Not able to decide which one is more annoying - MD or anupama - Page 2

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Please bare my long post.

See thats ingrained in any bahu or daughter in law to hate mother in law or husband mom from childhood by parents, family, movies, serials, society etc

hey, I am glad that you agree that even DILs can have misunderstandings about MILs, otherwise I always hear that only MIL is wrong.

Yes, it is also true that MILs think that DIL will take away his son, but you know its very natural, it is as much natural as the wife thinking that his husband is paying more attention to his mom.

I also understand that the wife who has left her family and has come with him needs attention, but at the same time, the women who has spent so many years with his son can just not leave everything so easily.

all 3 parties need to compromise thoda thoda.

It is the mans duty to maintain the balance between both the women, it is the MILs duty to make her DIL feel comfortable at her new home, at the same time it is the duty of DIL to make her MIL feel secure and assure her that he was, is and always be your son.

But I don't know you will agree on this or not, lekin our generation which is the younger generation will have to bent little more as compare to our elder gen, this is because they have lived a life in a way for approx 35-40 years, now it is not possible to change themselves completely specially when the MIL is not working, if she is not working then it is very difficult for her to change because she has not seen anything other than her house, she knows utna hi jitna her mom and her in-laws told her.

That's why I don't blame Anupama for how she thinks about many things because she has lived that life only, I don't even blame her for how she considers everyone her family.

I blame her for her hipocracy, I blame her for how she keeps abusive baa and bapu ji on her head but misbehaves with MD. I would have tried to understand her situation if she would have considered MD as "bade Bhagwaan" wala thing as she does with Shah buzurg (elders).

coming back to my topic ki yes, MILs are bad in so many families, yes in many families they are hell abusive, but it is not true everywhere, in many families either too much interference by the third party or just small small misunderstandings become very bigggggg.

I remember a very beautiful thing said by MS Sudha Murti, see how much she earns but how grounded she is, I don't know why I have some soft cornor for South Indian people, although I am a North Indian, but I like how they keep balance between our culture and the modern thoughts.

The link is given below below.

https://youtube.com/shorts/ANAVWLp1iPA?si=Qkh9UQPNSCMcDEwJ

She also said that the older generation should try to give as much as possible, try to detach themselves if possible. However this statement is not given in this link.

As per law ancestral house if for all grand kids no son or daughter can own it. Sr kapadiya built it so anuj house is ancestral so all grand kids can stake claim on it. So why anupama keeps saying my house my house is a mystery? ancestral house goes to kids or grand kids each gen unless owner who built writes one name as owner.

That's what I am saying from so long, I mean I am not getting this, how come this Anuj Kapadiya is just transfering property from one person to another, bhai technically it should go to CA, Muku and if senior Kapadiyas have mentioned in their will then even to Ankush's children because the house was built by Anuj Kapadiya's father so only if he has mentioned then only it will go to Ankush and his children.

Now Anuj or Vanraj is not liable to pay Pakhi's for her living Pakhi toh chodo kisi kaa pay karne ki zaroorat nahi hai other than Dimpy because as per the law if DIL is widow toh taking care of her is in-laws responsibility.

Baat hain badi simple.

It starts with: "Have you accepted the marriage and family or not?"

Anuj's answer would be "head over heels".

Anupama's answer: Conditions apply. Limited to finances.

Secondly, "What are your efforts towards your marriage?"

Anuj's answer: more than a 100%

Anupama's answer: 🤔still thinking......

When we see a woman rushes to her birth mother when ALL other doors close but conveniently forgets her every other time, one doesn't have much to say, do they?

As for life, the same two questions apply to us ALL.

When families were large, it could possibly function only when there was one head of the family, usually the parents. The first genration would hold the subsequent generations together. There was no confusion or doubt about distribution of power.

After that, usually families would disintegrate into many nuclear families where the erstwhile second generation would be the head of the disintegrated smaller family.

As times have passed and lifestyles have changed, we have fewer children and each have their own Lifestyle where such families are practically not feasible unless both generation make significant changes.

Actually, AnupaMaid is taking revenge from Balti for the slap. She decided that she'll make Balti live with her and ensure that her life becomes a living hell

The same way she has destroyed the lives of anyone who is educated or accomplished something by themselves.

If Majboor has resentment with Balti and can never forgive her, just throw her out or ask her to live elsewhere. But they let her stay there just to keep being insulted.

Btw same hypocritical AnupaMaid who gives endless bhashans of Bade Bhagwaan over guttermouth Jhuli lets her Besharam daughter Makkhi or kidnapper Romil insult Balti at will without saying anything. Actions speak louder than words. Thooo thooo thooo

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

As for life, the same two questions apply to us ALL.

When families were large, it could possibly function only when there was one head of the family, usually the parents. The first genration would hold the subsequent generations together. There was no confusion or doubt about distribution of power.

After that, usually families would disintegrate into many nuclear families where the erstwhile second generation would be the head of the disintegrated smaller family.

As times have passed and lifestyles have changed, we have fewer children and each have their own Lifestyle where such families are practically not feasible unless both generation make significant changes.

very true

But in today's time we even get affected if our in-laws are living with us, even if they are not creating any problem in their son's life, even if they are accommodative, even if they are trying to accept all the new generations things.

Originally posted by: IWasHareeshFan

very true

But in today's time we even get affected if our in-laws are living with us, even if they are not creating any problem in their son's life, even if they are accommodative, even if they are trying to accept all the new generations things.

The parents' generation have to understand that if you try to pin down, there will be a tendency to break free.

For example: (of how NOT to be)

Leela wants her family to stay with them because she wants to be taken care of. Even if the children have to give up on opportunities and a way to build their life. I have come to doubt if she really loves even her son, otherwise.

The younger generation have to realise that the parents' today is your tomorrow.

For example: If Malati Devi, Ankush-Barkha are old and/or dependent, it won't be long when Anuj-Anupama will become the same, especially with how they have taken their privileges for granted and been extremely ungrateful.

Once the cushion of Kapadia Empire is gone, they cannot even imagine the 3 anmol ratan to be there for them in old age even remotely.

Ba bhagwan hai but balti devi bhagwan kyun nai hai?

Originally posted by: Krinya

Ba bhagwan hai but balti devi bhagwan kyun nai hai?

In Anupamaverse the word ‘Shah’ holds more importance than the word ‘Devi’