This girl spreads rumours about me - Page 3

Originally posted by: xsweetbabygyalx

sorry I didn't posted this here. This wasn't meant to belong here, it was meant to belong outside .. lol.

Originally posted by: AsliiGuy

For Guys:

-1- would you tease the girl who you love sarcastically in front of your friends to impress yourself ?

No...Thats wrong...If you loved a girl you would probably make stupid jokes about each other to make her laugh....But not teasing her infront of ppl...(unless those ppl are your best friends, as well as the guys, and its for fun etc...)....

-2- would you tease her in front of your friends sarcastically (in a rude way) to show your friends you don't care about her so they wouldn't make fun of you or whatever?

Nope....I wouldnt care if my friends made fun of me...And friends like that (if they are serious) should be nicer... a g/f's relationship is different than those with your guy friends...

-3- will it scare you when your friends start the topic about your girlfriend all of a sudden?

Nope....Depends on what topic tho....But you can always say, "Guys I love her, and thats that"...if my friends make fun of me, i just say "So"? where is ur love/crush? Oh yea u dont have one!" lol😆

- if that ever happens, will you get so nervous where you are clueless in what to say so you just saying rude things about her in other words lie about her?

I can see with guys how this could happen, but honestly a girl is not ur guy friend in which you can make jokes openly infront of everyone...So i would defend her and tell my friends stop talking about her etc..😉

I will answer the guys part...See my answers in red...😆😉

Originally posted by: xsweetbabygyalx

hey guys, I'm a newbie here and this is my first time writing a post. I'm in a relationship for a few years now and I am wondering if my boyfriend's behaviour is normal in love as if all guys do this in love or if my bf is different 😳 I don't have a brother so it's so hard to tell 😕

here's the story .. my boyfriend asked me about marriage in our 8th month relationship than again a few months after that, he adviced me to get married to him and on Christmas he kind of proposed me(it was more of just marry me as he's very desperate to marry me) than last year he talked about marriage twice and this year he's talking about his kids careers how he wants his son to be in the same career as he is right now. He kisses me a lot and blows kisses whenever we are at a distance apart from each other. I think he's the shy type because I remember him telling me a story about his first crush when he was in 10th grade, he was so scared to talk to her, he couldn't even say 'hi' and he also told me another story of the other girl who I think he liked when he was in the 3rd grade. He works a lot and has 2 to 3 or 4 jobs so it's hard for him to give me quality of his time but I just manage it even though I do miss him a lot and am always lonely without him.😭

here's the problem - this year, in front of his coworkers, he lied about me saying things that I didn't even do and called me names once which was last month when his coworker started the topic about me but behind their back, he's totally different. He's all sweet, romantic and everything. Whenever the topic is not about me, he's cool and normal and while his coworkers are in front of him, he still blows me kisses my way 😳 😊

him lying about me and calling me names in front of his coworkers gets me very upset and 😡 at him where I have to give him a one day silent treatment and email him clarifying that i'm not what he told them i was. He hates my silent treatments though. Last month when he called me something I'm not (an offensive word) in front of his coworker, after I got angry and send him a few hate mails, his reaction was weird because he seemed in a joyous mood then I figured that he was teasing me and as a matter of fact, it was a tease.😆

For Guys:

-1- would you tease the girl who you love sarcastically in front of your friends to impress yourself ?

-2- would you tease her in front of your friends sarcastically (in a rude way) to show your friends you don't care about her so they wouldn't make fun of you or whatever?

-3- will it scare you when your friends start the topic about your girlfriend all of a sudden?

- if that ever happens, will you get so nervous where you are clueless in what to say so you just saying rude things about her in other words lie about her?

Originally posted by: sandali_

Here are my questions and concerns:

-1- is this normal for guys in love?

I would say it isn't. Because in any relationship there needs to be that level of respect, which by name calling is not really there.

-2- does this mean he is serious about me?

Well talks of marriage have been made so this name calling and accusing seems out of place. And if he can be sweet to you without his friends there then he should be able to accept this relationship even with his friends there. At the end of the end he shouldn't hurt you.

-3- does this mean he is still shy?

He may be shy, but you mention that he has been talking about marriage, so if that were to be on the cards then there really is no reason to be shy. Being shy should not mean that he should name call you and accuse you, because that's not an acceptable way to treat anyone.

I would suggest that you confront him about this and ask why as you need to know and deserve to treated well with respect.

I hope I've helped by giving my perspective on this. All the best.😛

hey sandali .. thank you soo so soo much for your wonderful advices and suggestions. I feel much better and I hope he doesn't hurt me again. I don't know if he's shy because he always gets so nervous whenever his coworker mentions my name or a topic about me. I think he might be the shy type 😛