Essence of Marriage-Consummation : GoHem, RaJi

copy pasted this line from the forum here... which kept me into thinking... Is marriage all about consummation... is it all about physical relation.. does it not have any other meaning... why do we even need marriage, if all that matters is consummation or physical intimacy at the end of it...

Does the terms like,mutual understanding, trust, care/concern , friendship and love have no place in a marriage?
It's sad and pathetic that we do put behind all these and see consummation as the main target of marriage...

Friendship:

the importance of friendship in a marriage is not a new concept introduced by the marriage counsellors..it's been there since vedic times
One of the questions the Yaksha asked Yudhishtira was
"kimsvin mitram grhesatah?" i.e. Who is the friend of a householder?
To which the prince answered
"bhaaryaa mitram grhesatah," i.e., the friend of a householder is his spouse.

What they say after they have taken those seven steps (saptapadi) is unquestionably the foundation for a successful marriage. Together they chant:

sakhaa sapta padi bhava sakhyam te gameyam

sakhyam te mayoshah sakhyam te mayoshtah

"With these seven steps you have become my friend. May I deserve your friendship. May my friendship make me one with you. May your friendship make you one with me."

As we have seen, friendship is the basis for Ahem and Gopi's marriage. she writes in her essay that Ahemji is her best friend... this is how their relation started

Trust:
Trust is the basis for any relation and for marriage it is even more important...do we have an ounce of doubt on Gopi and Ahem's trust on each other. Ahem trusted her ever since he she cried and hugged him during on the day of cheating . he trusted her words and went to school and took a challenge to teach her in 10 days ..and after that the rest is history

Gratitude: we always wondered why Ahem always says thank you ..for little things like tea or blue file 'we thought they are not behaving like a more couple .but we are wrong... here is the reason
Showing genuine gratitude, to a spouse, shows love and strengthens marriage. Giving thanks is easy and should be done for both the little and the big things, especially those things a spouse does on a daily basis.- got from an external resource
Ahem is showing love by appreciating her help.. he is not taking her for granted.. he is treating her with due respect

Care and Concern: A wife and husband should care for each, should be concerned about each other..as this is a relation for life ...Gopi, the sweet heart always cared and was concerned for him ever since he came in her life.. Ahem's caring attitude and his concern was evident on the day she she applied the pepper kajal... he was worried and he took care of her... he however pushed it behind her exams as the reason for his actions..this comes into picture because you share friendship with your spouse

Love:
Above all... Ahem and Gopi has immense, unconditional love for each other.. their love is beyond words and they share their feelings with out actual words... Each other's happiness is the sole aim of this couple...(can go over 5000 words here 😛..but will stop)

Rashi and Jigar- please shed some light on my intelligence whether there is mutual trust, mutual understanding...mutual concern/care, friendship, gratitude...

Marriage is marriage and is not a mere love affair which is but an infatuation. Love affair is a relationship just for the pleasure of the person involved and it has no consideration of the families of the persons. When the pleasure wears out, the affair is gone.

But, marriage is a life commitment.If you make a sacrifice, you are not sacrificing to that person. It is a sacrifice to a permanent relationship.Love bears all, endures all. If the relationship has pains, remember that life is a mixture of joys and sorrows.

please leave your views about marriage and the first statement😃

**OOps.. Made another post😃***

There is nothing I can add that can make more sense.. Your every word and quote hit the mark..⭐️⭐️

A real relation is one that acts on more than just attraction. The main reason I write this is because that is how it works in Indian culture. There are more arranged marriages than love marriages.. The basis of this marriage is friendship. A friendship not just in name but in total sense..

I made the last statement because, we all know Rashi and Jigar started their marriage on friendship. They decided and even now have decided to start as friends and work their way to the next level.. The problem is that this has just remained in words. They agreed to be friends in name and Jigar wants to move to the next level too soon. Again the reason I say this is not based on the time they have been in their marriage. It is more to do with what they did to become real friends in this time. There is no proper conversation, no sharing of ideas, sorrows, fears, expectations and disappointments..

Aham and Gopi however did not have even friendship in the beginning. But then slowly their relationship changed to start as a mutual agreement and then moved to a good friendship. Theirs is really a true friendship. There is trust, understanding, compromise, silence and concerns/happiness shared in their friendship. Aham goes to Gopi's level to make her understand something... Gopi makes it a point to explain to Aham, why she did what she did.. This makes their friendship special.

What makes them a couple is the attraction and the friendship combined. They are attracted to each other but that is not all. Their attraction with their friendship is the sweetest thing. They are a couple who understand the responsibilities and beauty of their relationship and take it slowly.

Physical intimacy is important. But that is not all.. Marriage provides you a companion who will be there with you when no one else is around to support you. A husband and wife are not just lovers.. Their relationship goes over and beyond that of lovers. They are friends, companions, confident, sometime teachers, sometime negotiators and lovers all in one.. A true meaning of marriage comes when the relation comes out shining through the good and bad times.. That is why a marriage can make or break a person😃