Anandi and Dadisa's double talk

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I am very disturbed with anandi's and dadisa's double talk.
Anandi said that people need to be taught a lesson and slapped the eveteaser yesterday.
Could she not have slapped jagya too? ... and why is she sending him money?
Could she not have slapped Jagya when he introduced her as his "door ka rishtedaar" at the birthday party?
Dadisa too gave a lecture about how things have not changed since centuries -- and how men still take women for granted.
Yet, for Jagadish, when she had come running down the stairs to stop him and gauri from leaving after her heart attack (when bhairon paid him for his daactari efforts and put a wad of notes into his pocket)...
She said "oh two wives is not a big deal... sadiyon se ye reeth chali aaa rahi hain...anandi ke jo haq hai, wohi haq gauri ke be honge...dono haveli ke beendhini".
was what jagya did not disrespectful of women?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Absolutely agree and am also having trouble swallowing the pravachans these days especially by Anandi. If Dadisa has two sets of rule books, one for her family men and one for outsiders, that is very predictable but I certainly did not expect same from extremely principled Anandi. I am having a really hard time reconciling the two Anandis (Jagya's Anandi and Gaon Anandi). Sooner or later if she is expected to take up public office then the twain shall have to meet. She has to emerge above reproach in order to not only gain trust but also make a lasting difference in the society.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Anandi should punish J I agree...even Dadisa has behaved very bad in the past
but when Jagya has come back with Gauri she was opposed to them she said all those things to convince them to stay back.
It was part of her plan.To make them stay and then create misunderstandings between them.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@Niharika -- yes, it was part of the plan to make J-G stay and create misunderstandings.
But that plan in itself reeked of double standards to begin with. You will create misunderstandings for what -- so that anandi will take him back because she is a better wife?
And the plan to make him stay was not for anandi's benefit -- it was for dadisa's own benefit because she wanted Jagdish to stay back -- and also for J's benefit because she thought that Anandi will be a better servant (oops I meant wife) than Gauri.
If Dadisa truly believed what J had done was wrong -- then she should have kicked him out.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@parri - yes. the two sets of 'rules' from anandi is what sickens me.
And i feel that she has no common-sense. To start arguing with the sadhu in the middle of the pravachan is ridiculous...and challenging him is not even practical. It just antagonizes everyone and gets her more enemies.
It's obvious the sadhu was an idiot -- but does one have to pick a fight with every silly inconsequential person on the road? Everyone has their perspective. Why agitate the sadhu and try to humiliate him/challenge him in front of his audience. Unnecessarily gain more enemies.
But more importantly, if you have such a strong sense of right and wrong, why not use the same standard for jagya. Give pravachans to jagya too.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Dadisa is a grey character...she would never go against her ladesaar.
And she has a tendency of blaming the wife.Jagya went away frm Anandi coz Gauri trapped him so she tried to create misunderstanding so tht he comes back to already trainned beendni.
This is the way most people think in India.Its wrong but what to do It'll take time to change this balme-the_girl attitude.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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But yesterday, dadisa did not blame gulli (with her blame the girl attitude)... she readily blamed the boy. 😆
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Originally posted by: tinoo

But yesterday, dadisa did not blame gulli (with her blame the girl attitude)... she readily blamed the boy. 😆

Because he was not her ladesar...I wonder how would she react is somebody complains of eve teasing against Jagya 😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: niharika_n

Dadisa is a grey character...she would never go against her ladesaar.

And she has a tendency of blaming the wife.Jagya went away frm Anandi coz Gauri trapped him so she tried to create misunderstanding so tht he comes back to already trainned beendni.
This is the way most people think in India.Its wrong but what to do It'll take time to change this balme-the_girl attitude.



Agreed 100% niharika...

thats what sickens me the most that many people instead of sympathizing with the victim tend to blame her.

Why she didn't do this , why she didn't do that. etc etc etc

Blame the girl...

I mean Jagya is the jerk who did everything, but no one really questions him. Not much is said about him, except with an attitude of ' oh well he is a loser - lets move on'

but when it comes to Anandi, every single action of hers is looked upon with the microscopic eye. I mean why?

She was ALWAYS like this against people who did injustice from her childhood. And why is it hard ot believe that , she did not hurt jagya, or want to hurt jagya, because she is in love with him.

Even the most sane of the person can do insane things when in love. That part of her will never go away. So she is not being hypocritical because, her weakness is Jagya and when it comes to him, her rational leaves her.


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About DS she always has supported Jag as well. He is her weakness , just like he is the weakness of Anandi and now Gauri. When it comes to Jagya, these women loose their rational and this happens in real life too.

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So according to what everyone is saying is: Anandi should have just let gulli be in her state? not help her? because she herself is a sorry person so why help others and try to create some sort of change.

It is very sad indeed. Blame the victim attitude. She has gone through so much in her life, and instead of sympathizing her and cheering her on , for the positive steps she has taken to change her life, many are taking the anger of Jagya on her. [blame the girl]

wow India certainly has not changed.
It is certainly a curse to be born as a woman in this land. Cause no matter how much you do. you WILL be blamed.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

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So according to what everyone is saying is: Anandi should have just let gulli be in her state? not help her? because she herself is a sorry person so why help others and try to create some sort of change.


No Suchi -- that is not what "everyone" is saying at all.
Nobody should have said that gulli should be left in her state or not helped.
what "everyone" is saying is that in addition to helping gulli, she should also help herself in the same fashion.

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