Why is divorce such a bad idea?

watching the recent episodes with brahma threatening to divorce from devyani, and devyani acting as though brahma had told her he would kill her in her sleep, one thought struck me...isnt this something devyani should rejoice over. if i was married to a man like brahma i would divorce years ago. and i dont understand why priya keeps saying oh hes just threatening to divorce, everythign will be fine, and then saying the family will be fine. instead she should be encouraging devyani to divorce from brahma that would be the biggest slap to the face! what is this show trying to say to the women in india who are married to abusive disgusting men. that they should stand up to themself but not go for a divorce? i really think that priya, being smart and sensible, should be encouraging divorce as a part of standing up for ones rights.

any thoughts?😊

She's always, however, protected her children from such pain. And she feels it will be the epitome of pain and destruction for her children if he was to divorce her. And that too, to replace her with his sister.

There's also the fear of the unknown. Remember, she has seen Uttara replace her in her household with the chores, replace her as a wife even, but the one place she can't be replaced, that she can not watch silently while replacement takes place is that of a mother. They're her kids, and they better stay that way.

I am a mom, and I can tell you that once you create that bond, there's nothing like it. Nothing. A divorce one can get over, eventually. But if someone threatens to replace you wholly, your identity as you define it by way of motherhood, then that can be irrevocable pain. And that's what she's scared of. Mostly, unfounded, if she were to think it logically through.

She just has to call his bluff. Just has to say 'ok, Uttara talked me into it, you guys are right. Instead of carrying on this illicit affair, go on and do it properly.'

And then walk away - calling his bluff.

Uttara won't last a month. And Brahma will go berserk. The family will go berserk. But above all else, what's Brahma going to tell the entire world - that the SSP divorced his wife and married the younger sister, who oh-by-the-way was living in the house prior to the divorce?

All Devyani has to is calm down, get rid of the fear, and t hink it through. She's been through much worse, and now the kids are older, she, and they, can handle it.

-S

She is concerned about her children .

She thinks her position will be lost that is also to her younger sister ,

In a way this was also needed to show that Maryada is not a typical Tv show . Here Devyani is playing a role similar to real life women .

I think she should divorce him, but that will mean her children will suffer and that is exactly why, for all these years she has been suffering in the hands of her husband, just for the happiness of her family. She has got so used to keeping everyone else happy that it will be very very hard for her to think about herself now.