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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: stillhopeful

Kool:

just saw the video of today's epi. BTW, OMG that was so cute - krishna's frustration, his actions of showing up at her doorstep at an ungodly hour so she cannot throw him out and his drama on the home front. so cute, funny and adorable Horribly adorable . Especially the Im coming , just want ten minutes part . He wants to see her face and then go back ....how cute is that .😉

She looked very scared of him though. not indifferent. is that just me or do you feel that too? She is currently indifferent .

Also that SS guy is super funny. I mean he looks scary ( you would not want to meet him in an alley somewhere especially when he does that wierd thing rubbing his brows😆😆😆 ) but seriously all his dialogue delivery is funny. usko godhi mein leke aao ya palki mein laike ao. I still haven't seen the earlier epis so have not seen the abusive part. i hope i won't be too horrified. Oh he and that character Loha Singh are horribly funny although crude chauvinstic PIGS .😆😆😆 I loveeee SS 's dialogues . I love all the villains even Ajit .Without them serials r boring

BTW, I think Krishna does not look conventionally handsome but man is he a firebrand or what, eh? 😉 mujhe jandoo karke sab saala chain ki neend so raha hai😆 Krishna's appeal lies in his character , not his looks .He dresses in a flashy manner but the way he talks in that illahabadi rustic accent and is always true to his feelings unashamedly is oh so cute . He beats other guys hollow .😃😃😃

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This is truly better therapy than my ramblings U must see the whole serial Hope , I insist .Ur Ramblings r super duper ........prob is I lost interest in that insipd storyline of PR


Mog Hope😃😃


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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

He does these public brawls generally when he is pushed back against a wall is my reading of his character . The Saxenas called him in but he knew very well that they had no intentions of sending Pratigya back . He also knows Pratigya somewhat by now .....that she WONT come back .
So why take the trouble to go there in the first place and then shout out in the next.
For Krishna.....such talks have no meaning .
And shouting furthers his cause? Since when. If he has not got it into his dense head by now that what he did was exactly what Prats and her family deplores, then what more can one say?
He has grown up believing in actions and getting the desired result .
This is exactly why Prats is not giving in. If something is not working, why not think of alternative ways instead of sticking to one's stubborn means?
I dont say that is right or wrong .All Im saying is that is his psyche . The Saxenas wud have called him in , done sophisticated gol mol talks and ultimately refused to send Pratigya back home and she wud have continued staring impassively at him like a robot , standing firmly by her dads side . He KNEW this and was not interested in wasting time .😆
So he thought he can shout out and embarrass them in front of their neighbours and they will be forced to send her back to avoid further embarrassment? All the more reason why Prats should not budge. If she does where is the sabak she will be teaching?
Hence the public brawl ..to shame them into sending Pratigya back . Again ......subconscious reason .But thats the way I saw it . He is uncultured so public brawls dont matter a bit to him . If he controlled his tongue when Saxenas were there in front of SS it may be coz going against SS in front of Saxenas wud madden SS very much as EGO is everything for SS and he knows his Dad so well . The wrath wud be turned against the Saxenas with full force then. All I know is he did NOT control his tongue coz he is a coward . Neither does he fear the Professor nor his rattlesnake Dad . That is a confirmed fact .
Then let SS turn his anger full trottle and let him defend his in-laws honour as well as his wife. Afterall he is fearless of all. His in-laws have seen his wild side and have seen SS's wild side as well. so I bet he would not have surprised them if he shouted at his pa for raising his voice against his in-laws and dragging his wife out. IF Shyamji had not stepped in he would have let his pa literally pushed her out of their house. How appalling!
I told u .........it is part of one of the reasons . Not fully .......coz this lie has been told after that observation of his . He had been observing that the household is not exactly kind to her for quite some time before that . Things wud have been much more comfortable for Pratigya if she had him on her side , but she is rather stupid as a woman and prefers to suffer unecessarily it seems .
He is the root cause of her suffering. How is she to expect him to help her? As I see it, she is being the dutiful bahu and sis-in-law to all and does so willingly but she is refusing to be the dutiful wife to the fullest to him because she has a grouse only against him and not his family. They were not the ones who forced her to marry this wild man. It is this man's actions against her and her family (both actual and perceived) that had put her in this prison of marriage. So she does not appear stupid to me.
Well , he observed it himself .........then this lie occured so I thought , that is partly one of his reasons . We see him telling SS later that baby if not born today will be born 18 months later .......meaning I need more time to get her to come around , for me time was no problem , but for u , silly old man , it was .
Although SS was keen that Prats have a baby earlier, after he came to know of Kesar's baby he was not exactly gunning for eigther Krishna or Prats. Yes, he thought that Prats too was preg because of the nausea but waited when his wife warned that this could be a false alarm. So I dont see why Krishna could not not come out with the truth after the visit to the doctor. SS would have been a little disappointed but I doubt as much as he was when Krishna forced him into accepting Prats as his D-i-l. Yes, the baby could have been born in 18 months. Why did he not say that to his pa then and not now when the damage has already been done?
U wanted this baby rIGHT after the honeymoon and was adamant it shud be born after nine months . So another subconscious reason crops up .....of coaxing Pratigya to come around . I saw two or 3 reasons in his lie .......
Well, the babay would not have come out in 9 months if he planned to wait around for Prats to yield unless he forced himself on her. So we come back to his basic reason, chance pe dance!
.which I have repeated is NOT correct ....none of his actions ever are conventionally correct , but his goals r not so bad . U see it as coercing Pratigya to ultimately sleep with him .......I see it as a desperate human attempt with an unyielding wife who wont ever listen . Regarding how he was gonna carry this lie to term ............it wud have been interesting to watch but we never got to see it .
Interesting? Looks like you get pleasure seeing Prats swirm everytime the lie would come up!!! And finally when the lie does come out it would have been even more ugly!
Did hesay loudly to her in the rape attempt that Im gonna make u pregnant now ?Did I miss it ?
I never said he did, he acted right after she said how can I continue with this lie as a woman's body will give it away. Does he really have to spell it? He married an educated woman, remember?
Have these words been spoken loudly by him ? That he was raping her to enforce pregnancy ? If I missed that dalogue ur right .If that was not said ..........u inferred that as his subconscious thought as u have no way of knowing if the rape was intended for sexual gratification , or to teach her a lesson or to enforce a pregnancy . So then it becomes merely your guess . Seeing an attempted rape scene gives us no cause to infer that it is done to enforce a pregnancy unless the dialogue is spoken out clearly . Thats the reason I cited MY reasons as subconscious readings
I have already explained it. Will not repeat again. Actions speak louder than words. Why else would he attempt to rape her, please?
He is not crowd shy to WIN . But he will definetely be crowd shy to LOSE . And saying sorry publicly is NOT WINNING . He has a massive male ego and for her he went on his knees is the truth with that Sarry .Unfortunately ..........she does not have the sensitivity to even begin understanding that as a woman . Nainaji has noticed this as a woman , so has Komal .
Oh yes, Komal noticed that and right after that she ticked him off! Talking of sensitivity does he have any. During the honeymoon he humiliated her in public by throwing aspertions on her character and when he saw her weeping, he asks her what was she crying about. Such is the level of insensitivity in him for someone he loves. So how can he even begin to expect sensitivity from her. So only his feelings count and not hers?
He did it for HER . Instead of being surprised by that by knowing him only too well by now if she only crosses her arms and simply accepts it and gloats over it only proves that her education has NOT refined or sharpened her instincts or intelligence at all has it ? That action of his shud set her brains working a little .........even Komal has more brains inspite of being uneducated. Btw , if his sarry and hand cutting was not enough .....what was , is the question . There is no answer for that is there ? Nothing wud be good enough as she wants to stay angry is the answer .
Have explained above so wont repeat . She shud have been suprised coz he is not the type to apologise ..he is very proud , and fed on chauvinistic ideas . He dragging her by the hand and letting the Saxenas watch impotently while police kept quite shud have nOT surprised her as that is a normal scenario but he apologising publicly shud have indeed surprised her a little at least as a woman . We dont see her dwelling on it AT ALL that the change in him has started , that she means a lot to him as a woman . Robotically she shuts her mind , and goes in , doing her duties there too . She hardly ever THINKS and it surprises me as a viewer . More like a pretty machine than a woman .
So you want that scenario too? A woman being dragged by her husband and police watching?
Actually dear this makes me laugh .😆😆😆 That Prats and her progressive ideas gave the T household the grandchild . Thats Partly true .......Her progressive ideas would NOT have been carried to fruition and yielded result if he had not stepped in holding Shakti back . Had he not followed her , her progressive ideas wud have taken a toss out of the window had she encountered Shakti alone. Shakti wud have pushed her aside , dragged Kesar back to the operation theater and threatened the Doctor with a gun to do exactly as told . Her education enabled her to talk to the doctor and Kesar .beyond that what did it do ? The truth is just with her education she cannot make a diffrence but with Krishnas support she can .But she does not realise this . The world that she is trying to change..SS's world ........cannot be changed with education alone at all . Her progressive ideas have no value there is the blunt truth . Even police r in the hand of brutal power .If she wants her progressive ideas implemented then she needs Krishnas support . When I say he is practical I mean he talks far less than her but he knows what he is talking about ..like he told her why his mom lashed out at her inspite of she rushing to support HER . Her progressive , educated mind was clearly unable to comprehend the reason , didnt it ? But he gave her the correct answer .
So voilence is the answer to everything? As to her unable to comprehend his mother, did that answer he gave do any good to her? She was still facing her torture and he was mostly a mute spectator. I would respect him if he decides to leave that hell hole, makes a man of himself which by the way is not going around throwing his wieght around but actually working for a living and then try to get back the woman he loves rather than force her back to the hell hole where her miseries will only be multiplied hundred fold post the lie.
Prats and the other two women are not in the same league for the latter are not educated. Prats is not as helpless as you think she is. She can well stand up for herself. If such a fate befalls her, she would have walked out in the first instant. As to not being allowed to go out, she could have found her ways to get out.Prats is innocent if she thinks that . After Rape .a woman is a woman .....educated or non educated doesnt matter , they r in the same boat . Rape breaks a woman .
All the more reason you cannot take even the two attempts of Krishna's lightly.
Here in the US when we see counselling done to rape victims , we see the broken spirit of raped women who go back to their abusers and accept abuse as a part of life .
From what we have seen of Prats I doubt she will be one of those dumb women.
These r educated women and prosecutors have a hard time making them press charges against rapists ....in fact more than half the time the charges r dROPPED by the women gainst rapist husbands . Confident , educated women .
There are equal number of cases where women have fought and won cases against their husbands. Can we forget the Bobbit case where she cut of the man's you know what?
Prats DID succumb to circumstances and marry him right ......so why think she is so invincible that she wud not succumb to the after effects of rape ?
She did not want him to hurt her family. It was more for them than for her that she married him. I dont know what your tolerance level is when it comes to physical force. But to me even an attempt is enough to *** me off the man. A handsome face notwithstanding.
You view it as an obsession story , I view it as a love story . There is scene in this serial ..........the pink sari scene where Pratigya tells Roli that she is wearing it to meet him and tell him that if he really loves her he will let her go and not bother her family . At that point she was not furious as such with him but wanted to meet him and talk to him, explaining her concept of 'Love' to him and seeing if he will let her go . Well , we never got to seeing that scene ..........if Krishna , after hearing her out , wud reflect on it and LET HER GO . We do see him saying to his friend letter if she is angry why wud I not MANAO her .....why wud I consider it beneath me to placate her .....shhe is my wife and I love her . So Krishna DOES listen when love is referred to . He trys to understand various facets of that emotion in his clumsy way . Maybe if Pratigya had met him , things wud have been diffrent ..........as it happens , she didnt and Angad went on fuelling his misunderstandings. Till now they have not had a heart to heart real talk . And that scene gave many viewers like me the hope that this serial wud turn into a love story later . Komal's recent dialogues about he loves her but goes about it the wrong way and she doesnt understand it confirms this .
Well there is also this other scene where he breaks up her engagement where he literally leaves her with no choice but to falsely admit the engagement is against her will. Now how do you explain his behaviour then? Given that I doubt whether he will really understand her. He will only blank that out and keep harping on his one-sided obsession. Komal is no authority on love. We have seen many instances of her childishness.
I would say a rape attempt is equally demeaning to a woman, especially when she had said she trusts him. Had I been in her place I would have left him on that day itself.
Left him ? My dear its a gunda family like the mafia. If he decides not to let her leave she can't do a thing about it . Then what wud she do ? Do u seriously believe it is easy to walk out on that family ? Why wud he be scared she wud leave ? What he is scared of is that she will not give him a chance in her emotions ..........it all comes down to he wanting a place in her emotions . And so he chooses NOT to use Abuse or force with her although he has unlimited power at hand to do it . Her complaints of marital rape will be tossed out by the police ..........He can do so much to her yet he doesnt and that shud tell her sumthing. It is not a question of Prats being smarter than the other wives at all ........her smartness has no value in the house and cannot protect her from gundas . If anyone stands between her and THEM [ like he stood in front of Shakti when Shakti wud have really hit her on abortion day] is Krishna . Just see what Amma tells her ...Ab Baba bhi nahi hai tumhe bachaane ko . That means sumthing .
So what if it is a goonda family? Just because he has not yet raped her does not excuse many of the things he has done to her. Let him prove his love for her by giving her a life which is away from all the violence for he knows she does not like it.
Will get back later on the rest

By the way, I like this debate. Have always been a succour for arguements. No hard feelings.
Edited by Opti - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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in my opinion why should pratigya change herself when she don't like him and it's the duty of krishna to see inside himself and should start to change himself as he claims to love her, pratigya never claimed to love him. he went to kesar then what was the result ? did he realise that he has done wrong , instead he told her that he is her husband and can do what he wants....does he listen to anyone ? will giving him physical pleasure is a guarentee that he will change his ways? what about Kesar who is so polite and doing her job perfectly as a woman, has shakti changed his ways? I don't like pratigya to be like kesar.....does he listen to pratigya when she softly speak with him ? does he understand the true meaning of love? does he give her chance to speak ? I can't deny that love is a great power but it can't work on the people who are full of ego and I think in komal's case she is more immature with a little ego of her father's wealth.....but krishna's nature is different from komal he is full of himself and love just can't work where there is ego....
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: saavie

in my opinion why should pratigya change herself when she don't like him and it's the duty of krishna to see inside himself and should start to change himself as he claims to love her, pratigya never claimed to love him. he went to kesar then what was the result ? did he realise that he has done wrong , instead he told her that he is her husband and can do what he wants....does he listen to anyone ? will giving him physical pleasure is a guarentee that he will change his ways? what about Kesar who is so polite and doing her job perfectly as a woman, has shakti changed his ways? I don't like pratigya to be like kesar......

Shakti is not Krishna..........he hardly gives Kesar a second glance . Kesar knows that as a woman she has no power over him at all as she does not appeal to him .But Pratigya knows that she appeals to Krishna as a woman and that as a woman she has power over him . That he wud KILL for her . She knows it by now .Well , why not make use of this power in trying to change him ? No one is asking to change HER AGENDA in this .......it is Krishna who will change , NOT pratigya iif she does this . What is frowning and being cold 24 hours everyday gonna do ?Is her life gonna change or is his life gonna change ? Nothing is gonna change . So why not rethink and use that tremendous power she has over him constructively ? Why do u guys take this as losing ..........she will WIN if he transforms .
Posted: 15 years ago
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opti and koolsadhu1000, interesting debate some great points and observation out there!!!!
thank you!
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Hello to both of u! Opti, me agress with EVERYTHING u said, and koolsadhu1000, I'll comment for u separately, but u r really cool and so r u Opti - with the way u girls r approaching this debate/arguement, keeping it completely to the characters and without getting personal! 👏⭐️👏⭐️👏⭐️👏⭐️👏⭐️
Now, I'm quite sure, the red-fonts are by Opti and the green one is by koolsadhu...
Nyways, I quoted only this part coz I just wanted to say that it was not Krishna's sub-conscious thought, but he actually said it out loud - when Pratigya gets scared while watching him unbuttoning his shirt and removing his belt and approaching her, and she asks him, 'what r u doing?' And he says in reply,'making the lie into a truth!' Since the lie was about fake pregnancy, making it into a truth would be like making the fake pregnancy into reality, ie. making Pratigya pregnant!!!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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For ME, KriYa ie. BOTH Krishna and Pratigya - are the LIFE of this show! Bcoz, WITHOUT Pratigya, Krishna WONT be the same guy that I once liked or WOULD WANT to like, someday in the future!!!
Lolzzz... JUST with Krishna, his family and their MCP thoughts and ways and lowly swearings, I get the feeling that this serial would've been censored, as in BANNED!!! COZ I think, MOST viewers of this serial or ny serial, are females and I DONT think MANY of these women would appreciate to watch other women beaten up or assaulted or degraded - like it happens in Krishna's family!!! BCOZ there is Pratigya, there is still hope left for someone like Krishna to NOT be an MCP, just like his father or brother AND that I think, makes this show interesting and exciting!!!
Now, I disagree with MOST of wat U've written BUT I dont really feel like writing an essay on WHY I dont agree with u, hope u dont mind!😊
BUT, b4 u label me as a Krishna-hater, let me make one thing clear - I DO NOT HATE Krishna! SIMPLY bcoz Krishna is NOT REAL & I dont want to bother my head or heart with ny such thing as hatred for a mere fictional character! Infact, I USED to like him as much as I like Pratigya and am HOPING to like him again - ONCE he realizes his mistakes and accepts his faults, like a REAL man!!!😉
MY WISH to the CVs : I love the CVs of this SHOW and would like them to continue as they've been doing! 👏⭐️👏⭐️👏⭐️
I like Krishna MOST of the times, EXCEPT when he is going on & on & on about his so-called mardangi and husband (mis)rights😆; or, when he is assaulting/abusing Pratigya, physically/verbally/emotionally; or when he lies like a coward! I like Krishna's attitude BUT I dispise Krishna's MALE-EGO rantings and lowly thoughts about women; and sometimes, his forceful ways on Pratigya - no matter how he was influenced or watever!!! BUT these are necessary COZ his character is SUPPOSED to be like that! I dint like it when the CVs made Krishna into a liar coz that made me feel like Krishna was being a coward BUT later, I realized - even THAT was necessary to emphasise the FACT that Krishna is sooo much into his male-ego that he could forget about his love for Pratigya - be it for an instant!!! And hey, doesnt EGO get in the way of LOVE in reality as well? So, I can accept Krishna's character, NOT bcoz he did nything good or right (COZ he did NOT!) BUT bcoz there is Pratigya and therefore, there is still some HOPE left for Krishna to be a decent human and NOT follow Shakti/SS's MCP ways to the end, hopefully!!!😊
I like Pratigya JUST the WAY she IS!!! Sure, she doesnt have ny feelings for Krishna right now, and I really dont think Krishna deserves her love, esp. with the way he is being right now! I mean, AFTER everything he did to her, WHY should she accept him or his love? I dont expect Pratigya to just forget all the sufferings she went through, bcoz of Krishna - esp. BCOZ Krishna is still making her go through similar sufferings - I do NOT want Pratigya to fall for Krishna, unless Krishna assures her with his actions why he deserves to be loved by Pratigya or why should Pratigya love the person who made her suffer the most in her life, so far!!! I think it would be really exciting to watch Pratigya fall in love with Krishna - ONLY when Krishna realizes his faults and accepts and works on his mistakes to correct them!
I dont want the CVs to show that Pratigya succumbs to Krishna's pressure, yet again, and TRIES to understand Krishna and TRIES to fall in love - COZ, I want Pratigya to fall in love with Krishna, just like Krishna fell in love with Pratigya - without being FORCED into doing so, coz otherwise, it wont be love but another compromise by Pratigya and I've had enough of compromises by Pratigya or ny women AND I also have had enough misunderstandings between KriYa... Plz, CVs! Plz. Clear up their misunderstandings b4 u start to create nymore!!!
I hope nobody felt offended or that I'm making an idiot out of nyone COZ thats not my intention!!!Thanx for reading! 😊
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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Shakti is not Krishna..........he hardly gives Kesar a second glance . Kesar knows that as a woman she has no power over him at all as she does not appeal to him .But Pratigya knows that she appeals to Krishna as a woman and that as a woman she has power over him . That he wud KILL for her . She knows it by now .Well , why not make use of this power in trying to change him ? No one is asking to change HER AGENDA in this .......it is Krishna who will change , NOT pratigya iif she does this . What is frowning and being cold 24 hours everyday gonna do ?Is her life gonna change or is his life gonna change ? Nothing is gonna change . So why not rethink and use that tremendous power she has over him constructively ? Why do u guys take this as losing ..........she will WIN if he transforms .

I ask you one thing that apart from giving him physical pleasures .....what is she not doing for him? does she not give him clothes politely ? does she not give him food? did she not care for him when he was hurted by angad? did she not ask him to tell the truth in front of other people in polite manner?has she ever taunted him that he is an uneducated guy? instead this krishna has taunted her for education so many times and did she questioned him even when he tried to rape her?...so how she can change her ways when there is no room for it, apart from giving him physical pleasures... all krishna needs is physical pleasure from her , and for that she is not mentally prepared yet though I know that if krishna could get those pleasures then he would certainly change his ways ... but it's easy to comment here but it's really hard for a woman to share her body with a person whom she never liked through heart......I am a woman and I know it very well....what I can say that is if you don't expect krishna to change his ways immediately then don't ever expect pratigya to share her body with him immediately.....because woman's physical needs starts from emotions and heart.....but by watching yesterday's episode I think that pratigya is developing some feelings for him....isn't it ?
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Originally posted by: saavie

I ask you one thing that apart from giving him physical pleasures .....what is she not doing for him? does she not give him clothes politely ? does she not give him food? did she not care for him when he was hurted by angad? did she not ask him to tell the truth in front of other people in polite manner?has she ever taunted him that he is an uneducated guy? instead this krishna has taunted her for education so many times and did she questioned him even when he tried to rape her?...so how she can change her ways when there is no room for it, apart from giving him physical pleasures... all krishna needs is physical pleasure from her , and for that she is not mentally prepared yet though I know that if krishna could get those pleasures then he would certainly change his ways ... but it's easy to comment here but it's really hard for a woman to share her body with a person whom she never liked through heart......I am a woman and I know it very well....what I can say that is if you don't expect krishna to change his ways immediately then don't ever expect pratigya to share her body with him immediately.....because woman's physical needs starts from emotions and heart.....but by watching yesterday's episode I think that pratigya is developing some feelings for him....isn't it ?

savvie I ask u one thing . Had Krishna done this same thing with HER ...........given her excellent food , looked after her occasionally when she was sick , never taunted him about her education, seen that she sleeping on a bed with satin sheets and NEVER given her a second glance as a man , as a husband , or bothered to touch her even once ...........HOW WUD SHE FEEL ? How wud a woman feel if for days after days her husband does NOT touch her as a man , doesnt even stop to talk to her but runs away constantly to office and his family [ she runs away to kitchen and family right] ?
I'll tell u .........it wud be TORTURE .U said u were a woman and so am I ..........and we both know what we wud feel if we had to live like this in a marraige . FOREVER .
For better or for worse she DID this marraige na ? Then she OWES it to HERSELF not HIM , to MAKE IT WORK . Marraige cannot be used as a platform for vengeance unlimited . She is WRONG .
Infact what u said that treatment is being given to Komal .........a woman , by Adarsh . She is getting respect , good food , not being taunted about education , yet she is extremely unhappy as Adarsh is NOT interested in her as a woman and has not consummated marraige with her .For a woman all these things r meaningless if husband does not treat her as a wife .
It is not just about sex . That is merely a medium to express total acceptance of the situation called marraige . But it is a very necessary medium as without it MARRAIGES FAIL . Acceptance , rejection , warmth , coldness all r conveyed through that medium and that way can be also used to humiliate your spouse or make him feel extremely loved . And she is using this medium consciously to humiliate him as a spouse . This union is sacred and it shud NOT be used for vengeance as it has disastrous effects .
She is doing all things quietly like an efficient maid as she knows very well that she has hit him where it hurts the most . It is taunting him , driving him crazy as a man .......and if these r her goals , Im sorry I don't feel anything for her at all . Coz though her anger is justifiable her revenge is petty ...........had she used her education to deal with her anger positively by changing Krishna and making permanent changes in the chauvinistic household , I wud applaud her . But she wants this petty revenge for LIFE and thinks she is doing some big great thing by listening to that immature Aarushi ...........it only shows how being educated does not necessarily enable u to do the right thing in life .
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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

savvie I ask u one thing . Had Krishna done this same thing with HER ...........given her excellent food , looked after her occasionally when she was sick , never taunted him about her education, seen that she sleeping on a bed with satin sheets and NEVER given her a second glance as a man , as a husband , or bothered to touch her even once ...........HOW WUD SHE FEEL ? How wud a woman feel if for days after days her husband does NOT touch her as a man , doesnt even stop to talk to her but runs away constantly to office and his family [ she runs away to kitchen and family right] ?
I'll tell u .........it wud be TORTURE .U said u were a woman and so am I ..........and we both know what we wud feel if we had to live like this in a marraige . FOREVER .
For better or for worse she DID this marraige na ? Then she OWES it to HERSELF not HIM , to MAKE IT WORK . Marraige cannot be used as a platform for vengeance unlimited . She is WRONG .
Infact what u said that treatment is being given to Komal .........a woman , by Adarsh . She is getting respect , good food , not being taunted about education , yet she is extremely unhappy as Adarsh is NOT interested in her as a woman and has not consummated marraige with her .For a woman all these things r meaningless if husband does not treat her as a wife .
It is not just about sex . That is merely a medium to express total acceptance of the situation called marraige . But it is a very necessary medium as without it MARRAIGES FAIL . Acceptance , rejection , warmth , coldness all r conveyed through that medium and that way can be also used to humiliate your spouse or make him feel extremely loved . And she is using this medium consciously to humiliate him as a spouse . This union is sacred and it shud NOT be used for vengeance as it has disastrous effects .
She is doing all things quietly like an efficient maid as she knows very well that she has hit him where it hurts the most . It is taunting him , driving him crazy as a man .......and if these r her goals , Im sorry I don't feel anything for her at all . Coz though her anger is justifiable her revenge is petty ...........had she used her education to deal with her anger positively by changing Krishna and making permanent changes in the chauvinistic household , I wud applaud her . But she wants this petty revenge for LIFE and thinks she is doing some big great thing by listening to that immature Aarushi ...........it only shows how being educated does not necessarily enable u to do the right thing in life .

so what do you want her to do that she should sleep with him without having any feeling for him?.....I know that sex is an important aspect of any marriage but why do you forget that this is not an ordinary marriage.......so it will take some time to make the things clear......and remember one thing too , mutual understanding plays an imp role in any marriage.....but one can not expect any sort of understanding from krish side I am not blaming him but his belief system is like that ....It's really hard task to change anyone's belief system.....I think that this shock through which he is passing is a good remedy to change his belief system. "That aurat is a pair ki jooti....". Though he needs some love also side by.....u said that without sex marriage fails then why krish wants to continue this marriage , why he don't let it failed? why he is not ready to take divorce when his needs are not fulfilling ? why again he is forcing prati to come along with him ? why don't he remarry with other girl? has pratigya stopped him to do so?no.....na else she will be happy to see him like that....as she has already mentioned that this marriage has no meaning for her ......so ask krish to divorce her as this is a good alternate for both of them.....krish sexual desire will be fulfilled and prati will also get rid of him......and there is nothing wrong in it instead keep on dragging the meaningless marriage.....
Edited by saavie - 15 years ago

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