Why angry with Phui when we should sympathise

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Utishma

@Utishma

Beginner

Posted: 13 years ago

I am a little disappointed with all viewers who are upset with Yash's Phui. I agree with every body about what she is doing is not right at it is creating more trouble for Yash and Arti whose relationship has not established and is on shaky grounds.

However, if we look at the whole thing from her point of view, we will realize that she is frustrated for right reasons.

1. Scindiyas thought about re-marriage for Yash and are willing to take a "widow" as his bride but never thought to re-marry her.

2. One might argue that They wanted Yash to remarry for his daughters. BUT just because she does not have children does that mean she does not feel lonely? She does not have a right to be happy with some one? She does not have a right to have a chance to have her own family?

3. Scindiyas are Hypocrites who are not looking at the pain of on of their own. In their house what is the meaning of her existence? She is just a walking talking non-entity.

I HOPE:

After marriage, Aarti recognizes her pain and loneliness, and makes Yash see it . Both of them together with help of our cute jodi Pradi (Pratiek -Paridi) and mature Vibha Bhabhi solve her problem.

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Christine

@westindian

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

I agree, I feel sorry for her. Her loneliness and unfulfilled life has turned her bitter. It's obvious she envies Aarti as she is getting a second chance at happiness. Let's hope things change for the better for her in the serial.😊

Edited by westindian - 13 years ago

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Priya

@-Serene.Rose-

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 13 years ago

May be u are right! But ya know, its so difficult to change this type of person's mind, howmuch ever you try to do them good, they will always consider you as a stubborn & selfish person, doing 'meherbaani' only to earn a good name in the family.

Aarthi likes to befriend her & help her then she may say, 'I don't want your help! Zyada acha banne ki zaroorat nahi?'

Don't ya think so? Well, CVs toh kuch bhi kar sakthe hai! Kya patha bua ji achi banjaye!

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whatthewhat

@whatthewhat

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

Well I agree that her family has not done right by her...However, I think her jealousy and bitterness and the harm she is trying to do to Yash (from the pre-cap)...that comes from her own twisted personality...you can't blame the Scindias for it.

Some people who are in terrible situations face their problems with grace, dignity and courage and others, like bua, become bitter and destructive...

Bua seems to have a voice when it comes to spreading her ill-will...she could use that voice more positively to talk to her brother/sister-in-law (i mean Mr and Mrs Scinida) and explain how unhappy she is...BUT she chooses to spend her energies spreading negativity

So I cannot sympathize with her...

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jikky_84

@jikky_84

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: narangi_77
Well I agree that her family has not done right by her...However, I think her jealousy and bitterness and the harm she is trying to do to Yash (from the pre-cap)...that comes from her own twisted personality...you can't blame the Scindias for it.

Some people who are in terrible situations face their problems with grace, dignity and courage and others, like bua, become bitter and destructive...

Bua seems to have a voice when it comes to spreading her ill-will...she could use that voice more positively to talk to her brother/sister-in-law (i mean Mr and Mrs Scinida) and explain how unhappy she is...BUT she chooses to spend her energies spreading negativity

So I cannot sympathize with her...

I agree with you, Some people who are in terrible situations face their problems with grace, dignity and courage and others, like bua, become bitter and destructive...

Yash almos faced a tragedy in life by loosing his wife, was he jealous that his younger brother is going to get married. Even though he was and is sad but still he always tries to do everything to make his brother and family happy.

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whatthewhat

@whatthewhat

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

@jikky_84

Exactly! If bua had any semblance of goodness, she would be the first one to explain to Yash the pain and loneliness of a widow/widower's life...she would have encouraged him to marry and to try and accept Aarti with an open heart...This might have given her family some pause...and might have got them thinking about her life too...

Instead, she is jealous of Aarti and trying to destroy the marriage even before it's happened. She's unhappy, so she wants everyone to be unhappy...charming behavior. 😲

But every story needs a villain and I for one am enjoying her out and out sicko character...

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@roseinbloom

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

I for one don't hate her .. but understand where she comes from. Sometimes her reactions or hurtful words may make me angry but it's like an instant reaction thing.

Otherwise it is not her fault she is sometimes so bitter towards this whole remarriage thing. Why wouldn't she be when she herself is a widow and no one in their house thought of her happiness yet they are going full-fledged for Yash?

I guess we feel since its not Aarti's fault she shouldn't be poisoning Yash's mind against her. And that is normal because the Bua should speak about this with Suraj Pratap Scindia. He is the ruler of the house and if she feels neglected or looked over then she should discuss it with him. Of course we still have to see more of her background later on in the story to see if she DID indeed speak to them .. then it would be a different story.

But all that aside I feel the Bua is right in her own way. If Aarti is having her punar vivaah done then why can't she? The household should hold the same views -- which clearly they don't .. because Yash's parents make it seem like they're doing a big favour on Aarti for getting her married to Yash.