Originally posted by: sunshining
ok peeps time for my controversial question with a slight variation.
Is Akshu being unfair to Abhir by deciding to take the next step with Nav?
Reason for my question. Till now even if the marriage is indeed real, their relationship had not been. With Akshu's decision to progress, she has pretty much buried any chance of Abhir finding out about his real dad. Agree Abhi marrying had pretty much killed that but this decision by Akshu to me is the nail in the coffin.
I know some of you have views that Akshu is angry because Abhi couldnt recognise his own blood. To me that was an unrealistic expectation. If anyone knows Abhi, that is Akshu. She knows Abhi is extremely possessive when it comes to her. Him knowing she is married has blinded him completely. He is unable to think beyond. She also knows the man doesnt always see grey.
I accept she has every right to hide the truth from Abhi because he refused to listen to her. What about Abhir though. What is his fault in all this?. She has seen how drawn Abhir is towards Abhi. Lets accept she doesnt Abhir's to be heart broken because Abhi is getting married and she doesnt want Ruhi to be hurt. But we havent seen her contemplate this at all. I just feel she has only been thinking about her perspective not Abhir. She is happy to live in fear for life.
Share your thoughts please. Most of you know this is something I have not been able to digest at all. As you can see I am still having issues.
When he's older, maybe they'd tell him when he can digest the dynamics.
Look at the way they played the circumstances. When abhi came to Kasauli, it was a shocker for both sides and him not being apologetic about anything and not remembering her calls pissed her. He didn't even ask once was there any consequence of that MC on your baby's birth and growth? It was very basic decency.
Cut to her coming to Udaipur, had this whole unnecessary marriage track not been brought up and Abhi & Abhir had bonded like in Kasauli...she would have even given it a thought. Now it's the worst circumstance, her worst nightmare is coming true. Her sister who many people kept saying was his perfect match is getting married to him, they found everything out at the party & mind you she's a bystander. Both families take her as a come and go relative who maybe around for a few days, that's all.
The elders were happy when she was leaving pre kalash Puja.
Again, it's the circumstances that don't even give her a choice to think about bringing out the truth. Say she brings it out, in her head Abhi rejecting Abhir after that and still marrying Arohi would be worser than the past. Her thinking he rejected them once already pre leap is not wrong.
Morally, If you can't be there for your wife and child during childbirth..or rather not even hear once what's being tried to be conveyed....how bad is it? Say what we may, the physical and mental troubles in those months can only sail smoothly when there's balance and support on the other side.
Should she say the truth and let the individuals decide for themselves? Yes
Is it unfair for Abhir? Yes
Is the timing right? No
Does she have anyone to backup on if the truth comes out and Arohi is left off alone again? Mostly not!
Does she owe Abhi the truth? Maybe, it's a moral obligation not legal after what they did with her post MC. Had there been minor signs of regret, maybe she would have let loose. Now she does not find the motive to say the truth.
Nisha, she's a mom of a 5 year old. When she's thinking for herself she's also thinking for her son. The boy is too young to understand any of this. Then goes the fundamental question of how much right does the mother have over a child? Since he's a minor and she was thrown out emotionally and legally after her MC, would any woman not hesitate? Are there any signs for her clearly to even try tell the truth to someone? Plus the level of hate MM has poured from the second she's laid her eyes on her!
It'll all bounce back on Akshu only sadly to a large extent when the truth comes out but she has to stand by her choices. She did what she thought was the best of what she could do. What others think is irrelevant, a mother won't harm her child's innocence knowingly; Akshu would never rather. People can judge her away, a mother's instinct is her instinct for her baby atleast till he's a teen. It's just a tale of choices and perspectives.
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