Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 16 Mar 2023 - Page 10

Originally posted by: Supree2022

Chalo..der se hi sahi... he has finally realised his chabbis saal ka pyar for Maaaa was a total waste of "tame" and "energy"🤣🤣🤣

iss 26 saal ke pyaar ne usko puri tamasha family dedi, I wonder vo kabhi TV bhi dekhta hoga I mean usko toh pura entertainment ghar baithe baithe hi mil gaya vo bhi lifetime entertainment and that too free of cost

oh! I forgot, nothing is free in this world, you have to give/sacrifice something, so for the sake of his entertainment he has sacrificed his inner peace.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I haven't been watching the show either. But based on the written updates, pics & clips I was also one of them who thought Anuj was obsessed with CA. His expression of grief is what made me believe he is obsessed.

He did not sir the child, he is fostering her. He feels attched to her like a father figure. But once the birth mother is in pic, he cannot throw a fit and say that he is now attched to the child and won't let the child be with her mom or start declaring that his life has no meaning without the child.

No matter how strong his attachment is, he cannot override birth parents. That is why some of us here think his obsession is unreasonable.

There is no denying that a father showers equal love & affection to their child like a mother does. And ofcourse, we have to discount everything illogical such as not validating Maaya's claims etc.

But he is still losing his child. No parent can suddenly be logical just because birth mother shows up. They still need time to grieve. There is no switch which goes - oh birth parent showed up, let me turn off my love and attachment

Its weird that people are blaming him on the very day he lost his child. It's not like its been months and years and he is still obsessed

I don't understand how people can call a father grieving his lost child ON THE VERY DAY obsessed. He is not even allowed one day to grieve?

Originally posted by: amulbaby06

I haven't watched the episode but if Anupama really didn't said anything to CA and comfort her saying she is not the reason then it is totally unacceptable. Then what we all are discussing in the forum she proved it right. She is discriminating.

What Anuj is doing is not obsession. It is a father's love. A love of an orphan to other. There are some people who are emotionally weak. they maybe tycoons or any but emotionally weak specially with kids. Anuj is also in the same boat. Hamari doesn't mean blood relation it can be dil ka rishtha also. What he is having is heart connection.

Some people say heart is just an organ like other body parts but for some it is totally different. It is the way of thinking and seeing or perspective that changes.

Thanks for pointing out the heart to heart connection. I totally agree. If this weren't the case then Anuj wouldn't have felt anything or Samar since they first met. I know the writers don't explore that much but Anuj and Samar have always been close from day 1 vs. Vanraj and Samar, so blood ties aren't everything.

@bold I feel this is a key factor that affects his perspective and the storm of emotions he's experience. I just wish they'd explore it more. It's interesting that they play the bgm saying 'yeh hunar baap jaane nahin' or something, i.e. how father's can't always express their feelings or cry, etc. If a woman can wail and feel her world turning upside down for her kid as a mother then a father can feel that (and sometimes even more because of their strong paternal instinct). He has been in CA's position, he knows what it felt like to move from orphanage to home. I really wish the PH would explore this properly and maybe even have Anuj or Ankush talk about what happened to Anuj as a kid and how he was adopted at an age where he was able to understand and remember his experiences.

Also, CA is Anuj's first (and maybe last) child. All parents are more obsessive and possessive about the first kid because he or she is the one that made you a parent for the first time.

Originally posted by: Harish111

But he is still losing his child. No parent can suddenly be logical just because birth mother shows up. They still need time to grieve. There is no switch which goes - oh birth parent showed up, let me turn off my love and attachment

Its weird that people are blaming him on the very day he lost his child. It's not like its been months and years and he is still obsessed

I don't understand how people can call a father grieving his lost child ON THE VERY DAY obsessed. He is not even allowed one day to grieve?

Agree, and even if he were to grieve till his last breath, I don't see what's wrong with that. I know there are men who can't forget even the children they've lost when their wives miscarried and this is a kid he was drawn to since day 1. If this were a woman we'd all hear about maa ki mamta, tons of glorification but when it comes to father's love it doesn't seem to get the same appreciation or attention. Btw what's the fatherly equivalent of mamta? Does that word exist?

I am glad they are showing this because toxic masculinity and its prevalence hinders men from showing their emotions and acting out. People also 'expect' men to recover fast or even worse, not to react at all, to remain stoic in the face of great pain and loss, etc. as though they are stone-hearted. Makes no sense to me. If she had been his biological child I bet people would've been less bothered.

Lastly, if parents weren't obsessed with their kids then the world wouldn't function the way it does today, neither would the circle of life. Anuj married and set up his family very late in life, something he may have thought would never happen. Now that he managed to have a wife and kid to complete his family, why would he want to give that up. He's lost his parents, GK is MIA, as is Mukku. The guy is completely alone.

I know AB and BB are growing closer to Anuj and genuinely caring for him but they did deceive him and mistreat Anupama in the past, so Anuj hasn't forgotten.

Also, all said and done, he's human and is going to make mistakes. The Shahs make monstrous errors and still have fun and games as though nothing happened. Anuj is going through a personal crisis and feels he can't turn to anyone in this situation. I know he's screaming and shouting but this was long overdue. How much can a person tolerate? Just like he has accepted that Anupama has two housesholds to look after, those around him should accept that his jaan, his CA being taken away from him, even if legally done, is going to cause him immense pain. In real life too, biological parents come back to claim their children after a few years and it causes huge pain to the adoptive parents. I wouldn't wish it on my enemy because neither sets of parents is wrong and the children somehow suffer.

Originally posted by: naq5

one qn. CA told anupama she liked to live them rather than maya. she also told her she wants to go with maya because maya wud make anupama & anuj fight. so she know she was sacrificing. why did she allow the poor girl to enter into this sacrifice? what was she thinking. also hid that from anuj

And this is exactly what Anuj was afraid of in the past, that CA would turn out to be self-sacrificing like Anupama and get hurt throughout her life. That's exactly what happened. Poor kid.

After this episode, I really, really dislike Anupamaa. Anuj is completely justified. Anuj is having a breakdown and Anupamaa gives Bashan on Maa ka dard 👏I agree with Anuj - When Kavya came to do Pooja for Toshu' s wedding I think, with Vanraj , that time she caught Kavya's hand and threw her out of the house. When Kavya put Samar in jail for false allegation, Anupamaa fought tooth and nail. Now, when Maaya has falsely manipulated Choti, she is not fighting for her, not letting Anuj fight. She is leaving Choti with a manipulative liar (as she tells herself) forever. She didn't spend time for the 15 days, broke her promise to Anuj.. Phew! I can go on and on.

Anupamaa is an official vamp for me and if Anuj ever forgives her, he will be a villian for me. Anupamaa is totally evil as she as a mother and can convince a father to leave their child forever on the basis of false manipulation.

Originally posted by: inlieu

And this is exactly what Anuj was afraid of in the past, that CA would turn out to be self-sacrificing like Anupama and get hurt throughout her life. That's exactly what happened. Poor kid.

Originally posted by: naq5

so u watch this show. i watch on & off. anupama is too much to handle sometimes.
i cant believe anupama just let the child believe that she is the reason for their fights & let her sacrifice her happiness for them. she dint even try to tell her she is not the reason for their fights.
Ive already felt anupama is too soft towards vanraj & expects her children too to pander to his whims & fancies so there she fails as a mother. but this has gone too far now. on top of it its disgusting that she is the one going to be glorified even after doing this. she dint even tell anuj the truth here. cheated with him too

I watch it on and off too but have been following since Maaya appeared as it seemed to challenge their status quo.

I hope they don't end up showing Maaya as some kind of gold-digger/fraud and that she really is CA's bio mother after all. This situation has only brought out the problems in Anupama's marriage and things she needs to keep reflecting on. Everyone has told her to get her priorities right but it's for her to introspect and see what makes sense. Heck even Maaya pointed out that CA would never get Anupama's full attention that a kid her age really needs.