have compatible expectations both physical & mental😳

People have so many misconceptions regarding physical intimacy that they fail to realize its essence, love and lust are 2 different things.Body and mind have their needs and consummation is no big deal and it is not LUST. Physical relationship is something that enshrines love.

The day Ahem will remember about the Holi Milan he'll be mighty pleased😳.

Gohem's relationship has everything today...PASSION, COMMITMENT, RESPECT and now almost INTIMACY ( hope he remembers the consummation soon)☺️

Originally posted by: vibz88

I would like to ask you if some comment disturbs you why dont you take the direct approach and confront the person then and there instead of waiting for almost a month ?