Be Ashamed to Body Shame - Page 2

Body shaming is not just limited to weight. People get comments about their skin tone, height, facial features (wonky teeth/stubby nose), even some unfortunate deformity( even wearing glasses🤓 - Shadi nahi hogi, blah, blah).

Most of the times the perpetrators are our own family and friends. They do it either because they themselves are insecure in their appearance or just don't realise the effect of body shaming. In many cases, they do realise the effect and very much intend it, especially if they are extended family.

It's common to compare between cousins, especially girls, based on their looks. Sibling rivalry too plays a part. One of my aunts looked down upon her sisters because she was fairer. Now her daughters consider themselves superior as they have inherited those genes. Needless to mention they are quite vocal about it, not a visit goes by when they don't insult someone for their skin-tone🤷‍♀️

interesting topic....

i used to name "chahal" (cricketer) "skinny" in the forums... its not becz f his luks ..bt.. the day i saw him in ipl... some yrs back... i think during his debut... he was luking too cute n small... it was difficult to see him holding bat n hitting 🤣

in real, never talked abt body shaming... but i used to hear such society concerns from collegues, relatives..... 2 3 times heard ignored...but repetitive comments hurts....

like said... now its Dont Care attitude mode, even thou i may feel bad for the moment but it goes off suddenly...

Originally posted by: monalidp

Body shaming is not just limited to weight. People get comments about their skin tone, height, facial features (wonky teeth/stubby nose), even some unfortunate deformity( even wearing glasses🤓 - Shadi nahi hogi, blah, blah).

Most of the times the perpetrators are our own family and friends. They do it either because they themselves are insecure in their appearance or just don't realise the effect of body shaming. In many cases, they do realise the effect and very much intend it, especially if they are extended family.

It's common to compare between cousins, especially girls, based on their looks. Sibling rivalry too plays a part. One of my aunts looked down upon her sisters because she was fairer. Now her daughters consider themselves superior as they have inherited those genes. Needless to mention they are quite vocal about it, not a visit goes by when they don't insult someone for their skin-tone🤷‍♀️

seconding you....... too much

There is a thin line between body shaming and a genuine health concern advise. It depends on the intention of the person.

I believe the weight related advise should be private and never made in public. Being fat is not a healthy thing to be when you haven't attained the proper age. Staying fit is a good thing and if someone's taunt inspires/motivates you it's good.

I was extremely skinny growing up but now I have gained some healthy weight. Though my body is not huge but my stomach is causing all the issues. I am still fit but there are time I struggle. Lots of people tell me arey Tera pet nikal gaya hai....are tu to mota dikh Raha hai. I politely accept it and say I am working on it and shall be fit. And even if I fail to it will be all on me. So I am not worried about body shaming. I take it on my face and I reply that I will do everything possible to change but if I can't change it I am happy with what I have.

In the end your happiness is in your hands. You should not be affected by what people tell about you .....bcoz whether you are Fat, Skinny, White, Black , Ugly, Beautiful, Rich, Poor, Married, Unmarried, with job or without, educated or panchvi fail .....people will always have a SAY .....but you would be affected bcoz you are a human and it's natural for us. Just accept everything coming towards you and try to be happy as much as possible. You can't fight people or their opinions.

I don't know if I made kuch sense but I am trying to live without bothering about opinions and I have been somewhat successful.

Originally posted by: DreamOfEndless

Society is unneccesarily obsessed with outer appearance, and more so with the advent of social media. But it is important to remember that as long as one is having a healthy diet, the required amount of water, proper sleep, healthy amounts of exercise (neither over nor under), takes care in case there is any nutrient deficiency or hormonal imbalance, takes care of one's mental health, gets some amount of sun exposure during the day (for serotonin levels, it improves mood); as long as one takes care of these things, their body shape doesn't matter. People have different metabolic rates, so they can appear differently despite following every healthy habit. There is no ideal shape. What really matters is that a person is happy and internally healthy.

Great thread, CC! ❤ Accepting one's body is an important aspect of self love. For a long time, (esp during my teens), I hated myself for being too skinny. Of course, people taunted and pointed it out. (Well, maybe the hatred started because of the taunts). Now I have learnt not to listen to these people and have a little more self love.

this is what is so important and while i applaud the fact that you now are able to ignore those people the fact is many out there will not be able to do that and the taunts stay with them and has a big impact on how they perceive themselves - some people start hating themselves and self-love is so important especially with the given rise in mental health issues leading to increase suicide both in adults and youngsters

Originally posted by: Yuvika_15

this is what is so important and while i applaud the fact that you now are able to ignore those people the fact is many out there will not be able to do that and the taunts stay with them and has a big impact on how they perceive themselves - some people start hating themselves and self-love is so important especially with the given rise in mental health issues leading to increase suicide both in adults and youngsters

True, it's hard to ignore, esp if it is coming from people close to you. I wouldn't say I learned to ignore the comments in day, teenage is especially an impressionable age. But self love is important, and it's important to learn self-love. Besides, everyone is aware about their own body type, they don't need people to come up to them and make them uncomfortable by speaking about it. Unless the person themself is asking for help/advice. Instead of we getting used to tolerating their taunts, why can't others get used to accepting that different people are bound to have different body type?

There is a game. At first glance, basic rules of the game seem transparent and uniformly applicable to all but that perception could be very deceiving. In general, players are expected to advance in levels of varying difficulty based on a multitude of factors such as their intelligence, their looks, for the way they dress, groom, speak, behave, network, socialize and more.

Game can be rewarding but very stressful at the same time.

The benchmarks for rewards are hazy and haphazard. For one, rewards are not guaranteed. Also, for the same effort, some players may get rewarded more while some players may never get rewarded.

It so happens that some players are better equipped than others even before they begin playing; they have inherent advantages.

Now, it should be perfectly OK if someone chooses to be a spectator and not play the game. It should also be perfectly OK if someone chooses to quit the game that they were forced to enter to begin with.

There is absolutely no point to players judging other players. If you do well in the game, you advance, good for you!

Unfortunately, judging is innate. It is a natural instinct, a survival mechanism. Most, if not all, players are hard-wired to compete against one another and, as you know, judging is an integral part of any competition.

For the "unkind" act of judging, how much blame should go to the players and how much to the game designer(s)/developer(s), is unclear to me.

My two cents.

How did I miss this amazing topic. So damn relatable.

All of us have been through this, somewhere or the other. People around you are so behind making you perfect that they forget that your own self is the definition of your individuality. Its make you YOU and not some imaginary person they think is the perfect.

I have been through this way too much and that happens to me every single day. Everyone who meets me is almost ready with an advice for me (uninvitedly) to convert me into a perfect person (the one they think is).

This sometimes lead to the discrimination at the workplace or public places too which is sad. All presumptions and no facts.

Bollywood has carved an image of a perfect body in society's mind that even though themselves don't fall into that category, they are always ready to point the fingers at you.

It is very important for people to understand that fitness does not come with shape and size. It comes with physical and mental health. If you are physically and mentally doing well you shape and size stand no where.

If going to gym would have been a definition of a perfect life then people these days won't be dying in the gym.

I hope people understand that by doing this they are not helping others, rather sending their mental health for a toss.


Thank you for this topic.