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I am rather concerned about the way PV is going about handling Sulochana's case. I am particularly concerned that Sulochana has resorted to live in a home for the aged or the destitute based on the fact that it is not right for her to go to her daughters.
I'm sorry i cannot fathom this school of thought. I am not certain of the Indian conventions but leaving that aside, i am flabbergasted that a mother would not turn to her daughters simply because she feels that it is the son's right to have her and not the daughter's right.
I am very concerned of the message that PV is dishing out to society - that a mother, no matter how helpless she is, should not go to her daughter for help.
I would like to remind the producers of PV and to those who are clinging on to such traditions (if there are any) that a mother gives birth to both sons and daughters and showers her love equally or at times almost equally to all. A son/daughter should be grateful to the mother/father for the life that they have been given, for the nurturing they had received. Love has no boundaries - it transcends all - there is no difference in a love of a son or daughter (all things being equal). However, i agree that there are degrees of love in the sense that a son may be manipulated by his wife (like Vinod) although he may love his mother, he accedes to his wife's requests simply because he is afriad of losiing her or she troubles him so much that he needs his peace of mind (which actually can be achieved by leaving her,... anyways that is not always possible) .
What i am trying to say is that a mother should be able to approach any child (irrespective of sex) for help and support - and the child should provide this support unconditionally - not because it is their duty (but this helps if there's no other reason), but becaue it is only human to reach out to someone in need. A mother must not feel that she cannot approach her daughter because she belongs to another family. I think it is time society realises that ties of the heart is not broken by such conventions. Why can't people think that a son-in-law is added to my family rather than i lost a daughter. If they can think this way, Sulochana would not be in this situation.
To me if, eg., Archana and Manav, who lives with Manav's parents (not sure if they do but presuming they do) can accept Sulochana is Archana's parent what a great thing it is. For a son/daughter to take care of their aging parents is a GREAT thing, one that brings uncountable good merits.
It is sad that PV is supporting the convention that a mother should not go to daughter's no matter what.
I hope that PV can break tradition (if it is a tradition) and show how children can take care of both sets of parents.
I'm not sure whether i got my message across but i hope it is realised that MOTHER AND FATHER ARE THE BRAHMAS AT HOME... no point in praying to gods if you cannot take care of your parents.
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