Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Really?

Hey, so this is a question for those who are experienced in this, those who are committed or married or had their hearts broken... and I really would like to know the answer.

Does Absence really make the heart grow fonder? Modify this to: Does having arguments/separations/trust issues in a relationship REALLY make you grow closer at the end of it, or once there is a crack, does it just keep widening into a chasm?

Linking this to Kriya... We've been getting multiple posts everyday to appease us which say that, rest assured, Kriya will be stronger at the end of all this. They will be closer to each other, more trusting, and next time, no one will be able to break them apart.

Now while I know all this will probably happen with Kriya, what I would like to know is Does such a thing happen in real life? Are ppl really able to forget the past and move on with a stronger relationship? Or do such continual trust issues just weaken the bond? I know you guys understand what I am trying to ask, even if I may be unable to phrase it clearly.

I ask this before, whenever I have observed ppl, such sort of issues which lead to one person leaving the home, temporary separations etc, the issue still somewhat seems to be there. Even if they reconcile, it doesnt seem as if they are deeper in love? And a few times, the relationship does end for good.

Therefore, all the girls/ladies/forum members, please tell me what you think... And have you yourself experienced a relationship which went completely sour but sprang back with double the force?

Your ? is ek dum kilear kut!!
I think it depends on the individuals involved. I'm the forgive and forget type ... But the other person has to be willing to make an effort in earnest. How many times can someone make the same mistake and expect forgiveness???

I wrote a nice post and it's now in cyber heaven somewhere.

Let me start again...and keep it shorter this time.😛

TRUST is the foundation on which LOVE GROWS. No trust = no love basically that's it.
Every relationship be it friends, spousal, dating partners, business associates all thrive on trust.
It really boils down to the two persons involved in the relationship. Like a well tended garden that is watered, is given sufficient sunlight, in proper growing conditions and weeds pulled out so too are relationships. The weeds are the arguments, disagreements, "fights" that clear the air giving room to a stronger bond and reestablishes trusts. Trust and doubt like faith and fear and hate/love are the two sides of the same coin.

If the two people involved, be it parent/child or married couple are invested in the relationship and put in every effort to air their feelings candidly then YES, the relationship can survive and become stronger. If there is even a glimmer of mistrust lurking then it festers and becomes the dis-ease that may silently eat away at the lack of complete trust.

Forgiveness is another big part of the equation. We err as humans and the willingness to let go of the past incident and make a fresh start to reestablish the relationship can do wonders. But again just lip service without the sincerity behind the words will surely show up in a different way later on.

Prats was right when she told Krishna that without trust the relationship will rot under the same roof. Krishna who gave her the speech on trust told her, her love gave rise to trust in her. So if Krishna and Prats loved each other implicitly then how come the lack of trust raised it's ugly head in their marriage. Someone dropped the ball here and began to question the fundamental trust they have in each other. Prats trusted Krishna will always stand by her when she told Takurain in a PBJ kind of moment on the terrace. Krishna on the other hand even after a string of events raising doubts about Prats told his family he trusts Prats during the pooja. Prats gave her proof of innocence but Krishna turned out to be the one with feet of clay, for his fragile trust in Prats took a beating the moment his mother set herself ablaze. Not for one moment did he question his mother's intentions or motives. Did guilt and shame in his mother/son relationship undermine the trust in his marriage?

Ok, I'll step away from the podium before I hijack your thread and post a newsletter again.😳😛😉😆
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Originally posted by: Atticus

Your ? is ek dum kilear kut!!
I think it depends on the individuals involved. I'm the forgive and forget type ... But the other person has to be willing to make an effort in earnest. How many times can someone make the same mistake and expect forgiveness???

What you said in two lines ...I went patar-patar in my post. But then what's a Mera post without a few paragraphs at least.😛😆😉

oooh!

Originally posted by: kEEnkEEn

oooh!

For me you have to differentiate between what are essentially misunderstandings and what amounts to a breaking of trust.

Miunderstandings, as in the case of Kriya, can be cleared up if or when an opportunity arises. The reality can dawn and everyone can reconcile and maybe go back tot the way they were, if not stronger.

The breaking of trust however is much harder to reconcile. Even if you can, I truly believe at least an iota of trust will have died forever, never to return.

People do reconcile and continue even in the latter scenario...but not necessarily with all of their heart, maybe more of their mind... but that doesnt mean that with the passage of time, positive action,and patience, trust cannot be rebuilt again.

Very philosphical thread. Am loving it.😃

I personally believe that absence tends to make the heart grow fonder.. but the circumstances and situation play a major part if this is to be accurate.. It also depends on the relationship

If you ask me ... p was correct is stating one cannot keep a relationship in tact without faith and trust in your partner.. but if that has been shaken due to misunderstandings it can slowly be rebuilt with love and sincerity.. it will take time but things will eventually go back to normal..

Now if trust has been broken to the extent that the partner can be no longer trusted.. it will be extremely difficult to rebuild that faith.. there is a fine line between misunderstandings and breaking a loved one's trust.. in this case it may take years in some cases forever but if the love and the willingness is there to work on that relationship even they can become one again... Personally I am willing to let go of trivial issues.. but will take my sweet time to forgive when I have truly been hurt !!

Thank you all for replying 🤗 Since you all speak from experience, I take it that Yes, it is possible... you can fight/argue/have misunderstandings and still get back stronger than ever.

Originally posted by: Binny1247

I personally believe that absence tends to make the heart grow fonder.. but the circumstances and situation play a major part if this is to be accurate.. It also depends on the relationship

If you ask me ... p was correct is stating one cannot keep a relationship in tact without faith and trust in your partner.. but if that has been shaken due to misunderstandings it can slowly be rebuilt with love and sincerity.. it will take time but things will eventually go back to normal..

Now if trust has been broken to the extent that the partner can be no longer trusted.. it will be extremely difficult to rebuild that faith.. there is a fine line between misunderstandings and breaking a loved one's trust.. in this case it may take years in some cases forever but if the love and the willingness is there to work on that relationship even they can become one again... Personally I am willing to let go of trivial issues.. but will take my sweet time to forgive when I have truly been hurt !!