Reasons why CA was the chosen one - Page 2

Originally posted by: shwetha85

Perhaps, he should have married someone else. If it was all about adopting a kid (as he sees himself in that position) then he should have done that a long time ago but since he waited for 26 years for this lady then it doesnt make any sense to have suffocation in her presence overnight. The markers have made a mockery out of adoption and its rules. He was ready to take Anu the child to the courts for his obsession, did not even had second thoughts of what the child will go through and what kind of mental imbalance it will bring to a 7-8 year old.

Originally posted by: hinz

Perhaps he should have…though it was not all about adopting a kid…and the suffocation has had a good build up, it wasnt overnight…he has repeatedly asked her to draw a line… If taking the child to the court was a mental health scare then what Anupama did was worse by letting the child believe stuff that wasnt at all healthy… there is always two sides to a coin…

Exactly!! Anupamaa let her CA go away with Maaya just like that. She knew CA's reasons for going away were mere and stupid but she was like it's ok. Please let her go and live happily.

About the suffocation - except for Shahs who is not suffocated with Anupamaa? Why should Anuj even bother about that lady when she cannot connect to his grievance? He has always stood by her side and listened to her nonsense lectures about mere bache mere duties mere this mere that. He also deserves to be listened to. He needs some time to cope up with the fact that the girl he loved like his own daughter is gone. It's natural for people to prefer small kids over adults. They feel more connected to the kids and enjoy their company. The same is with Anuj moreover Anupamaa aunty never spent a lot of time with Anuj.

Also about that adopting another child. Once you start loving someone else you can't change your mind in a go and say chalo she's toh gone let me get another kid. Anuj couldn't forget Anupamaa with whom he didn't spend a lot of time with during college days for 26 years, how can he forget CA with whom he has so many good memories so easily? It's not like Anuj was desperate for adopting a kid but when he expressed his desire Anupamaa should've sternly refused but no she let it happen. She thought maybe her denial would hurt him so let it happen even if she knew somewhere that she cannot give a lot of time to that child.

Originally posted by: hinz

@bold- he never said or showed that he hated her…he just wants Anupama to understand that he needs time and soacd to grieve but the woman doesnt get it and keeps asking why he is behaving weird… I wish he said he hated her, kissa hi khatam ho jata once and for all.

totally agree its shoddy writing!

Yeah he hasn’t said it but sure feels like that.

Arre festivals celebrate karne se fursar miley to story likhein na. This show just jumps from one festival to another with kaands and lollipops sprinkled in between. 🥸

Originally posted by: Fighter03

Yeah he hasn’t said it but sure feels like that.

Arre festivals celebrate karne se fursar miley to story likhein na. This show just jumps from one festival to another with kaands and lollipops sprinkled in between. 🥸

Originally posted by: shwetha85

As far as I remember from the great memorial Mumbai so called honeymoon episode:

1. Her name is Anu. This was a biggest one

2. This kid danced like our dear Anupama. This was the second big one

3. This kid prayed to Krishna brother (Kanha ji). This was an add on

4. This kid prayed God to send her parents soon and the newly wedded couple heard the prayer. This was an emotional one.

5. The kid was exactly the age that they perhaps wanted 7-8 years old neither too small nor a teenager. This could have been a practical one.

The reasons for bringing this particular kid home for fostering was very evident that she reflected his Anupama in some ways but now all of a sudden his 26 years of pyaar has become dum dum dum guttha hai. It is looking so weird that he has crossed all obsession limits and behaving so stupid. If it is all about becoming parents then there are 100s of kids without one and they can do this again but there is no logic for showing a highly logical man to behave like Anu is his own blood. He is ready to sacrifice the marriage and woman he waited for 26 years in a second. To me is now that this man got married only because he wanted to foster otherwise who in world would not want to spend quality time with someone he gained after 26 years and wants to become a father overnight??? The markers have gone crazy for sure. They have nothing else to offer and the show has completely gone rotten.

I am sure AK ka dum dum dum guttha hai ya nahi par audience ka zaroor gutega jald hi.

correct, ek dum correct che

This man was pauper, wretched and so unfortunate that not a single woman in this world would marry him and could give him a child. or he is not able to impregnate any woman.. kyunki yeh shahs ka domain hai.

This man is grandfather of Varaj in planning and plotting. For 26 yrs, he was planning that he would foster a child the next moment he met with anupama. He knew that mere bacche ko anupmaaa jaisi maa mil hi nahi sakti.

Bhestum bhest parvarish, sanskaar sirf Anu maa hi de sakti hai.

Not sure if I putting my thoughts correctly here .

Mahaan Anu never lost a child . even if you don't experience certain situations as a human being you will have empathy towards a person whose is going through but this lady is absolute disgrace.

As per her Relationship with Vanraj is valuable at that time and she lost that relationship due to cheating /EMA/Abuse etc and was able to move on. How could she say let's forget everything and start fresh to anuj when he lost a child not out of cheating etc but out of manipulation by Maaya /Anupamaa and their freaking competition and tipe of that she resisted him from fighting for that kid ,Never once she tried and let him try.

Even though Paakhi and T left the house in initial episodes,it was due to their hatred /bitterness.Here CA left because she was manipulated and she is kid and does not have right set of mind to take a decision.She as a foster mother has to help her understand but this lady is so selfish.

We are not sure as makers never showed but Anuj must have reacted the same way when his parents died ,Mukku left or when he lost anupamaa during college days.That's the reason why he is asking her to give some space and this lady is adamant about festival celebrations.

Originally posted by: Harish111

Do peope really believe kids are like gajar mooli? Ek gaya, doosra le aao?

Dude parents get PTSD even for an un born child after miscarriage(and yes both mom and dad get PTSD) . And you have someone live with you like your own child for so long and you think there is no attachment?

And what is this flesh and blood nonsense in the 21st century? Adopted parents take care of adopted child like their own flesh and blood in today's day and age

Dude it hasnt even been COUPLE of days since a father lost his child. Grieving for two days is NOT obsession, its normal behavior

And no 26 year love survives when a spouse emotionally cheats and spends 90% time at ex in laws and neglects spouse and children in new family. Even 260 years love won't survive

And reason for Anuj adopting was shown, Anupama would never be his and would spend 90% time at ex in laws. He needed someone of his own

P.S. just because its a father instead of mother, his love for his child is no less and Grieving for a lost child is not obsession. Lets stop the double standards

My two cents.

Whenever a person is depressed for whatever reason, he does not feel like talking to anyone or doing anything.

For sure, We cannot leave him alone but forcing, pushing, and pulling as Anupama did, any sane person would behave like crazy. Here, Anuj has lost his child, not a favorite toy or 5000rs she is not giving time and space; instead wants him to act as if nothing happened. He was silent but this lady forced him to behave like it.

This lady is obsessed with herself.

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