Is Varsha really over reacting?

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eshi786

@eshi786

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Posted: 15 years ago

I dont think Varshu is over reacting. I know Bhavna Taai apologized. However, when u apologize to sum1 if its your fault, you need to be humble and give it sum time. It's Varsha prerogative whether she forgives her or not, but after asking for forgiveness, shes acting all bossy and arrogant, so is she really sorry?

Also, she insulted Varsha's parents and ArMan. What about asking forgiveness from them?

And if Varsha forgets everything, I think her character will become a character of 2 faced woman. After all she is girl who stands up for her self-respect and dignity. What say?

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Mandy

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Posted: 15 years ago

That's just it, Bhavna went to Sulochana's home but didn't apologize for the way she insulted her, Archana and Manav. How can Varsha respect someone who has disrespected her and her family? Sulochana and Archana may be forgiving for Bhavna being the way she is but that does not mean Varsha has to follow in their footsteps. Varsha is hurt and pain doesn't go away just like that, if Satish can't understand Varsha's point of view then that's unfortunate but I don't think Varsha should give in because others want her to. I am glad Varsha is keeping her character real, she is one character who hasn't changed!

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Shalini

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Posted: 15 years ago

i totally agree. Ba said that it was varsha's ego speaking but i disagree.its BA's ego speaking because i know if someone insulted me i would be mad but if they insulted my loved ones like that especially my parents and despite seeing them, do not apoligise, there is no way i can forget so easily. so no i dont think she is over-reacting. Ba is elder so she should be wiser and know how to patch things up.

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 15 years ago

there are two sides to this coin.........especially now that Varsha is married. If you talk about self-respect and dignity, Varsha is 100% correct for not forgiving BA. BA has not given a humble apology neither does she seem like she is sorry for what she has done, nor has she said sorry to Sul Aai or ArMaan. Instead of giving Varsha space to think about what has happened and to forgive BA, she is as you said being very bossy and arrogant. So a person like that should not be forgiven.

Nevertheless, as for the other side of the coin, well Varsha is married, she is the bahu of the family, a wife and to some respect a daughter. IF you think of this situation taking that in content, then what Varsha is doing is wrong. To keep peace and harmony in her sasural, she needs to forgive BA and move on, leaving the incident in the past. This is not only effecting peace in the house, but a son is being split in two also. In our culture its strongly taught that whatever house a daughter goes to she should keep it like her own home. If something similar would have happened with Sul Aai, would Varsha have taken it so far? Women compromise a lot in life, with martial life, with family life and this is just one situation where Varsh might have to just let go so that life can move on.

Varsha may be right, but she is dealing with not her own family but her "in-laws". Unless you are like Archu, in-laws are in laws. At the end of the day, it will be Varsha's fault that is not giving up, because she isn't related by blood. That wall is always there.

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Shalini

@shalini01

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: taral83
there are two sides to this coin.........especially now that Varsha is married. If you talk about self-respect and dignity, Varsha is 100% correct for not forgiving BA. BA has not given a humble apology neither does she seem like she is sorry for what she has done, nor has she said sorry to Sul Aai or ArMaan. Instead of giving Varsha space to think about what has happened and to forgive BA, she is as you said being very bossy and arrogant. So a person like that should not be forgiven.

Nevertheless, as for the other side of the coin, well Varsha is married, she is the bahu of the family, a wife and to some respect a daughter. IF you think of this situation taking that in content, then what Varsha is doing is wrong. To keep peace and harmony in her sasural, she needs to forgive BA and move on, leaving the incident in the past. This is not only effecting peace in the house, but a son is being split in two also. In our culture its strongly taught that whatever house a daughter goes to she should keep it like her own home. If something similar would have happened with Sul Aai, would Varsha have taken it so far? Women compromise a lot in life, with martial life, with family life and this is just one situation where Varsh might have to just let go so that life can move on.

Varsha may be right, but she is dealing with not her own family but her "in-laws". Unless you are like Archu, in-laws are in laws. At the end of the day, it will be Varsha's fault that is not giving up, because she isn't related by blood. That wall is always there.

i do agree with you because varsha is the DIL of that house and its her duty to keep the family together and intact and by not forgivning her MIL she has satish in a dilema because on one hand is his mother and on the other is his wife. so for everything to be back to normal varsha should try to patch things up as well.

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RadicalLeftist

@radicalleftist

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: taral83
In our culture its strongly taught that whatever house a daughter goes to she should keep it like her own home. If something similar would have happened with Sul Aai, would Varsha have taken it so far? Women compromise a lot in life, with martial life, with family life and this is just one situation where Varsh might have to just let go so that life can move on.

Varsha may be right, but she is dealing with not her own family but her "in-laws". Unless you are like Archu, in-laws are in laws. At the end of the day, it will be Varsha's fault that is not giving up, because she isn't related by blood. That wall is always there.

I disagree with you Tara on how a woman should compromise. Compromising is a part of life. But it shouldnt just be the womans part of life. I agree with everything in your statement except the part about compromising. And we all know that Varsha is a smart, intellectual girl who deserves to have a right in forgiving and not forgiving her mother-in-law. And its not like she would have been any easier on her own family if they had done something like this. Becausethat has been proven in the past. Varsha believes in her right as a modern woman. That really gets to me (and thats a good thing 😊) because i think this will only make Varsha's married life stronger. 😳

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Dabulls23

@Dabulls23

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Posted: 15 years ago

Taral very well balanced post....I agree..

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Tulsey

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Posted: 15 years ago

Taral I agree with Varsha (Dabulls).

When Varsha was in trouble, B went just out of her way to hate her. If Satish was not there for her, she would have marched back to Solo.

Now that the truth is out, Varsha should revisit the situation and like a smart understanding bahu, she should make her point and forgive and move on. There is no compromising here. Is this not the same what we do at work? People skills. Varsha is missing this big time.

I also find that B has a big ego too. whenever she talks with Varsha, she folds her arms...this means that she is not an open person, also means that she is holding something back. So B and V are not compatible people.

therefore, both need to work out this relationship.

Between the two, Varsha is the younger one and the bahu, so she needs to let go of her ego or what ever you call hurt and move on and make her life with Satish and his family a happy one.

If Satish has to choose between these 2 women, he will definitely pick his mother over Varsha who has given him NOTHING...

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: tina47

I disagree with you Tara on how a woman should compromise. Compromising is a part of life. But it shouldnt just be the womans part of life. I agree with everything in your statement except the part about compromising. And we all know that Varsha is a smart, intellectual girl who deserves to have a right in forgiving and not forgiving her mother-in-law. And its not like she would have been any easier on her own family if they had done something like this. Becausethat has been proven in the past. Varsha believes in her right as a modern woman. That really gets to me (and thats a good thing 😊) because i think this will only make Varsha's married life stronger. 😳

yes I agree women should not be the only one's to compromise, but women are the one's that compromise the most in life. We are brought up in a house hold for 25 years or so and sent away with no relationships attached, to go ahead and take care of another family. God has given women that empowerment to mold, and that is the compromise I am talk about. To be able to make new bonds using what our parents have taught. In Varsha's case BA is wrong, but by reacting the way Varsha is she is only loosing peace in her home and causing a dilemma for a husband that has helped her get out of the situation in the first place. She can say that BA I won't be able to forgive you but I will be able to forget and move on.

Edited by taral83 - 15 years ago

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Tanyaz

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Posted: 15 years ago

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