shaadi ka laddu

Well guys and gals.

We hear this so many times.Mostly I hear this phrase from guys, all the time.I feel the grass is always greener on the other side.

There is an old story from puranas. It goes like this. God created a creature. When he did that, he created him as a hermophrodite. Slowly the creature self procreated, found pleasure whenever it wanted, absolutely no sweat. But then his thoughts wandered and he became powerful. Too powerful fro God's comfort. God then took a knife and cut the creature into two such that the sexual organs seperated into different beings. Since then it is told that every man searches for his other half.

just one of those dumb stories, which one reads and laughs at. I think the man vs. woman debate is tried, tested, old and done to death.

what do you think ?

Well, it's a topic that will be discussed by every generation. I think marriage is something that has to be carefully examined before plunging into it. It's not a joke and shouldn't be taken lightly. A lot of times people get married because they "romanticize" the concept and then they have this rude awakening. I say NO to marriage until you are absolutely sure that you are ready.

So those of you who are married, or are about to be married, or are just contemplating marriage...what's ur take on this?

Guys want to get that which is toughest to get and think it is success while the truth behind it is....No one be it guy or a girl gets true happiness by getting someone or something....

I wonder why people dont leave it to falling in love inspite of themselves and bask in the magic ever after than all these getting-the-girl, phir shaadi ka laddoo complaints????

I strongly believe in that one twinkle of the eye that can make one flip his heart out..and probably one word of his that can make her melt on her knees...
mein maanti hoo, magic does happen 😛

But well tu tu main main is all the buzz of the generation

I don't subscribe to this romantic notion. I think this is ONLY true in movies and romance novels. I think in real life, things can be sustained if both parties have the same values, similar likes and dislikes and respect for differences. I don't think this "magic" and "melt on her knee" stuff is anything more than hormones.

Read Mark Twian's book -'The Diary of Adam and Eve'

Adam: "This new creature with the long hair is a good deal in the way.It is always hanging around and following me about. I don't like this;I am not used to company. I wish it would stay with the other animals…Cloudy today, wind in the east; think we shall have rain… We? Where
did I get that word? I remember now – the new creature used it."

Eve: "All the week I tagged after him and tried to get acquainted. I
had to do the talking, because he was shy, but I didn't mind it. He
seemed pleased to have me around, and I used the sociable 'we' a good
deal, because it seemed to flatter him to be included


😆 😆

To an extend it is right to say this phrase. Dolly, I disagree when you say "...No one be it guy or a girl gets true happiness by getting someone or something...." That is not true. When you are in love you do get happiness by getting that someone and just being with him/her. It is the sweetest thing. Every age has it's own charm. When you are young you do believe in those magical moments and that's the time when it does happend to you.

About shadi, I think it's moreof a practical version of romance, love, passion, all those magical moments. It's just that life goes on....once you live those magical moments the passion faints over the time and you are dumped with lots of responsibility which you never had when you were young. That does not mean that you regret of eating that "laddo"! If individual understand and accepts phases of their life there is no regrets. Married life has its own struggle and adjustments but at the same time it also has magical moments.

I think people who get in married life and then compain about shadi ka ladoo sometimes does not know where they are going or what they want from life or sometimes what they are not aware that this is best they could get at this stage. 😉

And sometime people's expectations are way higher. Life or Marriage is not "always" about being in magical moments...you have to sometime work for those moments.

Nice topic Seema.......
There is no fixed solution for this love-marriage problem, like chemistry everyone has to find their own solutions.Everyone has to understand on their own, what they want & how they are going to handle it.

Marriage or relationship requires three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment. Different loving relationships have different combinations of these elements. Complete love requires all three elements. Most important to a healthy, happy relationship is that both partners have compatible stories--that is, compatible expectations. People complain that they keep ending up with the same kind of bad partner, that they are unlucky in love. In reality, luck has nothing to do with it: They are subconsciously finding people to play out their love stories, or foisting their stories on the people they meet.

No one story guarantees success, our treating symptoms rather than causes. If we're dissatisfied with our partner, we should look not at his or her faults, but at how he or she fits into our expectations.

I know of quite a few people who are despondent and even sarcastic about love – its depth, power, and durability. Others perceive it as a one-sided coin – intense and joyful in good times, but feel "possessed" or "trapped" when the pendulum swings to hard times.

I think that it is up to the individual – to make it long-lasting and strong and constant, or to be like a fair-weather friend of our beloved!

Lastly I'll like to say....The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don't become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved one!

Originally posted by: mink

Marriage or relationship requires three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment.

Lastly I'll like to say....The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don't become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved one!

👏 very well said Mink!

Originally posted by: rolm

Well, it's a topic that will be discussed by every generation. I think marriage is something that has to be carefully examined before plunging into it. It's not a joke and shouldn't be taken lightly. A lot of times people get married because they "romanticize" the concept and then they have this rude awakening. I say NO to marriage until you are absolutely sure that you are ready.

Very true that one shd take the plunge when is very sure abt his or her partner but then I also believe that love does not come from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations. Love is a constant process of discovery and growth.

I believe that beginning a relationship is like starting a new journey that promises to be both exciting and challenging. Relationship needs to be nourished constantly to help weather the ups and downs of life.

Lastly, I believe that in a romantic relationship, just as in a job, both partners should perform their duties and responsibilities according to their "job description"!