Originally posted by: atominis
I know that attitude firsthand.
My teacher would sometimes drive to her husband's ancestral village and he would be sitting besides her. They would take turns to drive as journey was long. People would GLARE at them and could not tolerate why woman was driving and man wad sitting or dozed off on seat.
My mom tells me, people used to mock my dad if he ever held me or my brother or changed our diapers or helped us in learning handwriting and would tell her it was not his job or mock my dad and blame my mom and it is my dad who shut up those relatives and neighbours and said it was his pleasure as a dad to be able to take care of and teach his kids and he enjoyed spending time with us.
My chacha was mocked for helping chachi in cooking, laundry and taking care of her when she was sick and also for taking care of his widowed MIL. Like what? Why can a man not take care of his wife or in laws if he wants? His own jealous relatives from extended family would call him weak or joru ka ghulam or claim he was a bullied man. Apparently helping in chores at own home and taking care of wife or in laws and parents and kids is wrong for a man and a man cannot balance home, parents, work, in laws if he wants to.
What I hate is men shaming men who support daughter, kids, wife, in laws or do anything at home. Like what is your issue if someone is close to wife, sister, kids, mom or respects rights, freedom of female family members too? Or why shame a man for taking care of own kids? And shaming men who are not perverts or creeps or do not indulge in misogyny or shaming men who are generally respectful of women and do not look down upon women, nor see women as sex objects? Or why shame men who earn less than women or are perhaps less educated than women?
There are equally jealous women also who perhaps lack a secure or supportive man in own life and hate to see a dad support daughter or brother support sister or husband and in laws support wife or any man support a woman in any way. So they project own frustrations at other women and men. They will then say man has pampered woman or woman dominates men blah blah.
This is sick and I am glad it is being called out and discussed now. Conversations will slowly make people rethink and hopefully initiate change in attitude.
come on, it's not this bad. Guys are still happy to hold the bedroom door open for the ladies.😉😆
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