Physical relationship Before Marriage?

What are your views?

Ok I am gonna sound like a stone age girl here, but these are MY views and I have the right to express them.

I strictly do NOT believe in sex before marriagefor me.

Look if you ask a man this question don't expect detailed debate, BUT I will say this.
Would you buy a car without driving it first?

Originally posted by: xantia

Look if you ask a man this question don't expect detailed debate, BUT I will say this.
Would you buy a car without driving it first?

Originally posted by: SolidSnake

You can't compare your wife with a CAR. 😕 In any case marriage is much much much much more than only about sex IMO.

I have no problem with pre-marital sex also..its your life..do whatever you want but then don't expect "pureness" from your partner (husband or wife)...or don't get angry later when your kids also indulge in same.

Originally posted by: xantia

Look if you ask a man this question don't expect detailed debate, BUT I will say this.
Would you buy a car without driving it first?

re-Maya_M "So how does one know which model is better?"

If you google my name you'll get the answer.

Originally posted by: xantia

Look if you ask a man this question don't expect detailed debate, BUT I will say this.
Would you buy a car without driving it first?

Having some principles and then living by them is good in my opinion. Thus, if you believe that something is wrong then you should not do it.

However, the perception of what is right and what is wrong is different for different people. In any case some people may not agree with your principles and, you might agree, its not good to force our belief on others. Take an example of western society, if we may talk more globally. There, the difference between marriage and living together is getting diluted. People do not believe in marriage may be because they are atheists or may be because of some other reasons. So, I guess this relationship may be justified for them. Moreover, this might have brought some advantages to their society like less eve-teasing and more equality for women.

In any case, the above may not work for our society. There is another point that should this be a personal choice or should this be enforced by the society? At present this is also enforced by the society which in turn looks to be biased. These principles are enforced more strictly for women, whereas, at the same time, we talk of equality between men and women.

Originally posted by: Meena_A

What are your views?

Here are mine 😃

and mine are in RED

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Ok I am gonna sound like a stone age girl here, but these are MY views and I have the right to express them. Sure, sure, Hum bhi koi Taleban ke member nahi hai yaar😆

I strictly do NOT believe in sex before marriage for me. Those famous words also came from the mouths of Britney Spears😆😆

As far as sex before marriage is concerned, even if you put religion aside for a while. If you look at PRACTICALLY in all the health classes I have taken at my school, they ALL SAY ONE THING: practice abstinencemeaning wait to have sex until you are married, because of obvious reasons such as the transmission of sexual diseases.

Cant help it, you almost sound like marriage is a STD safe person certificate

BTW did they teach you STD can also be absorbed without any sexual activity?
https://www.4woman.gov/faq/sexually-transmitted-infections.cfm

Or maybe even sociological problems, how do you know wheater that person will stay with you tommorow or not?
so you are saying Marriage is like the handcuff that ensures that the person will stay with you forever

There is nothing guaranteed in life.Another famous line, I think this one tranlated in Hindi belongs to the Amma of Hindi Film Industry, Nirupa Roy

I am done talking here, I know some of you will agree with my views, some won't, I only said what I believe.

While I agree with the basic concept here, but your reasoning for the adoption of those concepts is not something I agree with. Again we all have a right to differ.

Moderator's Note: Thanks for the post, we do understand, the intent here (editing out mention of religion). Not sure, how others interpret it and for some an opportunity to cross the lines and take this topic towards inappropriateness, reason for this note. Any comments of views that are inappropriate will be removed without notice. So, feel free to use the report button. Not that we don't allow bold topics as in past, we have indeed on similar / related subject here are the links https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=188891 https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=478799 https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/debate-mansion/104580/live-in-relationship-vs-marriage Last year due to some posts in this and other sections, dev have revisited/tightened the rules around s* related topics. Please, adhere caution, while posting your views. Hope you understand what is meant here, if not PM me. Thanks! DM DT (raj5000)

man she asked me for view and I gave it and there already is a yellow box here, kamal ke moderating hai yaar!!!

Originally posted by: Meena_A

So you are comparing a woman's ability by seeing how great physical pleasure she gives? 😕 Maybe your mentality is different. But I find such views very degragating.

If you want to "test drive" a female, you should "test drive" her for her personality and values. Don't you think that will result in a better evaluation for marriage?😉

Now unless you really are not considering marriage and are just doing it for the sake of physical pleasure then that is whole another story.

Well the other poster didn't mention if he was a boy or a girl and was seeking a boy or a girl so how can you assume that he/she was comparing a car with a "woman"

Same goes for females as well, how can they tell if their men will be able to perform to a satisfactory level after marriage if they don't give it a try beforehand.. it works both ways.. its like saying women should just be happy with their partners regardless..

yeah yeah marriage is more than physical relationship and personality comes first? well sex does play a huge part in life. If you deprive yourself of some natural and basic human pleasure, you just end up being bitter with life, are irritable and your whole social/marital life takes a toll.. and could also cause mental illnesses and depravity
and in case of deprived desi boys, they end up being socially inept and end up being total pervs.. too many of those at my college, like can you make it any more obvious that you are staring at me? eeeek

its the stringent social norms in conservative societies that is the main cause for sexual abuse by family members, rape, sexually transmitted diseases etc..

i find it really hard to digest a bunch of young girls/guys (mostly teenagers) being advocate of abstinence and making judgmental remarks about other people's sex life. Like srsly, what do they know? grow up some and then when you meet that special boy you fall in love with, and lets see if you're happy just holding hands with him like a Rajshri movies heroine and wait 5 years to get married..

anyway, people who like to save themselves for their wedding night are free to do so.. as long as they stop pushing their opinion and views on others who don't subscribe to it..

I didn't end up marrying the first guy i fell in love with and i am 21 now and didn't wanna be a virgin in my 20's and i don't intend to get married anytime soon..