What is so special about our brothers?

I dont know if this happens in any other asian famillies but it surely happens in mine and that too BIG TIME.

Everytime me or my sisters have an argument with our brother(only 16)my mum always supports him(i think asians girl are probably use to being treated like the black sheep😆)Anyway the one thing my mum says to all of us during any arguments is that we shouldnt be arguing with him as hes going to be there for us,hes always going to look after us and if any problems occur he will be first at the scene and so on.

Asian parents trust their sons alot,they always think that they are going to exceed their expectations and reach for their stars(if your from an asian family that wont be anything new to you)lastly they think brothers should be treated like prince at home while sisters warm the food and do the ironing for them

Is there anything special about our brothers which means that they've got to be treated differently?

umm. i dont think my parents ever treated my brother as prince 😆 he would 've big story telling how they treated me as princess though 😆. I think my grandma always told that don't yell at girls once they get married you dont know what type of family they'll get so always love them and treat them nice right now 😉 i know i used to fight with my mom if she asked only me to do household chores and made sure that my brother also warm up the food and i used to ask for turns for household chores and argue till they 've to ask my brother to help or either let me not do that too 😆

So i dont think all asian family treat their son as prince. Also, lot of them have now realized that girls are also going to be with them and take care of them when they need. I have seen so many girls and "damad" helping and taking care of their parents in old age for some reason or other.

But as you said, i have also seen family that treat their son as prince. and always defend boys to answer your question - NO, there is nothing special about our brothers. Soon these brother and parents realize about it better for them 😃 'coz i think too much pampering is not good for health 😛

I am so sorry Soruj that you have to live in such an environment. It's not fair to you. Not all Asians family treat their daughters like they are worthless. It varies from family to family. But please don't let these things come in your way. I don't think if you mentioned your age...is your brother older than you or younger?
Follow your dream, have an excellent career and prove your parents wrong.

I agree with DF, follow your dream and have a excellent career and prove your parents wrong.
All parents are not like this, but there are huge number of them who are partial. And it's not their fault, i think its the way they have been brought up and their exposure to life and surrounding make them like this. I have seen family who give so much importance to boys and then when that boy get married it depends upon the "girl" he marries how that family is going to shape. So boys are not able to support their parent's 'coz his wife-a girl won't let him. So ultimately I think girls are huge support system in thsi whole organisation called "Family". Also, you should tell yoru parents that we are also your child and we will also be hurt same way as our brother if something happens to you. We would want to help you same way as he does. I know they won't accept it but we can make them realize that world has changed now and we as girl also can support them and stand next to them when needed.

I don't know whether I should be glad or sorry, since I have no brother.

But one thing I have noticed that sometimes treatment towards the children are more or less different from each other. Like I have seen the youngest/younger one gets pampered mostly, the prettiest, the talented and intelligent ones get more attention. In a family of one daughter and one son usually it's balanced. While in a family of 3-4 children, the gender which is lesser in number usually are treated well(not trying to mean that others are treated badly).

These might not be true in all the cases.

Now a days, I have also seen a trend. Usually girs are more inclined towards their parents. If a girl is self-sufficient and has good support from husband and in-laws, I think they can be equally reliable like their brothers and they can also take care of their parents.

He he .. im the one REAL princess in my family😳😃...for those who really know me on IF also know why😉😆!!!

I have no brother too .. but that's one thing my parents are truely against- gender discrimination in family... always i have heard my papa and mom commenting on a particular family which follow such baseless assumptions, that they are 200% wrong and also discuss the after-effects of such an attitude e.g. low confidence, fear to take courageous steps in life, etc.(not in every case ..but it does happen) .. my parents have always put their children first and our personality development is their motto... i also sometimes have to prove myself at different occasions but just becoz they initially thought that im bit irresponsible (Im NOT!! And i have already proved this to my parents😉😃) and Thank GOD that they have started taking me seriously😆..but im still a pesky teen to them😉... I totally agree with DF and sowmyaa di... Soruj sometimes u do have to change ur parents thoughts on some issues by confronting them.. if u do it technically and nicely i hope that they understand.. (It is a personal experience😉)

(P.S. Aaahaaan sowmyaa di.. got u!!!!😆😆..This shows how naughty u were in ur teenz...😉 he he .. im not the only one here now😉)

I think gender discrimination in families is bad...parents are supposed to nurture their kids and give them lots of security to face the world, not make them more insecure, that too based on something over which they have absolutely no control-- their gender.

I have an older brother and a younger sister (we adopted her a few years back) and i can so proudly say that my parents always apply everything to us in an equal manner...i remember when i was little i would ask my mom who she loves more, me and my brother...and she would always say she loves us equally....my little sister does it now, and my mom replies her love is 33.333% for each of us... 😆 👏

I def. agree with DF and sowmyaa...if you can't change how they think, then just fight for your dreams and never give up on them. Eventually, they'll realize your worth and if they don't still, then that's just their loss..

Soruj...to answer your question...there is nothing at all special in brothers....but some of these old, out-dated traditions still do exist, unfortunately. Both girls and boys are each special and unique in their own ways...

idk how to feel..cuz i don't have a brother..i only have 2 sisters that are younger than me..and i obviously i win all the time 😆 😆

also Soruj..I feel like you are really bothered by your mother's attitude towards your brother. You have posted something so personal. Don't think too much about it...if your mom is doing that, may be that's the way she was raised. It will be hard to change her just by lecture. If you were to talk to her about it , how much benefit you are going to get out of it? Don't abandon yourself from your parents, but like every one else is saying, focus on positive aspects of your life. These kind of small things can have life time affect. Just learn from this and tell your self that you won't treat your daughter like this...

i dnt think its just brothers its the entire male populatin-in asian families they are always treated better then women. a common example is when if a women goes around with boys they are lk at with shame-but if its a boy then no one cares! another is when boys are allowed to go out all the time and do no household chores and girls arent allowed to go out as much and made to do housewrk! 😡 😳 😆