veg non-veg, age and caste education.

Originally posted by: Minal81

hey everyone :D

These reasons have been given alot for liking or not liking a girl (and really should be same for boys)

when it comes to diet I think most people can work around it, don't cook it at home, eat out if you wish to eat it, and I'm guessing not to come home and say "wow that chicken tikka was great"
I have family who follow this path, most men eat chicken but the women don't so the men go out and eat, this way both are happy.
as far as age goes, its harder to say what is the right age, depends on the person, I at 21 thought I was super mature reasoning being I was "running" the house while my father was away working, I was part of every decision they made, and could make my own decisions about household matter that where accepted, thats quiet a lot of for a 21 year old, But now 6 years later I am totally a different person, and the 21 one year back then i see as being much more immature that I thought I was, I'm sure by the time I'm 35 I will view myself as the 27 year old I am as again immature. So it depends on the person and what they have experienced in their life to their immaturity level, I must add maturity is not something you can gain fully, you spend your whole life developing it, at no point can someone say I've reached full maturity as I don't think there is such a thing...

I agree to the T with everything you have said here about maturity, Wisdom is something you gain overtime. As for age factor even I had a similar situation as you, my father had told my brother and I that he could not fully support us and if we wished to study after high school and have a decent marriage then we need to do it on our own. I was 16 when I started working my brother who is 3 years older had started working when he was around 14. By the time I was 18 and he 21 we were both supporting ourselves and standing fully on our own 2 feet. We have always participated in all family decisions and our parents today don't look at us as children, they consider us to be mature adults who are mentally able to make their own decisions, and we do. I think it is wrong for everyone to be after Varinda about her age because by the time I was 20 I paid by own bills and supported myself in everyway possible. Some people mature faster than others, there is nothing wrong in that.
But saying all this, its up to the girl at what age she wishes to marry, but waiting till you are older may give you a better understanding of yourself along with other thing resulting in a better marriage and relationship with your in laws.
Very True. Marriage is a huge commitment and one should only step in to it when they feel they are ready. For some it may be at an early age while others might want to wait.
Caste is a very hard topic to deal with, religion can be conflicting in this, and people feel very strongly about it. I do not wish to upset anyone on this point so I wont talk to much about it, and only say is maybe just maybe it is better to go into a family who has like minded views on the subject to avoid conflict, If you believe caste matters then try and find a family who believe the same, if you are open minded then find an open minded family. Beyond this it is hard to control who you fall in love with and at that point it doesn't matter since we are all equal.
No Comments, but I liked what you said.
Educations, Here I think most people understand now that both husband and wife should work, it better for the family to have 2 incomes then one. If a girl is a good match for your son or family but not educated or finishing I would hope the boys family is smart enough to watch or let her finish her studies after marriage it is at the end of the day a benefit for both girl and family. If the girl is not educated and does not wish to continue education then just see the girl, if shes good for your family and son then why say no at this point, after all in a few years she may change her mind or discover she can earn an income sitting at home doing something she loves. As long as you dont want to make it a status issue as in "look we got our son married to a Doctor" then this in my mind is really not an issue...
I think it's really hard for many MIL's to accept and like the fact that their DIL's work. It seems as if the MIL's perfer the girl to stay home, cook, clean and of course look after guests😆 I find this totally wrong, if a girl's family has gone through the trouble to educate her then why have her sit at home? I am currently studying Law and hope to work after marriage, even if my husband is wealthy enough I would still want to utilize my education; which I have worked hard to attain.
quickly adding that saying a girl will not look after guests is funny...Yash's mum has a good sense of humor :P
I always felt she was a bit weird...
So what do you all think, sorry its kinda of a long post. are these reasons enough or should you say no to a girl for a real reason like she is a mass murderer or a puppy kicker..

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Originally posted by: uknaik99

Food habits does matter.. I had proposal from a guy who was a pure veggie.first he said he is ok if I eat Non veg (I love chicken) , so when I used to order chicken items in resturant he started making face.. and it started to take tool on us.. I was not allowed to cook chicken at home and slowly started objecting when i ate outside..

Belive me Food habit is very important..

Originally posted by: Minal81

Its sad when people go back on their word after your feelings get involved too. I really hope you find a match that not only loves chicken as much as you do but also loves cooking it for you :D

and your right maybe I am looking at the food issue to simply...every issue has many sides. :)

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Loved every single thing you said. We all definately mature with age. I thought at the age of 21 I was quie mature too. Although, I have to admit that the kind of guys I was attracted to before was quite different as compared to now, many years down the line.

Religion and food are qunitessential in life of anyone. On a day to day basis, we dont keep talking about romantic things. But what triggers spark between couple is mismatched food habits and beliefs.

I know of someone who is married into a veggie family. The guy and she eat meat and it was an arranged marriage too.. The MIL does not mind these guys cooking meat in US. But when she visits them, she trashes everything in the fridge/freezer, cleans the entire thing with 'Chlorox' and does not allow her to cook meat even if she lives here for 6 mths!My friend hates it, but she has no option. But imagine, living with such a MIL 24/7, I wonder who will yield each time?Then all the fight would ensue between the guy and the girl😕