Disturbing Show and Disturbing Concept

I am baffled at what is so romantic or compelling to watch in this relationship with these two characters that are distinctly lacking in chemistry. A 12 year old boy is forced to marry an adult woman - ILLEGAL. He is then supposed to have fallen in love with a woman who has not aged in over 10 years! This woman is supposed to be someone for whom he has apparently formed a desire. Are we supposed to believe that for over 10 years during these young boy's adolescent that he NEVER had a crush on a girl his OWN age? Give me a break. Who are these writers trying to kid.

In all fairness what you say does sound terrible in print, and you are entitled to your own opinion.

In my own humble opinion...The show's makers are showing a practice that is common in certain parts of the country- that of "deeyarvattu", wherein a widow is married to her brother-in-law to secure her life. Ironically enough, it was to escape this practice that Gulaal married Kesar, because she considered this marriage to be null and void. She secured her own sanity and honour for the time being and decided to marry off Kesar to a girl his own age when the right time comes. I am not trying to be nonchalant, but a horrifying truth is that child marriages are very much embedded in the Indian reality. Kesar is surely a victim, but Gulaal's intentions, however misguided, were honourable.

As for Kesar developing a physical desire for his sister-in-law, elder to him by many years...I would say it's natural, if not acceptable for some. From all your remarks, I am guessing that you are not a regular viewer of the show, so I draw your attention to a recent episode where Kesar justifies his attraction and love towards Gulaal by saying that ever since his childhood he has thought of her as his wife... it is for the same reason that he never wavered and thought of another girl. For him, Gulaal is his soul mate, his companion...and he was always loyal to her.

And no mention has been made till date of Gulaal accepting Kesar's advances...she has been stubbornly resisting the idea till now. From all that I have seen of this show it takes sudden plunges into the unexpected. So your question of a mother figure developing a physical desire for the brother-in-law she fostered rests till the future. (Let's just forget Freud and the Oedipus complex for now) And Gulaal was never a mother for Kesar really, she was more a friend for him...the childhood sweetheart kind. I think Kesar's brother Vasant could be considered a father figure for him...more than Gulaal being a foster mother. And your statement about what Gulaal should do- "She should divorce this child from this ludicrous marriage and get out of that house and go home and live with her parents". She did precisely that.

As for Gulaal's physical appearance remaining almost the same- she is not too old. Let's say she was 18/19 when she got married...so 10 years later- she must be 28/29 yrs old. And Kesar is 20/21 . Doesn't sound so bad now, right?

I also understand your concern about how such a TV show, albeit for entertainment can attract people and make them shippers of such an unusual relationship. Our TV Viewing does indicate in many ways how we function as a community. As a viewer, I don't have to justify my choice...but suffice to say that we are all incorrigible romantics at heart and wish for a happily ever after. Gulaal has been alone and unhappy all her life, and if Kesar is the silver lining on her horizon, why not??

Originally posted by: Amri174

In all fairness what you say does sound terrible in print, and you are entitled to your own opinion.

In my own humble opinion...The show's makers are showing a practice that is common in certain parts of the country- that of "deeyarvattu", wherein a widow is married to her brother-in-law to secure her life. Ironically enough, it was to escape this practice that Gulaal married Kesar, because she considered this marriage to be null and void. She secured her own sanity and honour for the time being and decided to marry off Kesar to a girl his own age when the right time comes. I am not trying to be nonchalant, but a horrifying truth is that child marriages are very much embedded in the Indian reality. Kesar is surely a victim, but Gulaal's intentions, however misguided, were honourable.

As for Kesar developing a physical desire for his sister-in-law, elder to him by many years...I would say it's natural, if not acceptable for some. From all your remarks, I am guessing that you are not a regular viewer of the show, so I draw your attention to a recent episode where Kesar justifies his attraction and love towards Gulaal by saying that ever since his childhood he has thought of her as his wife... it is for the same reason that he never wavered and thought of another girl. For him, Gulaal is his soul mate, his companion...and he was always loyal to her.

And no mention has been made till date of Gulaal accepting Kesar's advances...she has been stubbornly resisting the idea till now. From all that I have seen of this show it takes sudden plunges into the unexpected. So your question of a mother figure developing a physical desire for the brother-in-law she fostered rests till the future. (Let's just forget Freud and the Oedipus complex for now) And Gulaal was never a mother for Kesar really, she was more a friend for him...the childhood sweetheart kind. I think Kesar's brother Vasant could be considered a father figure for him...more than Gulaal being a foster mother. And your statement about what Gulaal should do- "She should divorce this child from this ludicrous marriage and get out of that house and go home and live with her parents". She did precisely that.

As for Gulaal's physical appearance remaining almost the same- she is not too old. Let's say she was 18/19 when she got married...so 10 years later- she must be 28/29 yrs old. And Kesar is 20/21 . Doesn't sound so bad now, right?

I also understand your concern about how such a TV show, albeit for entertainment can attract people and make them shippers of such an unusual relationship. Our TV Viewing does indicate in many ways how we function as a community. As a viewer, I don't have to justify my choice...but suffice to say that we are all incorrigible romantics at heart and wish for a happily ever after. Gulaal has been alone and unhappy all her life, and if Kesar is the silver lining on her horizon, why not??

I am very familiar with this aborhent practice and the rationale behind it. What this show does is try to condone it. There is NOTHING natural in why this character Kesar should develop any feelings for Gulaal other than the that of the pervase desire of the writers and the need for higher ratings. Also, what you have written is NOT an explanation or justification for why Kesar has not looked at anyone else. It's a lame excuse again by the writers to push this moronic concept forward. Which 12 year old forms a soulmate or relationship with an adult woman and which society would condone such a practice?

@Laila..what is ur opinion about gays and lesbians??

Laila: since the show is disturbing you so much..I think you should stop watching it. Why would you want to be disgusted every day for 30 minutes...?? 😕 If something disturbs and disgusts me to that extent...I avoid it. Plenty of other shows where bahu's are being tortured by their in-laws, mistreated by their husbands etc etc with extremely high TRP's. Those should be entertaining...

Also, the show was about a girl who could find water, she did that, people lived, everyone happy...did you really expect her to wake up every morning and keep looking for water for every village in the country? Bet that would have made an excellent show with really high TRP's! 🤔

i was a great fan of gulaal initially, but not anymore. no offence to anyone, but here i have to agree with topic maker coz of two things

to beigin with by replying to yur thread i am by no means trying to convince you fr smthing what i think is right n yu consider it wrong.

yaar serial aastitva was too good. and sim was 32 and abay was 22

Originally posted by: Laila2009

I am very familiar with this aborhent practice and the rationale behind it. What this show does is try to condone it. There is NOTHING natural in why this character Kesar should develop any feelings for Gulaal other than the that of the pervase desire of the writers and the need for higher ratings. Also, what you have written is NOT an explanation or justification for why Kesar has not looked at anyone else. It's a lame excuse again by the writers to push this moronic concept forward. Which 12 year old forms a soulmate or relationship with an adult woman and which society would condone such a practice?

I don't care what Gulaal's intentions were; the fact that she participated in such a practice was wrong. What was she thinking at the time or the people around her.

I also never said anyting of Gulaal accepting Kesar's advances. I commented on how disgusting it would be if she did. And please don't waste your time justifying it with Freud's Oedipus Complex which has ZERO scientific basis. To even suggest that boys develop a sexual desire for their mothers or daughter's for their fathers is revolting and was used and is still used by perpetrators for their sexually inappropriate behavior towards their children.

It doesn't matter if these two characters were "friends." I am an adult woman and have known young children - boys - who were 12 when I was 22 and are now older. To even view ANYONE of them in a romantic way would be beyond me. In fact insane.

And have you see the photograph of a 19 year old woman and then at 29 - she looks older. Gulaal is supposed to be 10 years older than Kesar. So according to the story she is supposed to be 32. I did watch this show when it first started and was supposed to be about some girl bringing water to a village but since the TRPs dropped they brought in this ludicrous idea.

I don't find any entertainment in watching the endorsement of this romance and in fact am so repulsed at the idea. I had hoped that the charact would have at least married Tali and these writers would have dropped this idea but I guess the public is so in love with Neil Bhatt that they cannot differ between him and this character Keser or this diabolically backward practice that should have ended years ago along with child marriages, doweries, forced marriages and the toroturous practices widowhood. What next pray are we going to find "romantic" for the sake of entertainment?

Dear God you sound so superficial, small minded and jugdemental. I dont want to sound rude or... well like you... but maybe you should read more about the world, past cultures and present. We are not living in a world like "stepford wives", there are no containers were every beings like can be orderly labeled and put. Your words made me cold, and I was only reading your post with half a heart. Seriously its people like you, who bury their heads in sand is want is partially wrong with the world today, and yes I want to offend you like your post has struck a sharpe pain in me, cause I'm a nurse who cares for the battered wives, and the abused children of forced marriages, and for the ones I know watc this serial would have given anything for a second chance at happiness, for a good honest partner like kesar.