Originally posted by: hypnotoad
Siraj and Nooran seem to come from rural feudal backgrounds (in sindh or south punjab).
In these landed, rural, feudal families that are conservative, there is a separate zenana (or woman's section) which is a ruled with an iron fist by the woman of the house (the khanum, the chaudhrayen, the badi bibi, the maa sa - they go by various names/titles).
Where men are responsible for what zameen, zar, panchayati, etc. but what happens in the zenana - including the interpersonal relationships between different women in the house - are the domain of the woman of the house and she regulates it.
Men do not (and are not supposed to) interfere in how these head women run their domain - the same way women are not supposed to interfere with how head men run their panchayats. It is a very gendered division of labour that traverses the public and the private.
If you are from this type of background - MK not taking action himself probably did not strike Nooran or Siraj as weird as it would have been under Maa Begum's (or Merub's) jurisdiction to discipline Haya and mete out her punishment.
Merub never accepted the marriage so never really exerted her khanum power the way she could really to quash Haya like a bug. MB was either negligent or not firm enough. She sent Haya to exile in gaon for a few weeks/months after the stairs and jaadoo incidents but brought her back - her plan to get rid of Haya permanently was to marry her off to Naurez but we saw what happened. With the video, MB questioned Haya but believed her bald-faced lies.
Both the back hug and first accident MU was where MK had a lot more reason to intervene directly. Thia was not a fight between women in the house but something Haya did to MK. If nothing else, he should have told MB to deal with Haya.
Not absolving MK of his responsibility, but just trying to explain why Nooran/Siraj did not think it weird to not have MK deal more actively with Haya
This gendering of roles is so pervasive in our society and takes generations to erode. I am from an urban and liberal family - but even in my family, the role of discipling children and dealing with children squabbles was my mother's domain and something my dad never got involved with. Growing up, the saas-bahu ya naand-bhabhi ki takrars, the jithan-dewrani feuds, other ghareloo jhagras were something I remember seeing men even in urban families just wanting to keep out of and let women in the house sort it out on their own. This was a common dynamic in many urban households when I was growing up. In rural more conservative settings, this type of separation of domains would have been much more obvious.
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