do u think its wrong 4 ppl to choose their partner

Originally posted by: hot babe

we had a debate in college yesterday in law (wasn't really relevant to law but its 99% girls class) one of the girls said it was right that a person should judge their partner in terms of ability and disability because having a partner with a disability may lead to them having disabled children in the future. She also said those with a disability should have a gene map done by their local doctors and if there was a high risk of their children being born disabled then they shouldn't have kids.

well being a female with a disability (SMA type 3) i felt like killing her but later on after thinking about it with a cool head i realised that she wasn't 100% wrong she did have a point, but then my subjectiveness came into it and it feltwrong to agree with her (sorry in babbling here). alot of ppl in my class disagreed with her and a few agreed with her

so my questions are

1) Do you think that diasbled people should have the gene map done to see it their children will have a disability,

2) if their children do have a high risk of being disabled do you think they should be allowed to have kids or do you think they should adopt/foster

3) do you think its unfair to say that just because a person is disabled s/he shouldn't have kids

sorry if it offends some ppl, i have no intention especially when i am disabled as well

Originally posted by: hot babe

1) Do you think that diasbled people should have the gene map done to see it their children will have a disability. Everyone should have a gene map done. I think people forget that certain genetic defects skip generations so healthy people are more likely to give birth to children with disabilities.Also certain genes are recessive and dominant. If one partners genes are dominant over the other partners disability gene then the chances of disability are lower. Sometimes the genetic mix of two healthy people is toxic.

2) if their children do have a high risk of being disabled do you think they should be allowed to have kids or do you think they should adopt/foster. Think about it would you want to give birth to a child prone to a painful long term illness and watch them suffer. Non lethal defects are a personal choice, but when it comes to lethal or painful defects then any parent should choose adoption right. My personal opinion is why create another suffering life when you can eliminate a suffering life. Note my opinions are not related to disabled people, but to birth defects in general.

3) do you think its unfair to say that just because a person is disabled s/he shouldn't have kids. Yes, that thought is stupid and irrationally founded. Its not just immoral ethically but ridiculous in terms of species preservation too. Although I would not mind laws prohibiting psycho octuplet moms or crack *** from spawning.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

On a different thought some people say I am emotionally crippled and not worth time and effort. Its fair enough. 😆

Originally posted by: hot babe

1) Do you think that diasbled people should have the gene map done to see it their children will have a disability,

related to bio.........no idea !(until i use google baba)😆

2) if their children do have a high risk of being disabled do you think they should be allowed to have kids or do you think they should adopt/foster

this is a totally personal choice and i don't believe that we can disallow anyone......until rare cases arise !

For a disabled parent, maybe sometimes the logic in having a disabled child is that if he/she could survive and do well enough , then he/she will make sure that his/her child also is able to cope with the disability

The logic against having a disabled child is ofcourse that the parent doesn't want his/her child to suffer the way he/she did

So , eventually it depends on what logic the parents prefer above the other (There might be many other things in the mind of parents too, but i just gave one logic for and against ! )

3) do you think its unfair to say that just because a person is disabled s/he shouldn't have kids

absolutely unfair !

if the parent is willing to have a disabled child and be there for them and support them then y not .. ppl with disability can lead a good life.