fake or real?

yes i have another fake or real question. i was watching indian shows (again) and this is something i noticed that most indian shows "preach" that u should stay together no matter how ur people treat u and ur wives will never leave u no matter what u do because it is their "dharm". I see in dramas people telling their daughters that u r going into that house on four shoulders u should come out on four shoulders. I see people practically begging for guys to marry their daughters(Saat Phere) and willing to give so much dowry as if the guy is doing them a favor. Like in Piya ka ghar omg the oldest brother rakesh cheated his family threw them out, cheated a poor girl out of her money(his nephew's wife[yes she's evil now but back then she was just a young girl]) and not letting his brothers have any share in their father's business. Now all Rimjhim is fighting for is to stay together even when he's a jacka** and doesn't care about his people. HE cheated on his wife and she forgave him time after time after time. In kkusum she forgave abhay so many times i was shocked. In gharana(this is an old show) the heroine wudn't let her father in law and his brother's family separate. Usually all these shows r like u know the families cant eat or drink at their daughters house "hum beti kai ghar ka pani bhi nahin pee sakte". I know like pakistan is not like this so i want to know if it really is like that in india. In pakistan yeah they dont like divorce and u r looked down upon if u stay at ur daughters place but its not such a big deal. I mean people r generally more forgiving to women whose husbands have cheated on them. Its also not such a big deal to separate and live apart like yeah it hurts the parents if their kids dont get along but they do it for the sake of peace so the kids dont end up hating each other or their parents. My mom told my brother 15 taht if his wife wants to live with her and my dad that's great but if she doesn't then she doesn't want my brother ruining his relationship w/ his wife due to them so they should just move. My grandparents let my uncle leave when he and his wife wanted to. Is this what its like in india for the majority or is what they show on tv true.

Originally posted by: mkzara

yes i have another fake or real question. i was watching indian shows (again) and this is something i noticed that most indian shows "preach" that u should stay together no matter how ur people treat u and ur wives will never leave u no matter what u do because it is their "dharm". I see in dramas people telling their daughters that u r going into that house on four shoulders u should come out on four shoulders. I see people practically begging for guys to marry their daughters(Saat Phere) and willing to give so much dowry as if the guy is doing them a favor. Like in Piya ka ghar omg the oldest brother rakesh cheated his family threw them out, cheated a poor girl out of her money(his nephew's wife[yes she's evil now but back then she was just a young girl]) and not letting his brothers have any share in their father's business. Now all Rimjhim is fighting for is to stay together even when he's a jacka** and doesn't care about his people. HE cheated on his wife and she forgave him time after time after time. In kkusum she forgave abhay so many times i was shocked. In gharana(this is an old show) the heroine wudn't let her father in law and his brother's family separate. Usually all these shows r like u know the families cant eat or drink at their daughters house "hum beti kai ghar ka pani bhi nahin pee sakte". I know like pakistan is not like this so i want to know if it really is like that in india. In pakistan yeah they dont like divorce and u r looked down upon if u stay at ur daughters place but its not such a big deal. I mean people r generally more forgiving to women whose husbands have cheated on them. Its also not such a big deal to separate and live apart like yeah it hurts the parents if their kids dont get along but they do it for the sake of peace so the kids dont end up hating each other or their parents. My mom told my brother 15 taht if his wife wants to live with her and my dad that's great but if she doesn't then she doesn't want my brother ruining his relationship w/ his wife due to them so they should just move. My grandparents let my uncle leave when he and his wife wanted to. Is this what its like in india for the majority or is what they show on tv true.

Firstly i like in a city and have been moving from city to city all my life due to my dad's job.

Secondly...I live in a very open minded nuclera family..and am from middle class..where most ppl had love marruages..no dowry n happy family life.

thirdly..i m just 18..and have not seen this side of luife that u r talkign about.

so my view about the same is that.....

1. Serials want TRPs ...so they can go to any extent to portray what migth not happen actually...just to get teh audience hooked.. and capture their imagination..ki suh things can happen.

2. What serials talk of..might happen in real life too... i really dunt know..but many a times..cases like dowry.. etc etc dont come to light..

3. forgetting the past n forgiving ppl is very comman just bcesause they want to show how much usool characters have..which really is irrational..but we still watch it... beacuse there is always the morals we have..teh right side vs. wrong..

so..all tehes things migth happen in life..but usually serials exxgerate... but life is a mystery and u neva know whats in store for ya.😳

what they show on Tv...sometimes r just to raise the TRP's....
but they also show some matters which actually happens around....
But what ekta kapoor serial showss....i am 100%sure..it never happens anywhere 😉 😉 😛

Originally posted by: hazelgirl

what they show on Tv...sometimes r just to raise the TRP's....
but they also show some matters which actually happens around....
But what ekta kapoor serial showss....i am 100%sure..it never happens anywhere 😉 😉 😛

I like that. 😃 that is what might actually be true cause these days all i see on tv is ekta and "mera parivar alag nahin ho sakta" and it's extremely funny to me because my mom sits at home and bashes the money-grubbing-middle-class heroines (her most hated kripa cause she took everything from angad and then went and married prithvi and ruined his life and angad's and mishti's) stupid, illogical, rich boys( her most hated angad cause he ruined his career) and the producers because they show mothers who r trying to protect their stupid sons/daughters from money grubbers as bad(damini and naina). i am bound to say what i think of the indian culture comes from these shows though because thats what i see is being reflected as india and i had decided a long time ago to not just accept something(thus the feminism) and find out for myself if its true and thats y i do appreciate what u guys have to say. 😳

Originally posted by: mkzara

HE cheated on his wife and she forgave him time after time after time. In kkusum she forgave abhay so many times i was shocked.

this can happen anywhere, and i know that it happens in pakistan too, u may have not heard of it ever happening😳

Originally posted by: hazelgirl

i am 100%sure..it never happens anywhere 😉 😉 😛

😆well, yeah i guess yr right, cos a stranger would not get plastic surgery done on some1 they dont even know...in less than a year😆

Originally posted by: mkzara

yes i have another fake or real question. i was watching indian shows (again) and this is something i noticed that most indian shows "preach" that u should stay together no matter how ur people treat u and ur wives will never leave u no matter what u do because it is their "dharm". I see in dramas people telling their daughters that u r going into that house on four shoulders u should come out on four shoulders. Zara , to some extent it is true . That Indian families are still very frightened of the "D" word . Meaning Divorce .They still tell their daughters not to go for a separation no matter what .Things have changed in this century .People/ parents have realised that they can't send back their daughter to die at the mercy of a cruel man . It may have been the dowry deaths that happened in India , but its opened their eyes . Now Divorce is not frowned as much any more as was 20 years ago !! The stupid serial is an exxageration as usal !!!!! are in their father's business. Now all Rimjhim is fighting for is to stay together even when he's a jacka** and doesn't care about his people. HE cheated on his wife and she forgave him time after time after time. In kkusum she forgave abhay so many times i was shocked. In gharana(this is an old show) the heroine wudn't let her father in law and his brother's family separate. Usually all these shows r like u know the families cant eat or drink at their daughters house "hum beti kai ghar ka pani bhi nahin pee sakte". That attitude has changed ....especially amongst the educatec class .I know like pakistan is not like this so i want to know if it really is like that in india. In pakistan yeah they dont like divorce and u r looked down upon if u stay at ur daughters place but its not such a big deal. I mean people r generally more forgiving to women whose husbands have cheated on them. Its also not such a big deal to separate and live apart like yeah it hurts the parents if their kids dont get along but they do it for the sake of peace so the kids dont end up hating each other or their parents. My mom told my brother 15 taht if his wife wants to live with her and my dad that's great but if she doesn't then she doesn't want my brother ruining his relationship w/ his wife due to them so they should just move. My grandparents let my uncle leave when he and his wife wanted to. Is this what its like in india for the majority or is what they show on tv true.

Parents still want the bahu and beta to live with them like a joint family . But that too is getting acceptable . When i got married , i wanted to move after 1 year of living in joint family . My FIL got emotional , but agreed eventaully when we showed him that this was more practical .

Same thing with my best friedns , it took her a while to convince his family and husband that they will be better off in a different house . But they eventaully were resentfull .......then agreed and now are O.K !!

living together is held in high esteem, but living apart isn't frowned on... as for divorce it is looked down upon. i am saying this from personal experience. my uncle had a love marraige. he never told our family before marrying, but told us after 6 months. but we said its ok, we welcomed her home, and u know when u come for the first time u touch their feet and take blessings from all elders, her parrents told her she doesn't have to and ever since then her parents have been calling all the shots in their life. we treated my aunt very nicely... since we had 3 other bahus in the house she never had to lift a plate... but still just 1 month after staying with us... she went to her parents house and started a drama there saying these ppl are troubling me and wat not... she never came back after that... she made my uncle move to her parents' house... she wouldn't let him visit us and we could not visit theirs becuz she thought we would be imposing on her. after that they got a new house, in the same city as us... but never called my grandparents to see it even once... my uncle had a son but she didn't let my grandparents see my cousin too often becuz she thought he would get an infection... when she does visit she just sits in a corner with a sullen face and refuses to get involved. my uncle wanted a divorce before having children but his horoscope only shows one marraige so my grandma told him no, she didn't want him to spend his life alone. and now he is stuck with her.recently he wanted to put a picture of my grandparents in his house so that his children will remember them, and she threw the picture away saying that they are not that important... well the bottom line is that my uncle is soooo miserable with that woman... but he is stuck with her for the rest of lis life just becuz he made the mistake of marrying her once... so yeah... in real life divorces r not that common or favoured

tired watching a few hindi soaps. got confused as almost all storylines similar and all the actresses look alike too 😕 similar makeup clothes etc. was interested for a while in ek ladki anjaani si but now tht fading too.

but there is a huge audience out there for these types of shows. and form what u have written zara, methinks u've been hooked too though u say its fake 😉 . i think they take slices of real life garnish with tons of masala present it to the viewers. hence its the underlying seed ( and its a very wee little seed, mind u) that keeps viewers hooked.

Originally posted by: winnie_pooh

tried watching a few hindi soaps. got confused as almost all storylines similar and all the actresses look alike too 😕 similar makeup clothes etc. was interested for a while in ek ladki anjaani si but now tht fading too.

but there is a huge audience out there for these types of shows. and form what u have written zara, methinks u've been hooked too though u say its fake 😉 . i think they take slices of real life garnish with tons of masala present it to the viewers. hence its the underlying seed ( and its a very wee little seed, mind u) that keeps viewers hooked.

what i mean is that maybe not in the typical urban yuppie set up but somewhere out there, such things do happen and people do identify with such characters. there are millions of women out there trapped in loveless marriages who wont walk out of it. 😕