Are women really treated like this in India?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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A man can get divorced but not a woman? An unmarried woman after a certain age is shunned? A divorcee is considered almost like a leper? I really liked the MIL's defence of Aarti but majority opinion of the other women seem to be opposite and I know this will be a VERY UNPOPULAR opinion but I think this Yash is a sourpuss, very humourless
I hope no one is offended about my remarks about India, but the soaps do not project a very progressive side, particularly towards the way women are treated

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: celina30

A man can get divorced but not a woman? An unmarried woman after a certain age is shunned? A divorcee is considered almost like a leper? I really liked the MIL's defence of Aarti but majority opinion of the other women seem to be opposite and I know this will be a VERY UNPOPULAR opinion but I think this Yash is a sourpuss, very humourless

I hope no one is offended about my remarks about India, but the soaps do not project a very progressive side, particularly towards the way women are treated


obviously its disgusting how some people consider women inferior...according to me Women r at par with men, so there should be no discrimination in any field.
But about Yash...he is someone who has lost his wife whom he loved more than life itself.what do u expect? U want him to crack humorous jokes?😆
Aarti's situation is different...also a girl handles such things more strongly, but for a guy, emotional setbacks r the worst...they suffer much more and tend to become aloof from everything else...I think Yash's character has been shown exactly the way it should be.I for one would not hv related to a humourous Yash as i relate to him now!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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In India there is definitely a cultural, religious, and social stigma associated with divorce. Community disapproval is stronger for divorced women than it is for divorced men. Divorced women are often misinterpreted as being frivolous, immoral and sexually permissive.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Indians still have to change a lot. Though there are many broad minded people majority is otherwise. Can U believe a guy rejected my di's proposal just bcoz she had plucked her eye-brows too thin 😕


But the actual problem is not that. My parents are inter-caste. So they dont want to mention that. But i had many harsh xperiences when we are lukin for a groom for my sis. These thing are there but no one talks about it. ANd they become prominent when u seek alliance sad but true 🤔

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Women are treated in some form or fashion dofferent then men all over the owrld. If they were not everyone would not be aspiring for one son at least. have you ever heard majority saying I wish i had a girl
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: madhubala123

Indians still have to change a lot. Though there are many broad minded people majority is otherwise. Can U believe a guy rejected my di's proposal just bcoz she had plucked her eye-brows too thin😕


But the actual problem is not that. My parents are inter-caste. So they dont want to mention that. But i had many harsh xperiences when we are lukin for a groom for my sis. These thing are there but no one talks about it. ANd they become prominent when u seek alliance sad but true🤔




Your siste should reject that man who have no self respect.
I am glad your sis did not merry him.

No surprise here, most parts in India is still like that and I think it's another 200 years when they will stop being sexist.

And when a person is sexist they name it it's a cultural, how disgusting. People can still keep the cultural and provide fatness in both male and female.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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India is against divorce, not just for women but also for men, because I like some divorcees who are men and they are finding it very difficult to get married.

While the stigma is wrong, I agree, for either men or women, I am not that much in support of divorce either, EXCEPT when one of the partners is being unfaithful or abusing you. In that case, the practical thing to do would be to escape the marriage as soon as possible.

But I don't want India to become like the American society, where every other couple has had a divorce and they don't have respect for marital relationships. Getting divorce for stupid reasons is not something our Indian society does, because we value the institution a lot more than the western world does.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Contrary to popular opinion, I think many things in India have improved greatly. Women would not have been able to escape abusive marriages even 20 years ago, while the court has made it a much easier process now.

Things are changing, and India is getting more progressive though it may not seem like it now, but at the same time, we should not wish for our culture to be replaced by the western one. Indian culture is a very beautiful thing and the importance it gives to family and marriage is something that should be protected and cherished.

What we should work towards is getting rid of inequality and horrible things like bride burning for dowry or sex selective abortions, but completely replacing Indian culture with the American one is not acceptable in my opinion.

I know no one is saying that here, but I've heard these arguments before so that's why I'm saying it.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Well, this is how most of traditional patrilineal socities see it not just in India. India is just one part if the many socities which still treat women as second class citizens who are not worth giving attention to and who are half wits and do not have to abilities to think smartly and effectively. Their place in societies are just to stay at home and take care of the household as well as the children and be obedient first to their father in their maiden times and then to their husbands after their marriage. They have no will, no rights and have to follow everything that the men pf their lives said. That is the reason why in society such as India i is still really important for families to have sons as they are the waaris of the family who are able to take care of the family afterwards. The birth of a baby boy is celebrated illustriously whilst the birth of a baby girl is frown upon and regretted about. Almost of all activists and NGOs organizations in India are those who help women and fight for women rights in India especially in small villages where the traditional values are still deeply rooted in India. Let's just hope that this serial and other methods that are being put into actions will be effective as to help women rights not only in India socities but also in those socities where women are being treated injusticely.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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not only India, there are many countries/societies like this...

You will find women become head of the nation and on the other hand, female infanticide (u must have read the news of the doctor at the clinic in Edgbaston, Birmingham, who was secretly filmed offering to arrange an abortion for a woman who said she wanted to terminate her pregnancy because the baby was a girl.)

there are gals choosing their life partners based on love and not age, cast, color, religion and then you will find khap panchayats hanging couples who 'dared' to love
my own frnd had to elope with her BF n her dad had taken out a gun to kill them, this happening in a very modern society... thankfully within a year both the families accepted the relationship!

if the society pokes their nose when a couple genuinely don't want to be together then it is very wrong and shows don't make much of a difference to those who like to make their duty to comment on other people's affairs but it atleast brings confidence to people who want to be mature and live their life as they want to...

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