Originally posted by: barbie2011
Hey Manoj;
happy to see you backš¤ with a thought provoking post.I had read the topic yesterday when you said is he worthy of love? and then you changed it to love for a 19yr old?..I wanted to reply at that point itself but was stuck with work and meetings..and now its already at 4 pages..everybody has said most of it, so there was nothing nuch to add, but i guess i will still share it all...thanks for the pm dear..it means a lot...
I agree to a lot of your points, as Anant a always put navya in trouble and now he was also stopping navya from sharing it with her mom, being immatured and high-on candy most of the times...but there are somethings i dont agree too or i think needs to be looked with a different perspective...
Both your toics..is he worthy of love? and love for a 19yrs old? didnt gell in well with me..for some reason i was a little uneasy reading the topic...the post made much more sense though...
when you said is he worthy of love?? i was thinking how can we really decide that? i agree navya had to face trouble and she has been put into difficult situations due the Anant time and again..but is it that he does that knowing what will be the result..no he does that out of his love, and when ever he understands the trouble she goes thru..he repents and also thinks abt not doing it again..you are seeing the problems, but what abt the sweet momments that he did to make her feel happy, feel special..does that not count??
love of a 19yr old??..i guess age does matter and in this case navya is more matured and sensible than anant.
It is just not about age though, a persons behaviour is rooted in his upbringing, in his family enviornment, in his surrounding...navya comes from a family where parents are strict but they are loving too..she can share her feeling with her dad and mom, without much fear or hesitation and her parents also mend their ways to make the kids happy insuch enviornment you are bound to be more close and true with your family, so i understand navya's guilt and completely stand by her decision to tell everything to her mom...
Anant on the other side, comes from a family where no one except oodi baba makes decisions, he cant even be excited or happy in his own house, everything he says, he feels, he does is constanly weighed in the parameters of family values, culture and tradition...he has never experienced love, affection and closeness to anybody before navya...as he said in his speech...navya makes him feel alive, he feels free , he feels complete..and when at any point you find someone who makes you feel this way..and that too for the first time..you dont know how to react..you are too happy, you get easily carried away in the momments becuase you dont know how long it will last, it is just magic for you...so Anant does all the stupid/high-on cand things.and he does that not only with navya..but remember after the speech he rushed to hug Renu also..that says the same thing...he has never experienced it before and so he does not know how to behave to be true..Exactly...even I thought about Anant's behavior and reached to this conclusion only.I don't know whether CV's have given so much thought in building up his character as we doš...but yes!! kids like Anant do exist in reality.Their family is so much bogged down by their own prestige and ego ,that neither they grow with times nor do they encourage their children to open their wings and fly high ,poor kids...lucky are the ones who get good friends / life partner..etc who can hold their hands and prepare them to face the outside world...(unlike their family members,whose world is shut ,even to their own kids). At times these youngsters feel completely lost and confused because they don't know who is to be trusted,so they do make mistakes but nevertheless are open to accepting it also...Navya is shown as a girl who can actually make this journey easy for Anant....Rama type characters also do exist but such creepy acts that she does are shown only on TV...generally Rama type of people, never develop any attachment towards their in laws and never care for anything whether it is good or bad happenings...their loyalty lies only with their maayka.
This is the same reason why our mandbudhi..trust Rama so easily..for him now everytihng is just pure and nice as navya..for the first time he has experienced this feeling and sees that his bhabhi is reciprocating him and now also his brother with similar feeling..he has never seen this happen in his house before..so he is rallly happy abt it and so he trust rama,as if rama also leaves no stones unturn to make an impression on him( even if i say this..i get upset when he trust Rama..becuase it will hurt him a lot when th truth will be disclosed). he was afraid of navya sharing it with his mom, because he was looking it all for mhis perspective..he is still not fully aware of the lovely realtion and family navya has...but still at the end he agreedto navya's decision an told her that he is by her side ,for everr..this is waht matters at the end...
Anant will slowly grow and be more mature as he spends more time with navya and know his family better..
I know Anant has never got a chance to stand up strong till now..and that makes his character a little more weaker than what it is in reality? ..I hope and have my fingers crossed that he will stand next to navya and hold her tight when it is his turn to confront his family..for some reason i know he will not stammer and shudder as he did before...
ok, i said it all that was in my mind, since i read your post yesterday..sorry for my long ranting, a always...pata nai kaise har post long hi ho jaata haiš²š...
love your post šand keep writingš...
P.S..i am sorry if i sound harsh at any point, i in no means i wanted to hurt your or my lovely navyans feelings...i love your writing a lot...
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