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Well, the problem for me is that so far I have worked in a supermarket as a checkout operator, which I did enjoy but did get bored with it because I was doing the same things and dealing customers face to face everyday.

After that I tried working for a local bank but I left that as it was a HUGE step from working in a supermarket. I then did some data entry work for a parcel company. But the problem here was that there was no fixed time that I would finish, as the work would go on over night depending on what time the couriers would arrive and finish, which I didn't like. I'm willing to work day & night if it is something that I enjoy doing, like dancing. It also included dealing with a few phone enquiries but it also used to freeze in the office I was working in. So now finally I am working in a CALL CENTRE and I'm stuck in yet another dilemma of what to do with my life....

The only way I'll feel satisfied in what I do is if I pursue my talent and passion for dancing. But the question is HOW? Although I am already with a dance academy and they do provide opportunities when there is, but it depends on what kind it is. They also provide students to take a qualification in Bollywood Indian Arts, which I am doing already.

Does anybody know or can offer me any advise for what is the best way to get involved and be apart of dancing? I know there are more opportunities in Mumbai than there is in the UK but I need to start somewhere now....I am a huge fan of Ganesh Hegde and his dance troop!!!!

I'm sorry, I do feel a bit stupid posting on my own problem again, but I have just got back from work and believe me nothing seems to be sinking in with this whole dealing with customers queries on the phone.

I spoke to my supervisor again and she told me that if you're struggling then you need to decide whether you are suitable for the job or not otherwise it will be the other way round and they will have to fire me. I understand she meant it in a good way as my 3 months probation period has come to an end but she has extended that for me to another month now as she knows I am struggling with the enquiries communication. So she was just informing me that it's better to resign if you're struggling than to get the sac basically.., which is true! Everyone is different so not all jobs can suit a person..


I am really in a mess people. Nobody has no idea of how I am feeling. I have tried to explain to my mum and sister about my struggle but my dad still doesn't know about it. I'm feeling even more pressured now because my mum and sister told me that my dad's business is going slow at the moment too, and if he finds out yet again that I am leaving my job, I will be letting him down big time.

I really like this job and was proud of getting it until it came to dealing with enquiries. I am feeling so low right now and my mind is just all confused about what to do, so I am just letting everything out to all of you on here. Please help me...

I feel like getting a gun and shooting myself..

If you dont like the job then it is best to quit..but if you dont find any other alternative then it'll be quite a letdown to your father like you said..

If your mom and sister dont understand then try talking to some of your other relatives whom you are close to..or some of your friends..

Like i said before..any problem is only as big as you let it to be.. so please do not contemplate suicide


But you should remember that not everyone is blessed to do something that he/she has set his heart on..
So one should make the best of what is given to himself/herself and try to be happy..

I understand that you are not so confident when it comes to interacting with people directly face to face or indirectly through the phone..

But it is hard to find jobs where you dont have to interact with people (customers to be precise)..So try to take things slowly and work on your communication skills...

dont keep running away from the problems... you have to turn around and face them ..they are not going to away unless you do so

Hope you change our mindset regarding suicide as that is NOT A SOLUTION

That is some good advice Delilah, and I wish I had more friends and relatives who would support me in the same way.

Originally posted by: delilah

If you don't like the job then it is best to quit. But if you don't find any other alternative then it'll be quite a letdown to your father like you said...If your mom and sister dont understand then try talking to some of your other relatives whom you are close to...or some of your friends…

Sadly, I do have very few friends but not that close who I could talk to about things like this. Friendship is something that I have not been blessed with because I've always had friends that have only used me for their own good/advantage. I value friendship a lot because I am generous and would not do anything to lose this precious gift from god. I used to be very close to my cousins before too, but nothings the same anymore as time changes everyone. It's not me that's changed but time has changed the feelings between my relatives & my family.

Originally posted by: delilah

Like I said before. Any problem is only as big as you let it to be... so please do not contemplate suicide. But you should remember that not everyone is blessed to do something that he/she has set his heart on...
So one should make the best of what is given to himself/herself and try to be happy...

I have attempted suicide before by taking an overdose, which was last year. But it didn't work and it definitely didn't solve any of my problems. Instead, it did make me realize how precious life is and how it would affect my family. So ever since, the thought of suicide comes to my mind, I usually just lie on my bed at night, listen to music and just let the burning pressure of tears flow like a river. It helps because music is very soothing for the mind and the heart, which is another reason why I have been told by my dance tutor that my expressions throughout any dance always comes out very naturally. This is because I always feel the music and lyrics to make it apart of me that all my personal emotions are hidden behind the essence of a dance.

Originally posted by: delilah

I understand that you are not so confident when it comes to interacting with people directly face to face or indirectly through the phone... But it is hard to find jobs where you don't have to interact with people (customers to be precise)...So try to take things slowly and work on your communication skills... dont keep running away from the problems... you have to turn around and face them ..They are not going to away unless you do so

I know what you mean and I am aware that communication plays a key role in everyone's life one way or the other. I am more comfortable in communicating face to face than interacting over the phone. Even at home I avoid picking up phones because I have never had to or felt the need to, as my sister usually is the master of taking home phone calls as she is addicted to them. So for me it's become a bit of a phone phobia I guess. Although I am always working on it but like you said every individual is blessed on what he/she has set their heart on and in my case that would be performing. I am just a different person when you see me dance. I just need to find a way to bring the same confidence into my life and job.

Originally posted by: delilah

Hope you change our mindset regarding suicide as that is NOT A SOLUTION

SUICIDE is definitely not the answer as I have experienced it before! So I have decided to continue with my job and try my best to work on the communication part, until I can say to myself and others that I did try but it wasn't really ME. In the meantime, I am on the look out for other jobs too, but also praying to god that something will CLICK for me in my area of talent for Performing DANCES.

U can call me Sara..

Do keep trying to find alternatives and i hope u do get something that you will really enjoy doing like Dancing!!

You shocked me when you said that you ahd already attempted suicide before...

But i am very happy that you did not succeed..

I am glad that it has made you realise that it is completely futile and that you are trying to have a positive outlook in life..

And I hope that someone like yourself who obviously knows the true value of the gift of friendship is gifted with plenty of friends !! 😊

Hi Kool crazy !! Buddy you must try and get the attention of your supervisor and speak to him once again . If he still doesn't listen .You should open the jobs advertisement and start looking for another job .

Don't be so hard on your self , if this job isn't meant for you , you will find another one that is meant for you . I don't know your education level and i could have advised you more depending on that .

Please do start looking for another job.

Career problems are not worth taking your life . Please have faith and take care.

Thank you for the help and guidance. I am very nervous right now because I am about to go to work in an hour and my heart says NO, but I have got no other option except to force myself at the moment.

I have spoken to my supervisor and trainer x2 now and they just told me to give it a try and see how you progress, but then it's up to me to make the decision of whether I will be able to continue and carry out the job successfully.

I have studied GCSEs at school:

English Language = C
English Media = B
Mathematics = E
Double Science = CC
French = B
Graphic Products = B
Art Design = B
Sociology = E

As you can maybe see by my grades that I am good at creative subjects because I do have a creative mind. I have also studied Computing ICT for 2 years at college, which I completed in 2003, but my overall grades were not that great as ICT can get very technical. Although, I did well on the creative side of web designing for this course.

Then since I left college in 2003, I went through unemployment for a year but continued to job hunt. After almost a year in 2004, I got my 1st job as a Checkout Operator. Then it was a Bank, Parcel Company and now Call Centre....

Don't worry...be happy!

When I first started my job, I was sooo quiet cause I never knew how to communicate with people (fellow employees and customers). I would just listent to what they wanted and did what I was asked to do. But its a time consuming process. Don't worry...you will gradually start to feel more comfortable and start communicating more with people.

As for the job itself, we all have to start off from scratch somewhere. Whether it be a minimum wage job, or a job we don't like. But hey, if you don't feel happy with your current job there are lots of opportunities out there waiting for you. Life isn't over yet and you have all the time in the world to take each step one by one until you reach your final destination.

Don't be so hard on yourself. We ALL have our flaws. I suck at math, but I'm great in talking to people (now). You yourself will find out what you are good and what you enjoy doing with time.

I wish you the best of luck in your future and wish you the best. 😃

I am still feeling very down and confused about my life and it's hard for me not to worry because I am concerned about what I want to do with my life and at the end of the day I have the pressure from my dad too. He is the only one working so I do need to take some responsibilities off his shoulders. That's what SON's are for right....

Can anybody help me and advise me what kind of job would be suitable for me with the qualifications I have got above??

It doesn't need to be a professional job but something that would suit me just to earn some money until I am working towards my dancing opportunities.

I have been looking at job adverisements but nothing seems to click and match with me. I just want a simple full time job that I can carry out successfully and move on with my life...